How long will it take to heal a broken heart?

Philippines
March 13, 2007 12:53am CST
It was really funny, to ask this question rather.Going through this experience wasnt easy for me to move on.I mean doing all possible diversities just to mend two broken hearts.Maybe you guys are thinking that ive been through so much hurt.Actually it was already 4 years ago, four long years, and yet the pain is still fresh.Maybe i kept on thinking and it lingers in my thoughts, and i have a bit regrets of doing things which ended up our relationship so early, but it was ok.I have move on now and the pain is gone, and it would be very unfair for my partner if i would keep on thinking on my past.For you guys, how long will it take to heal a broken heart?Do it remains forever?Please share some views and experiences
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@urbangirl (1461)
• Australia
13 Mar 07
It usually depends on how long I know the person and how deep the relationship. I found that as I got older, it was easier for me to move on. When you're younger and things are fresh and new it does seem to take ages to get over a broken heart. No, I do not think a broiken heart remains forever...the pain does go away with time.
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• Philippines
13 Mar 07
Yes i agree with you, because i believe that time will heal all wounds.In time those pain will go away and everyday is a new beginning.thnaks!
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@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
Time heals pain, it's true but it just an indicator for you to move to life. It's a matter of acceptance and forgiveness.Inspite of how many years have passed and still you were not able to forgive and forget, still you would say you where not healed as time goes on. So its a matter of acceptance to yourself to say that your broken heart was healed and mend.It will always be a part of the past and it will always be in your heart till forever but accepting the reality for you to move and look for the bright side of life ahead. Like you i was once feel the same as if my world goes upside down because the man i truly love was married to another girl, that hurts me badly, spending sleepless nights but i was able to move on and find another love because im willing to forgive and forget and see life in a different way.It was 15 years ago but as if it happened just recently though it would always flashes to my memory but i have forgiven him in my heart and happy to have now the man who truly deserves my love...my hubby and blessed with a cutie son.:D
@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
13 Mar 07
I am not sure abput what you have been through and what caused your heart to be broken. I know thatit took me about a year to mend my heart and about another year to start trusting again. After mending your heart it is still fragil and can easily be broken again. atleast that´s what i think!
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
13 Mar 07
Well on the 21 of this month will be a year since my divorce and my marriage was on the 20 of the Month in 2004. I still think about him it is hard to forget I mean he moved right down the roasd from me with his ex wife and in my small town I see hm and her so it is going to take me awhile and alot of prayer.
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
13 Mar 07
Yes, 4 long years is a long time when you have a broken heart I had a broken heart but I still tried to get on with my own life I always thought of the man that I left and what a stupid mistake I had made it took me really around 20 long years to really forget about him, and to get on with my own life.
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@kurtbiewald (2629)
• United States
14 Mar 07
mine doesn't heal I still lust after somebody from like 25 years ago. Never slept with her, just wanted to and made some magic. Thats how it always goes with me. Maybe if a had fireplace and just sit in nature it might be better.
• China
14 Mar 07
Please keep in mind life is not the one you want to be. We should bear many things.Life will go on if you enjoy it.
@charms88 (7546)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
Hi fairygreen...let me tell you one thing, I am married for 8 years already but I still can't forget my one and only EX boyfriend. Everytime I remember him, the pain will resurface again. Like it was just yesterday that we've been together. The thing is, I have to move on. It is difficult, yes I know that...but we can't go back to our past now. We can only put those memories in our heart. I wish I can put in a better words for you, so you will know that you're not alone in feeling this way. It will be like we're lying with our present partner if we continue reflecting on our past. Sweetheart, move on forward...
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
Thank you for those nice thoughts.
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
I think there is no approximate days, months or years it will take before a broken heart will be healed. But i think that when the times comes that you have accepted that fact that he/she is not yours anymore, or you've forgiven him/her. That's the time you're healed. Time can heal. And love is an ultimate thing. So i think if you really love someone it will take very long before you move-on. It's okay to be heartbroken but remember that life goes on. You, as human has limitations, i dont think that it will take forever. Your only human so can also get tired.
@NiKe_bOi (166)
• Singapore
26 Mar 07
Well.. that depends on how deeply u love that person.. the deeper you love.. the harder to get over.. the harder for the heart to heal.. and also it depends what you do.. did you stop the bleeding or continue to let the person to rip your wound bigger..
@vicky19810 (1601)
• China
26 Mar 07
lol...it is a funny post,but i can not say clearly about this matter.i had a experience of being broken heart.at that moment ,i felt very very sad and painful.it seemed that all things would be in end.for about three months,i was in a bad mood and fettle.but luckily,i am a optimistic girl,and i found my happy life soon.lol...maybe he is not my another in my life,so i can give up completely.
• Kuwait
25 Mar 07
well it depents on how strong you are and how you deal with the pains you are going through. life has its own design to everyone..
@pava1326 (130)
• India
25 Mar 07
it depends on type of person. some time it takes months sometime years. but its not impossible. its just the matter of trying.
21 Mar 07
i take one week to heal it...:(
@coolchai (703)
• Philippines
18 Mar 07
sometimes it will just take forever for a heart to get healed. the healing process will really depend on you.if you want to be healed or not. if you want to be healed, you will do almost everything to get healed and sometimes you dont get healed right away. if you just ignore the fact you have a broken heart, you will not absolutely get healed at all. Goodluck!
@20031969 (934)
• India
17 Mar 07
really it is very difficult to answer straightforward. if you love ones from your heart deeply (suppose for the last 20 years or more to your friend, beloved etc. )and he / she brokes your feelings then it is difficult to overcome. it may be possible that you got heart attack also. so there is no certain period for and the only way is that we should concentrate more and more on our work. when the time passed slowly , it will graduly come down. thanks.
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
16 Mar 07
i think it will take eternity, for some all it will take is to find someone to mend the heart. it all depends on how one reacts to situations
@DavidReedy (2411)
• United States
15 Mar 07
It takes a different amount for everyone, but you need to simply start forgiving (pain/hurt is simply inverted anger--to a large degree)yourself and others. Find new ways to find joy--focus on the beautiful things in your life. And if you can't get happy and move on, on your own, do not be too ashamed to get counseling. Peace and Love your way. David A. Reedy...
@magnel (2263)
• India
14 Mar 07
I know it is very difficult to let go of the past... It took me atleast 2-3 years to move on... but it totally depends on how quick you realize, or you get someone else who would love you more...
@kring_m (107)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
i also had the same question before. i had a relationship for 4 years and i thought that that was my last relationship because we really loved each other that time. but when i got busy in school, and i was not around to see or watch his games, then i felt this instinct that he was flirting some other girl. so we broke up and it was hard to move on. i was bitter then. I was even calling him "honey" knowing that he's not mine anymore. i just realized one day that moving on is not that difficult. it was a hard decision but its for my own good. Communication plays a very big role in every relationship. if you want to stay together, never fail to give each other a call. But if you want to move on, communication also is the key.. don't communicate with him/her at all. :) that's what i did. ;)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
well, for me it takes only 1 - 6 months before i move on. When the other party is guilty its only 1 month for me but if i am the one guilty it takes the maximum of 6 mos before i forgive myself and it depends on the intensity of guilt.