I'd Like Your Opinion on a Diagnosis

United States
March 15, 2007 5:10am CST
My grandson lives with his mother in another state. He is 6 years old. She recently told me that the doctors had diagnosed him as being bi-polar. When he's with us, he's fine and shows no signs of anything but being a normal 6 year old boy. Do you believe that a 6 year old child can be diagnosed as being bi-polar?
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@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
16 Mar 07
i feel that bi-polar is a hard disease to diagnosis and i feel alot of doctors are misdiagnosising people with bi polar. in fact my cousin was mis diagnosised with bi polar and was put on medication for a year and half that she did not need, and it was strong meds, i know lithium was one of her meds and something else. she switched doctors because she felt like she was getting worse and together they worked to get her off the meds and she is doing so much better now. so a word of advice is tht i would ask your grandson's mother to get a second opinion.
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• United States
17 Mar 07
I agree with you so much. I believe that most childrens behavioral problems could be fixed by fixing the home environment rather than by medication. Unfortunately, my son and I have our hands tied when it comes to getting her to do anything like getting the second opinion. Thank you for responding.
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• United States
28 Mar 07
i will try...thank you for your concern
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
27 Mar 07
unfortunately since you are not her mother or now way related to her except tht she is ur grandson's moter, all you can do is suggest it to her. maybe down the road she will think of her son and do the right thing. hang in there and keep us informed.
@dhouston (417)
• United States
16 Apr 07
I know it is possile, but if you are concerned, offer to pay for a second opinion from a doctor you trust.
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• United States
22 Apr 07
yes we are actually planning that when he comes to visit over the summer..thank you
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
15 Mar 07
i do believe a six-year-old can be diagnosed as bi polar and you are lucky it has been picked up so early. One of the symptoms is an ability to be two different people dependednt upon the audience. I clever bi-polor child will respond to the way he is spoken to. What does your daughter do differently to you? Does she shout? Does she have different ideas of discipline? blessed be, hope this helps
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• United States
17 Mar 07
actually, it's my grandson as i stated...but i honestly believe that his behavioral problems stem from his home environment more than being "bi-polar". Thank you for your response
15 Mar 07
Bi polar depressions means sometimes they are really down, dark moods, so bad they can go into a state of "catatonia" where they freeze up and don't move. Other times they are Manic, and when I say manic I mean they can be so high and so "crazy" they could hurt themselves. Its like hyperactivity x 100 with Mania thats why its called Mania. Now I have no idea if its possible for a six year old boy to suffer the downs, but the hyperactivity bordering on Mania, well to be honest I do not know. Now I am not slighting you or your daughter but sometimes. Grand parents see things differently in their grandchildren. Its as if they can take a step back and see things different. Where as the parents are the ones that do all the worrying and they see things completely differently. Can you remember how you worried about your children, and yet its different with your grandchildren. I am at a loss how else to advise you, can you talk to your daughter. Does she think he might be bi polar? You know doctors are human if your daughter has any doubts perhaps a second opinion is in order. Fight a support group on the internet, do a little reading about bipolar. I was a children's nurse and I have a little knowledge from studying psychology, but these support groups can be life lines. Blessed be.
• United States
17 Mar 07
My grandson has spent time with us for days at a time, and neither I nor his father(who is my son) has had the least bit of trouble or the slightest hint of this condition. I believe the problems are the product of his home environment more than anything. That's what worries me. Thank you for responding.
@superchook (1786)
• Australia
17 Mar 07
Kids are quite often different when they are with someone else. I find mine will behave a lot better for other people than with me sometimes. If you are concerned maybe talk to the mother and see if she will get a second opinion, it never hurts to get another opinion. I hope everything works out ok for him.
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• United States
17 Mar 07
We are still trying to get the second opinion, I don't think she's going to do it though. Thank you for your concern.
@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
15 Mar 07
From what I know, six years old is a little early for a bi-polar diagnosis. It's not impossible, but it seems to me that they should explore other possibilities as well. I think it's dangerous to diagnose children with mental disorders, especially when the diagnosis involves treatment with medication. Children are still in their developmental stages, and it's possible that what the psychologist calls a mental disorder could just be a developmental problem that could be dealt with by different parenting styles or other non-medical means. I think it's just easier to pop a pill in a kid's mouth than it is to address the underlying issues. We don't really know all the long term effects of medications for mental disorders. Until we do, I don't think we should use these medications for children.
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• United States
17 Mar 07
I am in complete agreement with you. It's far too easy to give a child a "chill pill" than to make the lifestyle changes that could eliminate the problem completely. I feel that it is his home environment....it's not the kind of household that is parented very well. It makes me worry so much about his future. Thanks so much for the response.