where is your first love now?

@secretbear (19472)
Philippines
March 15, 2007 1:15am CST
do you have a first love? i had my first love when i was 16. yeah i know its puppy love, but i cant forget how much emotion i felt that time! it was really intense and i really cried ocean then!^__^ its been almost 10 years and we dont have any communication. the last thing i heard was he was working with a non-government agency that has something to do with microfinance. what about you? do you have a first love? where is he/she right now?
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62 responses
• Australia
15 Mar 07
I was 16 and we were together for three years. I still talk to him on occasion, see him if we are in the same state. We're still good friends.
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
really? thats amazing. i think its kinda rare that ex-lovers remain good friends after what happened to them. its nice that you're still friends with him. me and my first lovers are not. we didnt end up that nice. ^__^
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• India
15 Mar 07
I had my first love at the age of 16....its not love actually....its infactuation.....but we had a fight nd got seperated....she is now married nd leading a happy life...i hope so...me too hav no thoughts of that love...
@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
infatuations are easy to forget..
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@brendakaya (2335)
• United States
18 Sep 07
Gee, I don't know where he's at. He was a good looking guy. However, he cheated on me, so he turned out to be quite a jerk. lol I last heard that he married the girl, he cheated on me with, and they had several kids, and he was cheating on her. Guess she was a lucky girl. lol
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
hey brendie! I was just telling william that we were on a same boat but I guess, now there's the 3 of us. LOL we were so unfortunate that our first loves cheated on us but we are fortunate that we didn't end up with them. ^__^;; oh, I guess that's true for both of you since you're already married, but I'm not yet married and I have no idea who I'm going to end up with but for sure I wouldn't want it with my first love. LOL take care brendle boop! ^__^
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• United States
19 Sep 07
It's good that you're not married, already. You have time to choose wisely. I am also glad that I didn't end up with my first love, but I ended up with somebody just as bad. lol
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
well.. some people still agree with me fo not being married yet and for enjoying my single life, but there are a few who feels that I am getting "left out" and I'm not getting any younger according to them and they are scaring me with the thought that if I "postpone" having a child on a late age, when the kid grow up, I will look like his/her grandmother and not a mother. LOL they have a point but what can I do? I don't have a bf (by choice) and I'm still enjoying having no responsibility. ^__^ I do plan to get married and have a baby but not now. i'll come to that eventually. ^__^
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@abhiteja (146)
• India
15 Mar 07
ya i hav my first love at my age of 18 as i hav srarted 18 my mind started thinking well abt love. so now i am in love....... is tat love succeeded or not i will be knowning soon......
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
you're inlove right now?? wow. goodluck to you! ^__^
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@garyeye (203)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
Mine was when I was 12 or 13 years old and that after an eternity of waiting, frustration, and giving up she is now my best friend.
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
Wow! you had your first love when you were just 12/13??? i was still only concerned of games when i was in that age. ^__^;;
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• United States
16 Mar 07
I literally grew up with my first love across the street from me. For a few years I hung around with her brother and didn't have too much interest in her. So I thought. When I was 14 and her 13 I began to notice her more. Like you said puppy love. I'd walk with her to school but usually walked home with my buddies. We giggled and teased for about a year and a half until my 16th birthday. That's when after my party we went outside and just as she was crossing the street to go home, she came back and kissed me on the cheek. That was a big step for us because we hung out with totally different crowds. Let's just say I hung around a crowd her parents didn't approve of, at all. We got quite a bit closer over the next several months until her father found out and that was pretty much it. Except for talking to her until late at night either sitting at the street corner or if I was laying on the hood of her father's car late at night. He would usually come out and chase me back across the street. As much as we wanted it to be it wasn't going to happen. We started dating other people and after I graduated high school I moved away to college. I am sick to my heart that I never went back for her. To the best of my knowledge she's married with a child or two and the worst part is I found out she lives about 3 states west from me. Her name is Maryjo. That is a name forever burned on my heart. Just thinking about her at this moment chokes me up. I brought this up briefly in one of my discussions about religion being a factor in determining who you may end up with. ‹(°¿°)›
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
awww... that's so sad. its really hard to forget our first love right? i remember a lot of things too about my first love, our memories then. but lucky me unlike you, it doesnt make me sad anymore. in fact, i just laugh at it every now and then. how sad.. it seems you still feel something for her.. how many years had it been already? i think you're not just meant for each other.
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• United States
16 Mar 07
It's been too many years and we both have our own lives. I would never think of contacting her now. From time to time I'll think of her and either smile from ear to ear or get a bit choked up at what might have been. Though I didn't mention her specifically in my discussion about religious differences keeping people from getting married. It was our story I was referring to. Her parents would have never stood for us getting married. Considering we were still very young, it was doomed from the start. Celui qui soit soyez, (whatever will be will be) best translation I can give from French. ‹(°¿°)›
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
Oh, so its a religious issue. I find it really ridiculous that religion sometimes become an issue between partners. HOw come religion, which i think is always "pro-love", can become a hindrance to love? its absurd. that's hard to pronounce! "que sera sera" is much easier. means the same thing. ^__^
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
24 Sep 07
i had my 1st love at age 17 but broken up just after 3 days.. Maybe its our age difference (she's 14) that make us broke.. Since then i have never heard from her again and the last i heard about her was in 8 yrs ago..
@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
hi kun! ^__^ so you had your first love when you were 17?? isnt puppy love the sweetest love of all?? ^__^ because we were still innocent then and we had sincere feelings. ^__^
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
2 Oct 07
yes, its sweet and equally heart breaking too when i lost her because it's my 1st time.. hehe ;)
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
5 Oct 07
I think if were really inlove and something bad happens like breaking up, it will always hurt. but the first time hurts more because we've never experienced love before and first time to get hurt. ^__^
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
15 Sep 07
i dont know where he is... maybe he still on the province and married too like me, or maybe hes out of the country... i dont have any idea
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
18 Sep 07
are you not the least bit interested on knowing how is he doing? ^__^
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@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
18 Sep 07
hmmmmmm... i am interested to know about him... i am excited coz he was my first love you know... i still want to see him one day and ask him what happened why he didnt reply to my letters.... i would love to know it all although we cant bring back the times that we are together as lovers
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
yeah. I think it would be fun to have a chat with our first love. talk about the old times and maybe have a laugh and finally bury the heartaches and all those negative feelings. ^__^
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• Philippines
24 Sep 07
Yes I had my first love, unfortunately we broke up almost three months ago, I also cried ocean for him I never done that before with my other ex bf, there are still days and nights that I cried for him. But I know even if he's my first love I have to accept the reality that my first love will never be mine forever and that I can't spend the rest of my life with him. I dont know where he is now. But wherever he is I'm hoping that everything is doing great for him.
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• Philippines
25 Sep 07
im so sorry to hear that. its really very painful to let someone you love so much go. but i believe that everything happens for a reason, maybe one day you;ll meet again and be together again OR you will find the one really meant for you in due time.. God bless!!! :)
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
awww.. that's just so sad jhoana. but mayan is right. everything happens for a reason. if he is not the guy for you then there's definitely a much better man waiting for you out there. ^__^
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
Thanks for your comment it is really a great help.
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@lani0529 (1726)
• Philippines
18 Sep 07
Hello secretbear!(",) This topic of your is very intriguing. I'm guilty of reading other mylotters responses and I did enjoy it very much. I'm sorry I have nothing to share about this topic because I don't have experience anything I can consider first love. It's good that others are still friends with their first love even if they have not ended up with each other. Just enjoy reminiscing those happy moments together and leave the hurts written in the sand where it will be washed away. Great day!(",)
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
hi lani! oh dont be ashamed you read all their responses. this is a public thread so feel free to read anything. ^__^ goodluck to you when you finally feel love for the first time. ^__^
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@lani0529 (1726)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
Thank you secretbear!(",) For sure, my Prince Charming will find me very soon. Maybe he was lost during his search for me.hehehehe I still believe that God is weaving the best love story for me.
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
hi lani! ^__^ i wish our prince charmings would enter our life soon. he could ask for directions if he got lost in his way. LOL and i also wish God is weaving a very romantic love story for us. ^__^
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• India
16 Sep 07
hiii secretbear, i am glad that you actually got over the pain of leaving your first love.but i would say i am lucky enough that i didn't face any such situation till now and hope not to either.initially i was very dumb kind of person,so i hadn't any boyfriends at that time.even if anybody shows some sign of getting into relationships with me i ignore.i was more concentrated on my studies. i had my first love,and last also,when i was 20.though it wasn't from my side but gradually i developed a liking for him due to his caring attitude and behaviour towards me.and still i am continuing with my relationship.its been 3 long years.we had our engagement recently 2 months back and i am going to marry him soon.thats my story.a bit silly and funny.lol...
@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
that's not a silly story, its sweet! ^__^ I think you're a late bloomer that's why you only fell in love at the age of 20. and I know you're a very responsible women so you put your studies first as your top priority and only gave love a time when you got "older". I am happy for you rinku! best wishes and good luck to both of you!
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• India
26 Sep 07
thanks secretbear for all those sweet and appreciative words.
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
5 Oct 07
you're very much welcome rinku! ^__^
@clemere (179)
• Indonesia
15 Sep 07
yes I have.ten years ago until now,she's just my lover.and we very happy now.
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
that's great. its amazing how a love can survive long years. ^__^ I guess your love is true. goodluck!
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@clemere (179)
• Indonesia
19 Sep 07
thank's Sweety Girl. Good look to for you
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@clemere (179)
• Indonesia
19 Sep 07
Sorry Sweety,I mean Good luck for you. OK SWEETY GIRL.....
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@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
15 Sep 07
I was 14 when I met my first love and we dated all through high school and broke up the summer before i went off to college. He didn't finish high school and last I knew he had spent a few years in prison on and off while I graduated college. He was a sweetheart, but he just couldn't stay out of trouble. I am so glad that he didn't influence me or halt my education. I think I had a pretty good head on my shoulders and I knew better.
@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
18 Sep 07
im sure you are. ^__^ i must say you have a very good sense of responsibility that's why you didnt get influenced by him. but its just kinda sad that you didnt influence him.. right? do you ever think that if you didnt break up, his fate would have gone the opposite? do you think he'd graduated college too if you didnt break up?? ^__^
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@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
18 Sep 07
Yes i think his life probably could've been better, but it was hard because we talked on the phone all the time, but were only able to see eachother on the weekends in the beginning and he had other influences that he was listening to and hanging with. I just couldn't keep up.
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
19 Sep 07
oh that's just so sad. was it a long distance relationship? those kind of relationships are really hard to maintain. I had one too before but we simply lost communication one day and it all ended. I guess only those with true love survive that. sad thing it doesn't include us. ^__^;; I guess were just not meant for each other. and so the two of you. ^__^
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• India
16 Mar 07
my first love is the father of my 9 months old daughter. we ahd a relationship for 7 years, then we got married and are happy since now. it has been 2 years after that and we are a sweet little family and we love each other like crazy till today
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
awwww.... that's romantic! i think youre fortunate that your first love is your last. i think thats what you call destiny. ^__^
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• United States
24 Sep 07
I thought I was in Love in High school, she eventually wouldn't see me, Two years ago I found her in Classmates. com, we wrote for 1 month and decide to meet, I spent three hours talking to her, because it had been 30 yrs. I felt embassed, I gain weight, I was so slim in the 70's. I didn't know she was so short, she eventually didn't write me, so I gave up, I guess I was wrong about trying to go back to my past, time for me to move on, reinvent my self, find something else to do with my life, I guess that is why I turned to Stand Up Comedy, it's all those times of rejection, people can relate to and laugh, because it didn't hurt them, they see me as vernable, and feel good that it wasn't them that got hurt.
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
25 Sep 07
that's just so sad mark. i guess she didnt had the same feelings that she had way back. maybe she had found a new love. i've encountered people saying that comedians also harbor a lot of sadness and frustrations in life and they just cover it by making jokes and by making other people laugh. but i think you just havent found the right one for you so cheer up. ^__^ you'll find the one for you in the future.
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@jsumbing (155)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
i had mine when i was in highschool, aged 14/15, we knew each other through a common friend...we kinda hit it pretty good as friends...then i started writing her letters...love letters, (cellphones were still a luxury then)...i ended up having a box (shoebox) full of them...but the fact is, I can say that we loved each other, but never really had a chance to make it official...don't ask me why...hehe then highschool ended and we had to go our separate ways...so it just ended after a while...but i still thought of her for 3 years or so...we were able to hook up again (through the net) 2 years ago she's still in college (like me) but she already lived her dream, somewhat. She's a member of a choir and theyre joining international competitions...It was her voice that captured me at the start...we still meet occasionally (through the net, hehe) but none of the romantic stuff now...
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
huwaaaaattt??? you actually had a first one before your current one????? ^0^ have you told me about this before?? coz i cant remember something about this. i thought your mama is the one and only, your first and last. hehe..
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@jsumbing (155)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
hey, i said OFFICIALLY. well, we never got to the formalities back then...but the feelings was there..."mahal mo mahal ka, pero hindi kayo...."
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
oh... the MU thing. yeah i guess i remember you told me about that. =)
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• United States
25 Sep 07
How did you get a stranger to love you? How is it possible for your crush to love you? Sounds kind of Far-fetched to me.
• United States
25 Sep 07
"How did you get a stranger to love you?" Become no longer "a streanger"? "How is it possible for your crush to love you?" Let him/her get to know you and fall in love with you? I don't see how love is far-fetched at all.
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
gloomcookielex is right. love is not far fetched. it can happen to anyone under any circumstances. unless you're not willing to love somebody. love becomes far fetched if a person refuses to love, if he denies love. ^__^
• Canada
28 Mar 07
I met my first love 6 years ago. I thought I had been inlove before but realized I wasn't. I am now married to him and we are celebrating our 1 year anniversary on the 31st :)
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• Canada
28 Mar 07
P.S. We also have a 9 month old daughter together and I couldn't be happier!
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
well congratulations in advance! ^__^ its really touching to know one happy family and it sounds that you are happy. ooh, you have a baby?? congrats! i like babies and i hope i can have one of my own too in the future. ^__^
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• Philippines
25 Sep 07
my first love is my bf right now. we've known each other for almost 7 years already and he was my crush way back in my college days. i never knew we would end up being together. he courted me almost 6 years ago and i dumped him. we have no communication for a few years but when we saw each other last year we never let each other go.. :) now we just celebrated our aniversary and so happily in love with each other. i just hope and pray that we'll stay this way for a lifetime and more.. :)
@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
that's very romantic! and its amazing how you found each others again.. after dumping him way back in college, fate still managed to throw you back together! ^__^ sweet!
@zhamvady (30)
• Philippines
24 Sep 07
oh..that first love..i'm confused who is really my first love. i had this classmate and we go along much of the time during first year in college. i had this crush on him. he transferred to another school during our second year. we text and call each other..sweet nothings you know.we even say we love each other that much but i think we just have this misconception of our feelings.then on my third year in college he returned to our school to pursue the same course as mine...that's the time he became my boyfriend...my first ever boyfriend at the age of 21(hahahaha older huh?!) at first, i found it exciting and uhmm..mixed emotions since he is my first boyfriend..but i never knew how to handle the relationship..in short, we broke up. after three months, there's this schoolmate from high school whom i met at a certain meeting of alumni homecoming. i found him nice and kind...he is my second boyfriend and hopefully the last. now, i am deeply in love with him and we are turning 4 years this coming christmas (ohhh...so sweet!)...thru him i found the true love i've been longing for... but oh..forgive me..(because everytime my first boyfriend and I meet, my heart really is like a drum..like a drum)..joke...we are friends right now and we see each other everytime there's an outing or a simple reunion.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
24 Sep 07
I had a first love. We both loved Johnny Horton, he was the singer who wrote "North to Alaska" which shows how far back in time it was. So since that was in the 1960s, I have no idea where he is now and frankly I do not care. He was a mama's boy and he probably married someone whom his mother approved.
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
25 Sep 07
LOL i would care also if my first love is like that. mama's boy is just so a turn off right??