Do you keep secrets well?

@winterose (39887)
Canada
March 11, 2007 12:06am CST
I used to be able to keep secrets when somebody told me something they didn't want others to know. But a couple of times recently I have noticed I blurted it out without intending to. Sometimes I could put in a good save but other times it was too late it came out. Can you keep a secret? or do you prefer not to know about secrets? I am not talking necessarily about bad things here, It could be that your child bought a special birthday gift for you spouse and told you but you had to keep the secret, can you do it?
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@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
My mom always told me i was good to keep secrets, that if someone tells me a secret they don't want anyone else to know, i will take it to my grave. I still am the same way, but i haven't gotten any secrets confided in me recently, but i don't think i'd blurt them out though. I believe when someone confides in you, no matter what the secret, it is your duty as a friend, sister, confidant, to keep their secret, as you hope they'd keep yours if you told them one.
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• Philippines
12 Mar 07
this is one thing my friends can rely on. I can definitely keep secrets.
@deeeky (3667)
• Edinburgh, Scotland
11 Mar 07
The only person that can keep a secret is oneself. As soon as you tell anyone then it is no longer a secret and that person will surely tell someone else and then that person will tell and so on and so on.
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@nangel78 (1454)
• United States
11 Mar 07
It depends on the subject matter and who it comes from to be honest for me. As others here have said, if it is something bad that I do not need to know about, then I prefer now knowing. If someone needs to talk to me about something important and they do not want others to know, I will not say anything.
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• United States
11 Mar 07
Secrets just seem to be trouble for me. Most of the time my mouth outruns my brain. Birthday secrets however, seem to be rather easy for me because, well, I can't remember birthdays, anniversaries, etc. The secrets I tend to really foul up are the ones where I have a role in the secret -- like with my kids. And usually, it's not that I blurted out the secret...I forgot about it along with the birthday.
@angel_690 (208)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I am good at keeping everyone elses secrets but when it comes to my own stuff I always let the cat out of the bag.
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@rima0013 (441)
• Iran
11 Mar 07
hi WinterRose... i have a bad behaviour about this...lot's of the time my friends truste me and say about their life but SOME TIMES i can't keep their secrets in my heart... it's not good but i'm trying to solve my problem... so glad if you can help me...thnx.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
I don;t know how much I can help you. |Let them know that you have trouble keeping secrets and you might spill it out though you don't mean to, and then they will decide if they still want to tell you or not. Or you can tell them you really don't want to hear any secret because you don't want to be responsible for keeping it. Or you can train yourself to talk only about yourself and not somebody else then you will not tell another person's secret.
@rima0013 (441)
• Iran
13 Mar 07
thnx alot for your help.
• Canada
11 Mar 07
I really keep secret well, so many times people have trusted me and always i have keeped their promise.
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@patootie (3592)
11 Mar 07
I've got things I was told in secret that I have kept secret for dozens of years .. it's one of the things I just can't seem to break .. if I'm told a secet I never retell it .. unless the person who told me then tells other folks so that it's no longer a secret .. if you see what I mean .. and even then I don't really saying I know about it .. I mean there was the time I was told all about .... ohhh I see .. hmm you haven't been told about it .. ahhh well .. I can't tell you then can I .. it's a SECRET !! heheh !!
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@villageanne (8553)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I am very good at keeping secrets. I am very compassionate and have a good listening ear. I am the one that friends come to when they need a trusting sholder to cry on.
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@lynninky (491)
• United States
11 Mar 07
YES I COULD IF THE CHILD BOUGHT IT BUT WHEN I BUY IT I WANT TO LET HIM KNEW WHAT IT IS. I HAVE TO WAIT AND BUY GIFTS RIGHT BEFORE THE DAY OR I WILL BREAK DOWN AND TELL THEM WHAT THEY ARE OR GIVE IT TO THEM. MY BAD!!!! COULD I AM GOOD AT KEEPING OTHERS SECRETS BUT NOT MY OWN.mY FRIEND TOLD ME A SECRET 15 YEARS AGO. THE OTHER DAY IT CAME OUT AND I WAS ASKED WHY I NEVER TOLD ANYONE.I SAID BECAUSE YOU TOLD ME NOT TO.WE WERE 7 YEARS OLD AT THE TIME SHE TOLD ME THAT SECRET.IT WAS SOMETHING I SHOULD HAVE TOLD BUT SHE TOLD ME NOT TO. I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN AN OPEN BOOK AND GUESS I ALWAYS WILL BE.
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I could keep a gift a secret, but I agree, things seem to want to pop out more easily now. I personally prefer not to know a secret, I don't really like to keep secrets, heck, I have trouble keeping my own secrets!!!
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• India
11 Mar 07
if someone ask you to keep it secret then you should keep it as a secret. but at times it happens like you are in completely different community where people dosent know anything about people in other community. then if u find the secret was very interesting and you want to share it with someone then you can do that without disclosing the name. i think that will harm anyone.
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11 Mar 07
yes, i beleive that i can keep secrets, and i would like to think that people can trust me keeping there secrets
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• Canada
11 Mar 07
I do my darndest to keep a secret, but I am only human. Tonight, for example, when I saw an engagement ring advertized I almost said something to my mother about something else, but caught myself just in time because I really didn't want to have to answer questions. 99% of the time I can guard it with my life, the rest of the time I can catch it as it's about to slip out.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
yep same here
@suscan (1955)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I am good at keeping secrets. I always say if I ever told all the secrets I know I could start a war.I am the oldesty of 8 siblings and throught differences I am usually the neutral ground. So every body usually comes to ma and tells me their secrets I will soemtiems tell secrets if I think it will work to settle a disagreement. Otherwise I just listen to what I am told and keep it to myself.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
but a secret was asked by the person to be kept secret, it is not like just a conversation where nothing was said at all about it one way or another.
@Kevindu62 (329)
• France
11 Mar 07
Yes, I can maintain a secrecy but that depends if the secrecy some low register things or not. :) good luck
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
it was only once or twice that I spilled it out and nothing bad, so it wasn't anything.
@roque20 (518)
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
i thik i prefer not to know about the other people secrets. i dont know why but thats my thinking..i usually keep secrets but sometimes i dont want to hear bad secrets..how about you?
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
I know alot of stuff about people that they haven't told others because they are embarrassed or feel guilty, but because I am a therapist I try to help them with there issues.
@amitksing (1323)
• India
11 Mar 07
Yes. I have the ability to keep secrets and its very rare that I blurt out any secret that I am supposed not to do. My girlfriends says I am an introvert and so I love to keep secrets. This is true, there are some things that I havent shared with anybody till date, not with my family and not even with my girlfriend. I also like surprising people by keeping some secrets just like one you told, giving a surprise gift and keep that thing secret untill the correct time arrives.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
good for you
@faraza (159)
• Malaysia
11 Mar 07
it depends on the secret. i am not good at keeping secret. before i got married, keeping secrets is the most difficult things to do especially if it involves my good friend. if the secret is funy and worth sharing, i would tell it to my best friend. but if it involves dignity or something like that, i'll keep it to myself. Nowadays i only share secrets with my husband(only secrets that doesn't involve his/my family).
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
that is a good thing, when you don't get involved, but also it is nice when people confide in you as well.