Please be honest.. Which is important, looks or personality?

Philippines
March 20, 2007 7:42am CST
I used to ask this question to my former classmates in college when we were having a break and it started a debate! I really don't just go for good looks with no personality, or too-good-to-be true person with a little of the so called good looks. People oftentimes search for the prince/princess of their lives and considering both factors, good looks and pleasing personality. Fortunately, I got both with my fiance. Now, I want to hear it from you.
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@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
20 Mar 07
I think that initially looks are very important. This is sad to say, but many times people will gravitate toward good looking individuals. Then once you get to know the person, the personality comes out. If they have a crappy personality, they then seem less attractive...and move on.
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@vebela (310)
• United States
20 Mar 07
I totally agree. I think there has to be some kind of initial attraction, and that's usually looks. But even the most gorgeous person can turn out to be completely and utterly irritating if they don't have a good personality.
@destroyer (785)
• Pakistan
20 Mar 07
A little bit of both :) i dont want my fiance to be butt ugly and have a wonderful personality! it would be good if she is reasonable looking and has a good personality! you know moderation!!
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
I would agree with this one too. . .But I think, if a person has a wonderful personality then his/her outlook appearance will follow to bloom. The beauty will vanish in due time, but the personality stays forever 'till his/her life ends.
• India
20 Mar 07
Good look attracts at first sight but then personality will attract you always.Good look is open where as personality is only known to near and dear ones.Good look will bring little ego where as personality will bring self respect and respect for others.Off course good looking is also gives charm.But even somewhat good looking with pleasing personality will give you real happiness. Congrats!power_earner,you got both with your fiance.
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@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
20 Mar 07
a person with a good personality would get far faster than one with a bad attitude.
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• Malaysia
20 Mar 07
Personally i will consider both factors and make sure the total result is acceptable for me.The external look of a person is quite important in fact. I don really want to see my ugly face partner everyday until the end of my life.
• United States
20 Mar 07
Personality is long-term, in the sense that it is something consistent and reliable. We all have our own likes and dislikes, so there is no exact right or wrong answer to this. Maybe the key words here are "moderation" and "personal opinion".
@jchampany (1131)
• United States
20 Mar 07
Well, I think that both are important but at different times. For instance, looks are important to atract you to that person initially, but then once you start to talk to the person, then personality is important to keep you interested. I think this is generally how it works. I mean you have to be initially attracted to someone and if you don't know them beforehand then what else but looks attract you.
@evafla (10)
• United States
21 Mar 07
personality is the most important. And if someone has the right one look will follow. Inteligent expression in the eyes, smart taking care of yourself and so one.., nice smile, loving animals..
@Makoy1983 (1085)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
definitely i'd give more weight on personality. having good looks is a big plus but what matters more is the character. if you've got both, then you're blessed
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
defintely the personality, what willyou do with good looks? good looks may be important from the start of the realtionship or when someone wants to hooked up somebody but later on looks is not important.
@katyzzz (2902)
• Australia
21 Mar 07
Personality over and over again.
@Rohitrox (38)
• India
21 Mar 07
i think both r equally important personality n luks matteerr equally a person is incomplete without both..... they both better each othr n as 4 me i want both
@gkainth (279)
• India
21 Mar 07
a good personality can easily make an attraction of all people toward him/her self but a good looking will gives a snap of nature
@dexterous21 (1180)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
If I were to choose between two guys; one is ugly but has a good personality and one is handsome but my life will be ruined with him, I would go with the first one. I would rather be wit someone who is not handsome or ugly but has good personality but has good manners. What if your husband or boyfriend is handsome but everyday you have swollen eyes because he doesn't respect you, he doesn't trust you, doesn't have good manners at all? What kind of manners will he teach to your children with a dad like that. Well, I would prefer someone who will treat me as a human being.
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
For me the most important is the personality. Because in a relationship you don't anymore to give effort to use any good or pretty faces to be loved by others. I mean for a relationship to be stable and good requires good personalities. People connect trough our hears more than faces. However, in these days people give more pririty to those good looking faces. What a generation..sooon they'll realize.
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
For me, Looks and personality should have something to do on a row! Both of these are very important for me, but the most important for me is the personality coz i tend to fall in love sometimes with not that pretty girls but very kind! But i would say that, for me it always be like, 40% for looks and 60% for personality! Have a nice day pretty!
@Gwapako_28 (2142)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
For me personality is important. Maybe we used to be attracted to people who have a good looks. But everytime we found out that they dont have a good personality,it will surely discourage us.
21 Mar 07
It all depends what you are after. If you're young and not looking for anything serious, then why not be superficial and only look at beauty. It's a lot easier to find than someone thats good-looking AND has a good personality. If you're looking for long-term, then you have to search properly so you can get both. I think its rubbish that people say that its only one or the other, or that you have to moderate. Good-looking people are only people in the end, they're no different. The only difference is that they may have been treated differently and have adapted as such but thats usually only on the surface. my 2 cents http://misterbelgic.blogspot.com
@gegegelay (934)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
Looks doesn't really matter. Once you love the person, looks won't matter anymore. Coz' you're already captured with what's inside the heart of the person. Of course to some people looks are a must, it's what they prioritize the most, but then let's say you'd go for the looks, but the person's a totally jerk, then you just wasted your time. Look to the heart, you'll see the person beautiful inside and out.
@ReyM21 (281)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
I think personality is an overall perspective of a person.
• India
21 Mar 07
I say its neither looks nor personality is important, rather it is the character of a person which is more important. If he is good kind hearted person, then comes all these looks and personality.
@tonyxxx (693)
• India
21 Mar 07
I think looks are a part of ones personality, personality is a wider term and looks makes a little portion of it.So ultimately if one has Good or pleasing personality then one is having an upper hand then the person having good looks and unpleasing personality.But for judging a personality of a person one has to spend time and go deep in him whereas good looks can be judged immediately.