My little boy is crying in bed right now. What should I do?

United States
March 15, 2007 9:48pm CST
I used to check on him, but for the past couple of nights, I've been letting him cry himself back to sleep. It's been almost 5 minutes or more. He fell back to sleep last night when I did this. I'll check on him in 5 more minutes if he keeps up.
6 responses
• United States
16 Mar 07
How old is your child? My 15 mo old has night terrors. He will start to cry after being asleep for about 2 hr. It happens most is he is over tired. His doctor says just check on him and make sure he is not hurt then just let him cry since w/these terrors there is nothing you can do to make them stop crying. Now if your son(under 2y/o) is crying just because he has woken up I would just go in to his room and reassure him your there and pat his back or bottom till he falls back asleep or stops crying.
• United States
16 Mar 07
Yes, he is almost 2. I've tried everything, including the checking on him. He wakes up more often when I do that. Yesterday, when I let him cry it out himself without checking on him, he slept til 3 or 4 and didn't cry in between. We will see if this is it for his sleeping pattern. I hope your son's night terrors are better.
• United States
16 Mar 07
Yes they have gotten better. They only happen if he is over tired. So I make sure he takes 2 naps everyday that way he goes to bed at night and sleeps all night till morning.
@syndibee (799)
• United States
16 Mar 07
whatever you decide to do just stay consistent. if you change your pattern then your son won't know what to expect and that won't teach him what you want him to learn. which is self soothing to go to sleep, my son just recently started sleeping thru the night. and he just turned a year old. i think he will outgrow waking up eventually if you don't want to let him cry himself to sleep.
• United States
16 Mar 07
I agree. My son goes through phases because we travel a lot. We just got back from a long weekend and immediately put him in his bed to sleep. Usually after a long trip, he is adjusted to sleeping with us so we continue at home. I guess we need to get him a bed to sleep in while we are on the go.
@ironstruck (2299)
• Canada
16 Mar 07
They can be clever those little ones....... Once they know you will come running, you are in big trouble.. Eventually, they will realize that crying won't automatically get them picked up and rocked and they will just go to sleep. The trick is to get to know the different types of crying. Once our son cried when we put him in his crib for the night and almost right away your could tell that it was a different cry than normal.. When my wife checked, she found a pin from his diaper had come undone and was sticking in him.....Those were the days when cloth diapers were used quite a lot.
• United States
16 Mar 07
that is scary! My son cries pretty heavily though. He is speaking now so he cries out "mom" and that just breaks my heart.
• United States
16 Mar 07
Well, how old is he? I've heard some people say the best thing to do is to let them cry. It will give them independance, they will get over their fear, start sleeping better. I bet if you keep doing this..by next week he will fall asleep faster without crying.
• United States
16 Mar 07
He's almost 2. He just stopped. I think you're right that within a week or so, he won't even bother waking up anymore.
@kaazzaam (133)
• India
16 Mar 07
but that is not the right way as sometimes the child may continue crying. the best way is bringing him in front of mirror, or using the sound of wind chime as the sound is so sweet that is like heaven for ear. anyone can get into sleep.
• United States
16 Mar 07
Kids are extremely clever. They'll use crying at bedtime to make the parents come running so they don't have to sleep by themselves or go to bed as early as they normally do. They'll also use crying at bedtime to get it so they can lay down with mom and dad at night so they don't have to sleep in their bed. If you always go running whenever they are crying at bedtime, they'll get so used to it and they'll always get their way. They won't learn that it's time for bed, and that they have to sleep in their own room in their bed. It's tough, but in the end, it's better to teach them independence.