Adoption...would you adopt another child from an unknown mother?
By mauier113
@mauier113 (688)
Philippines
7 responses
@HeavenUnaware (1757)
• United States
20 Mar 07
I would adopt in either case but if the birth parents were going to be involved in the child's life at all - there would need to be some firm rules in place before I would do that.
I would not want to worry that the child could be taken away from me at any time after I have already become attached to him/her and vice versa. I wouldn't want to worry about them trying to intrude on my parenting style or being upset with how I raise the child. I wouldn't want them to try to over-step my authority at any time either.
There are pros and cons in both situations but I would want the birth parents to have very limited, supervised contact with the child.
@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
Yeah, that's the safest thing to do, to set rules in case they want to interfere with you and the adpoted child in the future. You adopt the child to be your own, so the real parents should step aside. Thanks for responding, heavenUnaware...
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
20 Mar 07
The only way I would adopt a child that had an unknown mother, is if I could have enough time and money to provide for that child. I have one child of my own right now that I have raised. she is 15 years old and I have 3 more years to go, to get her put through school and graduated. It is very hard to raise children these days and it takes alot of time, patience, love and money to provide for them. I would have to be able to do all of those things before I would consider adopting any child. Even if I knew the parents, I would still have to make sure I can provide for them.
@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
hi stephcjh, yeah, maybe its better to not know the mother at all as long it will come from healthy mother. And it's really hard to raise children nowadays. thanks for the response.
@Madona1 (2096)
• Gibraltar
20 Mar 07
I don't mind to adopt children, but I don't think I am capable of adopting a child if I know the parents.
As the child may decide to return to his/her birth parents and leave me in a heartbroken situation.
I properly have to share the motherhood love with child' birth mother when the child grows up.
There will be lots of consequences that I cannot imagine or tell before the adoption.
@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
hi madona, It's the reality of adpoting but still the child will look for the real mother and its hard on the part of the adopting parents. thanks.
@mouse27 (1155)
• Canada
20 Mar 07
it would depend on the birth parents in question that i knew and why they chose me to adopt their baby. i think it would be an honored to be asked that by someone that i knew and it would be good for the birth mother too because then she could still watch her baby grow up and when her child gets old enough she can explain why she had to give the baby up for adoption and why she chose me that way she gives the child a chance at a good life and doesn't lose the child completly
@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
Well, you're unselfish parent. You are willing to share your adopted child to the real mother while growing up which some parents cant do. thanks for responding.
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
29 Jul 10
My husband was adopted at birth and his adopted parents did not know the birth parents. I think knowing the parents would be harder because what if the parents change their mind and want the baby back. I know people have asked my husband if he would ever search for his birth parents and he has told them numerous times that he has no intention of looking for them. He feels it would be disrespectful to his adopted parents. He considers his real parents to be the ones who raised him not the ones who gave birth to him.
