March 12, 2007 7:43am CST
We all went through some rough stuff in our childhoods and adolescences and in a great many cases our parents may have "dropped the freaking ball!" and not done the most efficient, effective, nor enriching job of parenting you. However as an adult I think that doing things to nurture and "raise" your inner child up to be a happy and emotionally healthy person as you do your children is a very neccessary and worthwhile endeavor to engage in.
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12 Mar 07
Nobody was born with perfect parenting skills. Now, even though we have seminars on parenting it doesn't mean that people will never make mistakes as parents. I always had problems relating with my mom. Even now, all the hurts and frustrations which I lived with when I was young is still difficult to erase and the anger still surfaces when she says or does something which brings back memories. The only thing that helps me deal with it is to try to see things from the perspective of an adult and now with kids who are also looking to me (as an aunt) for help and comfort, I realise how much wisdom I need to try not to make the same mistakes and say the right things and to make them feel secure and loved even when they are scolded or being corrected. I believe that communication is very important and telling them that I love them even when they have done something wrong is crucial. Still, there are no guarantees that they will not feel resentment at times or rebel against authority. We can only do our best, just like our parents did - or at least parents who have their children's interest at heart.
• United States
9 Feb 08
Your problems with your mom and my problems with my mom are probably totally different. Because my problem with my mom is that her boyfriend molested me for 5 years after she and my dad split and she refused to believe me then or now when my inner child cries out that she should have protected me rather than punishing me for telling "nasty, viscious, mean lies" she thought that I was just being viscious because of the divorce and she thought that I didnt want her to be happy, when I could have cared less as long as she wasn't with a child molester! My outer child did not get much of a childhood from age 8 on so I work at this activity often. Giving my inner child the childhood that I really wish that I had had, safe and loved.
12 Mar 07
Absolutely .... but how many do that ? We all are influenced by our environment and what are parents did we will probably do .. but not to the same extreme if we have searched our souls and minds .... we dont know any other way unless we have had someone example to follow ... but that is a good start ..healing ones own inner child ....
• United States
9 Feb 08
nurturing the inner child is not about tantrums, tantrums from your inner child are it's growing pains as it struggles for recognition and an outlet from within you. Next time you feel an inner child tantrum coming on, go down to the park and swing on the swings,. Or ride the merry go round (with or without your children.) or put one or two (depending on size) of your children on the teeter totter and just act like a little kid again. Just for a little while. You'll find that this really releases stress and helps to put your world back in perspective.