Shallow men

March 17, 2007 5:06am CST
For girls that are like me, and aren't exactly skinny, it is hard to find a boyfriend. I try to be intelligent, and kind, but honestly through experience, I haven't met one guy that liked me for me. He expected me to change for him, and when I said, no way not happening, I wasn't good enough. Why are some men so shallow? Whatever happened to it's what is on the inside that counts? That quote is passed around so frequently, and Iam yet to see one guy act in those words. Iam sure that there are guys out there that aren't shallow, but why do girls nowadays have to be the human "barbie doll" ? It's not fair when you're a great girl with alot to offer, and the guy gives you the cold shoulder. Where have all the decent guys in this world go?
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@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
17 Mar 07
I had almost given up on finding a decent guy and then my boyfriend came along and taught me many things and he has never once tried to change me. I have to ask, how old are you? The reason I ask is that during your teen years it can be hard to find a guy within your age range, many are inmature and emotionally unstable. For your information, I know of many guys who like their girls to have a bit of meat on them. It sounds like your not being exposed to a big enough crowd of men, don't give up yet.
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@JoyfulOne (6242)
• United States
17 Mar 07
You just hang in there! Not every guy wants a barbie doll figure, and I'm sure you will find somebody who will love you just the way you are. I belonged to an online dating site for a while, and loved to read the forums there. I'm basing this on what I've read, and reading lots of men's opinions on it and attitudes. Just keep being yourself, being friendly and happy, then your true inner self will shine. Anyone who expects you to change for them is not the person for you...they have to love you just the way you are. If they expect you to change for them, then they have control issues, and you don't need a love like that!