how do I stop my 9 month old from nursing at night...

Your son should be in his sleeping place by now - I know it is hard but even if in the same room as you in his own cot would be better..express milk and feed from bottle during the night until he learns to sleep right through. I was very lucky my little boy never slept with me only if he was poorly..he was in a moses basket from day one and starting sleeping through night at eight weeks old..very contented! You are creating a problem for yourself by having him in bed as it will only get harder to change him to own bed the bigger he gets...make the most of cuddles during the day and just be there for him during the night if he needs you..good luck this is just one of many hurdles you will need to face.

I find this very odd, usually babies will sleep all night long around 6 months - sometimes earlier. I think because you have allowed this to go on for so long, it has become like a routine for him. My daughter is the same age, however, she sleeps in her own room - sleeps ALL night & doesn't have mid-night feeds. Perhaps the reason he feeds in the middle of the night is because he's still hungry, in that case, he may not be getting enough just from you & you really need to persist with the bottle feeds so he can maybe have a bottle feed before bed (240ml - 8oz) & that will keep him happy all night. I hope that's of some help to you!

Babykay I can't offer you much advise as I failed drasticly this time round, I put my little man in his own room 9 weeks ago (he's 15.5 months now) ( my partner hurt his leg so he couldn't get him and I slept for the first time in months so I didn't hear him), he cried a little during the first few night, but not a lot, I can happily say he's now sleeping through the night for the past 8 weeks. My problem is I can't get him off me during the day , He's still on 3/4 feeds daily, so even if you keep feeding for as long as you can, try to get someone else to feed him just for the break, My little man wouldn't take a feed off anyone, he'll quite happily die of thirst for the few hours I manage to escape, and then lunge at me when I return. Good Luck

Its very easy, The thing is that ur baby remains hungry and so he sucks the milk, Its advisable to bottle feed the baby at the odd hours for few days so that he does not feed from u, and the other option after few days is to bottle feed the baby enough prior to your sleeping so that the baby remains well satisfied the whole night without disturbing you, THANKS

At 9 months he'll be slowly moving out of that on his own. The only advice I can give you is be patient and know that someday he'll be too big to snuggle and nurse at night. Enjoy it now. When he's ready to stop he will.

Just feed the baby if he looks hungry,cause sometimes babies dont sleep till their stomach is full,but thats only somtimes.Sometimes they just need to be held close so that may also be the reason that the baby wakes up in the middle of the night. I would say that if the baby is awake first try to put him to sleep without feeding him,if even then he doesnt sleep then u will hav to feed him. Its good that the baby sleeps close to u but that might also be the reason he needs nursing at night.As he gets older he will gradually stop it himself,so dont worry and enjoy this precious first year with ur child.good luck.

Well he's still under a year old so I wouldn't be too worried about him still sleeping beside you at night and I think you're right by phasing him out of it, rather than putting a sudden stop to it all. My only suggestion would be to slowly increase the amount that he eats right before bed, hopefully this would hold him over so he's not hanging off of you at nights. I wouldn't suddenly give him a lot more than usual though, as this could cause sickness which would create an even bigger issue I would think.

I think you need to put your baby in his own bedroom and in his own bed. Because if you dont you will never break him from that. I never understand why parents let their kids sleep with them. Its really not good at all for the child to be so attached like that. You must break the pattern now.

I just read a book called "Christian Parentingand Child Care" by William Sears. William Sears is a well known pediatrician. It has some great information in it as to why children wake up in the middle of the night. Even if yhou are not a Christian I would suggest getting it and reading at least the chapter on sleeping patterns of a baby. I got this book because my 5 month old is up at least 3-4 times a night and the only way I can get her back to sleep is nursing her. I think that she has bad dreams because she wakes up screaming alot. Each child is so different that some children do not sleep through the night until around age 2.

Don't worry, he will eventually stop doing so. He's growing up and needs all the nourishment he could get.

I have read all the responses thoroughly and agree with some and disagree with others. When my children were young, I kept them in my room but in their own bed. That way I wasn't readily accessible to them. I did give them a bottle of water if they woke during the night because a doctor told me that babies are smart and they will learn that the water isn't worth waking up for so they will sleep all night. And it did work. By the time they were a month old, they slept all night. And amazingly enough, they grew up just fine. Your best bet is to do what you feel comfortable doing. Each child is different and each mother is different. Follow your heart and your instincts.

By increasing the production and supplying it unconditionally without a fuss even if it means your blood!

My daughter is one and half year old now. I also faced the same problem as you when she was seven-eight months old. Start by feeding him properly before he sleeps in the night. Make sure that you give him next feed only after three hours. After two- three days, make the interval to 3 and a half your. Gradually increase the interval time. In this way from 2 feeds, i am sure you will reduce it to one feed in the night. But you will have to make real effort for it. Because babies have a tendency to just suck in the night without being hungry. There are other methods suggested in the book "What to expect the first year" by Heidi Murkoff, Arlene Eisenberg & Sandee Hathaway. The one i mentioned worked with my baby. You will have to see what works with your baby as each child is different.

Dear babykay, I used to feed my daughter twice during the night till she was a year old. Later on I started ignoring her want for feed by taking her on my shoulders and patting her off to sleep. This way she left feeding but ofcourse we mothers become tried, but it was worth. Iniatialy the babies will cry and make everyone tense. The father or any other relative like grandma or aunt should come to rescue. Make the baby sleep with them. But nine months is ok you can still wait for couple of months to stop feeding totally. the baby can be given some solid food before bed time and made to sleep by patting or rocking, never should they be made to sleep through feeding.This will become a bad habit and they will want simply to suck to get sleep.So don't worry this is a passing phase. I hope this will help you.

We always began givng our babies formula with a tablespoon or two of cereal in it (maybe one to begin and a 6 ounce bottle maybe). You have to make the hole in the nipple a little bit bigger (this is trial and error I guess) Or you can just feed the babe some baby cereal before bed - I always figured when they were that hungry they were ready for the first step in food. My daughter slept with her baby too, and now our granddaughter is eight and still sleeps with her.. I've also noticed that she lets her daughter be the boss many times, which causes my daughter troubles (and the granddaughter as kids like to have boundaries). Then when there is a dispute instead of making her sit for a time out, she sorta berates the poor child, because she's frustrated cause the kid's the boss. Once in awhile I tell her it may be hard to get her to sit for a time out (she should have enforced it earlier on and it wouldn't be so hard now). Raising kids is not easy, but it's easier on them if they are not allowed to be the boss. Another interesting point is the younger a child is made to break a bad habit, the sooner they forget what they are being weaned from. Whereas the older they get the longer their unhappiness (and our stress) for their memory gets longer as they get older.. God bless you and your child.. :))

I have a five month old and I am having the same problem. My daughter is up every three hours to feed. She will take a bottle durring the day but not at night.