My doctor won't listen to me!

yea doctors can suck. I remember one time, I was about 15 and very far from fat, I was actually right at normal weight for my height, etc if you go by the charts. I said I wasn't feeling well and the doctor looked at me, not examined me, just looked at me and said "you need to lose weight, you're fat and don't exercise !!" This was the first time I had ever seen this doctor and all he knew about me was what I had filled out on the forms. I had waited 45 min in the waiting area, then another 30 in the room, sitting on the table with just a dressing gown on. He accused me of banging on the walls, which I had heard and thought it was a child in the next room. Needless to say, I never went back. I feel for you, I know how hard finding a good doctor is. Good luck !!

Evedently he is not interested in what you have to say or your concerns so I would find a better doctor asap. You don't want someone who is supposed to take care of you who doesn't listen. After all you are the client and you are paying him. That is part of his job.

Been there...I waited once with chest pains for hours...when the Doctor finally came into the room he did not check a single thing on me, just told me he guessed it might be a pulled muscle, gave me some pills and told me goodbye within under 5 minutes

If I'd gone to see the doctor I wouldn't have left his room until I had said all I needed to say .. I always have so much that I make a list so I don't miss anything .. and so that I can get it all out as quick as possible .. But, my docs are very good .. and generally are delighted to see the list .. that way we can just work through it (I always put the most important at the top) .. and they know I will go away happy and not need to see them again for a while ..

Doctors have patients waiting in the waiting room and if each patient wanted to spend time with a "list of questions" then it would drag out the time all the way down the line. To discuss such a list, you need to set up an appointment for a "consultation." You can ask a few questions during an office visit, but you have to realize that time is of the essence and there would be a riot outside in the waiting room if patients could sit down and discuss at will all the questions of a lifetime during a doctor's office appointment. You pay more for "consultation time", but that is where you can set aside up to one hour of discussion time with the doctor.

I think that you have to talk with your doctor and explain your thoughts and the decide if you still want to change the doctor or continues with him. be specific in your needs and feelings when you talk with the doctor, he needs to be a good listener and understand that you need more time to explain your feelings or doubts.

That was really very frustrating coz i have experienced almost the same situation. I had some stomach upset 2 years ago and to be sure of my condition i planned to consult a doctor, however, the one recommended by my brother had a lot of patients and i have to wait for about 5 days before i could be scheduled. I went to another doctor instead and when i started to explain my conditions, he was already writing the prescription. He never did anything to check my stomach or even referred a physical or lab exam but just wrote the prescription and told me to come back after a week. I barely had 3 mins in his clinic, so before i went out i asked him if he could refer some doctors who has the same line of expertise as him. By that, i guess i made him understand that i was looking for a more professional consultation. He never mentioned any names but told me to better ask his secretary.. which of course i didn't do. lol!

Well that is not good I would recommend going to another doctor and getting the doctor to listen to you otherwise your health could be at risk. Some doctors are in this business for the money alone, or you better phone the health department to complain.

I feel for you and I understand. I had a similar experience happen to me a couple of years ago. I had my list of things to talk to him about (as I've heard it suggested, so you don't forget things). He thought I might be have gallbladder trouble, and told me we're not going to talk about the other stuff, we need to deal with this right now. It ended up not being my gallbladder, but a kidney stone instead, I still wish he had listened to the other things I wanted to talk about. I'm lucky in that the family practice I go to has several doctors, so the next time I went, I told them I wanted a different doctor, I won't even let my husband or children go see that doctor. If you do try to find a new doctor, I would suggest looking for a practice with more than one doctor, so you can change to another more easily if one doesn't treat you the way you want. You have to feel comfortable with your doctor, so you'll feel more at ease talking to them.

I'm so sorry you have had a bad experience with this doctor, they are not all like this however. Ok, so they are busy people, but my doctor always seems to find the time to talk. Perhaps you could check around in your area and see if you can find a more understanding doctor at a different practice. Hope this helps

most of the doctors are like that. I myself experiences that always. it seems that their time is very precious. i have a niece-doctor, a derma, who takes time to explain it to her patients that seems interested to listen

I know how you feel. They either just only have time to see you for 5 minutes then they are off to the next patient. Our family doctor hadn't even finished with my son and was already seeing the next patient. I had to ask the nurse twice to go and ask her what her recommendations were for the two questions I had asked her at the beginning of his appointment. I thought it was very rude of her to do that.

u have to cope with it but let me tell u one thing doctors know our body in technical terms and they often don't feel the need to telling u everything like what they feel the actual problem is or otherwise

I to had the same issue....You could try to have all your Questions written down on paper as he/she will see there are a few Questions you would like to talk about! I hope that all goes well... Take care Stacy

I agree with you.nowadays the medical profession has also become like a business. Doctors want to try and cover as many patients as possible to make more money. Gone are the days when the doctors actually spent considerable time with their patients to explain about thier diseases. i had recently gone to my dermatologist for a skin infection. He prescribed some medications but when i asked him why this happened and what he is giving me to treat he was like you just do as i say. Dont bother about the why and how. This was pretty disappointing as I expected the dr to explain to me what was happening so i could avoid it in the future.

well dont be ..there are many doctors just check it out..ask for personal referral to make sure then..

Well, that is frustrating, and you should definitely try to find a doc who will listen. But I don't think he's trying to get more money out of you....reimbursements for repeat appointments are awful. He is probably just totally stressed. Still not an excuse to not listen to you though. :(

I understand where you are coming from. I've gone through the exact same thing when I went to see my doctor for a check up. I wanted to talk to him about my heart burn that I get so frequently, along with something that was going on with my scalp.. And he didn't really even pay attention to what I was saying.. He never listened to the signs I was giving him about my heart burn so he could figure out what type of medication to give me.. He just ended up cutting me off & writing me a prescription for whatever it was that he thought was best without even listening to the signs I was giving him or how I was feeling in general. When it came to my scalp I needed him to look at it.. And he almost look startled to take a look at my scalp almost like he thought I had some type of disease.. When in reality I just needed him to look at it so I knew how to get rid of it with some type of shampoo or lotion or something along those lines.. I also left like you my appointment absolutely furious. I had a pap test to get done the next month & cancelled my appointment because I just didn't feel comfortable going to see him again. He made me feel like when I was there that he never cared about me as a patient. Nor did he take the time out to really explain things to me thoroughly. For me when I go & visit a doctor I expect them to do these things, I hold them as very important. I think any doctor who isn't willing to do this for one of there patients.. Shouldn't be a doctor at all. They got involved in a job you would think that they would care about the well-being of there patients they have to see each day, or even monthly or yearly. I know that I am looking for a new doctor as well, but like you.. Sadly I am not able to find any doctors who are willing to take 'new patients' as of recently.. It's quite disappointing that a lot of doctors are doing this as I do believe that they should be willing to take anyone in.. Not just choose whoever they want to see.. I just think that is some-what unfair.. As a lot of people are looking for new doctors sometimes & more doctors in my opinion should be willing to take in new patients at any time.. I just don't understand why people would want to be in that profession if they aren't willing to accept new patients who are in need of a doctor at that time.. The only advice I can give you is.. To keep on looking. That's the only thing I am able to do.. Maybe try to be more persistent, but sometimes even doing that doesn't really get you any results.. Try to call different clinics or doctors offices to see if they are taking new patients.. Don't give up.. You deserve a doctor who will be willing to listen to your concerns or whatever it is that you need to talk to him/her about.. Instead of ignoring your concerns.. I know I am looking for the same thing.. Don't settle until you come across a doctor who will make you feel comfortable each time you go in to visit him.. I wish you all the best of luck.. I am going through the exact same thing so don't feel alone.. I am sure there are a lot of people who are going through this these days.. Just keeping on looking & don't give up until you find a doctor that makes you feel comfortable.. And who is willing to listen to you as a patient at the same time! . . Thanks for allowing me to share! xx

If you don’t like your doctor and you don’t trust him and you just feel that he just wants your money, then I suggest you go find another doctor. I too would want to be able to discuss things with my doctor and I don’t want to feel that I’m being rushed. You will just be wasting your time if you stay with the same doctor because you don’t get what you want from him.

HI, u r doctor is not only the person in the world who is making the money but all the doctors r the same but some of are very good. But we r not the psychatist to know whether who is good or not. so find for new doctor and wait until u find for the best. byeeeeeeeee