Don't avoid conflict and confrontation with your spouse

Sometimes, it is hard for me to tell my husband personally how I feel. Most of the times if I hate him I just text it in cellphones or email, or write a letter. I hateto discuss it because sometimes he does not listen to me. And it seems that he has a problem when I can find a mistake in him because he will tell me that it was my fault. So most of the time that we confront we end up hating each other and have a quarrel. But now, we are trying to be a good listener. But we are still trying to listen to each other.

well i dont avoid any confrontation regarding some problems that may arise in our family but i do it in a nice and peaceful way..not on the reverse which i think will make the matter worsts..

yeah, when a couple can fight WHILE they love each other , thats when true growing and changing and connecting can happen most when they are both happy and melting and at ease, its easy then when they are hurting, lost, feeling betrayed, and they still manage to connect, thats the most important