What qualities in a person attract you towards him or her ?

@bluewings (3857)
March 22, 2007 11:05am CST
Is it their intellect Or good looks ? Is it how successful they are in life ? Is being wealthy important ? Do you tend to judge a person by his or her assets ? My mind doesn't give me a chance to understand why I am attracted to someone,when I am .It never consults my heart and my heart ,being the egoist it is,never complains.I can't consciously follow the train of thoughts. Can you ? Can you tell what quality of a person impresses you most ?
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
22 Mar 07
I am generally attracted to people with gentle disposition, sharp wit with a keen sense of humour and almost matching intellect.Wealth is secondary.Never gave it much importance. When I was a teenager,I hoped to be swept off my feet by someone who could sing and play the piano for me. Since I couldn't find a singer,I myself learnt to play piano and now sing for my family instead.Lol. :-P The quality which impresses me most is a warm heart with kindness and compassion.Sadly its almost on the verge of extinction.
@bluewings (3857)
22 Mar 07
Warm heart and kindness .How can it fail to conquer hearts? :) I hope they adore you when you play the piano while singing.
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
21 Apr 07
Great!!isn't it? I mean I don't check my best responses regularly.But I'm so glad i did just now. You've made my day bluewings.It's such a great pleasure my friend.Thanks :-)(for the BR ofcourse):D
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@worthy (2413)
• India
28 Mar 07
It has to be more of intellect than looks.I feel he has to be more,or,at least equally intelligent.Lol. I don't think your assests make you a more attactive person. A tender and loving heart is sure a winner.But I'm sure when you fall in love,the last thing you do is remember all these points.:-D
@bluewings (3857)
28 Mar 07
LOl Yeah,It would be better if love came with a disclaimer saying ''Try me at your own risk''.Perhaps then we will try to check our thoughts and feelings to know what is getting us there.
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@worthy (2413)
• India
29 Mar 07
Lol.Lol.Yeah.Yes.Imagine the divine 'Akashvaani' echoing the slogan you so aptly have mentioned here.Try me at your own risk,risk,risk,risk sssssssssssss.:-P
@bluewings (3857)
30 Mar 07
lol A divine warning against love :-P But even then relationships won't be perfect and we'd still be learning through trials and errors.
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@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
22 Mar 07
The energy of the person is number one. Perfer upbeat and confident folk. I like it if the dress pretty good. Whether in a suit of in denims and sneakers. Care themselves well, comfortable with their body is a treat. You mind is paying attention to the chemical attraction. Actually I like most people until they misbehave.
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@bluewings (3857)
22 Mar 07
Confidence and energy are definitely important.Yes,I have tried to understand what qualities activates which chemical centre,lol.Haven't got too far yet.
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@bluewings (3857)
23 Mar 07
Honesty-I concur.It's rare and it's powerful.
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• India
22 Mar 07
every individual has different need and requirement. for some one humour may be a an attractive quality for someone may be its money and yet for some one else it may be looks. for me i think it is the thoughtfulness of others which impresses me the most. secondly comes intelligence closely followed by humour. then of course are factors like pleasing personality, basic ettiquates, courtesy, looks etc etc etc.
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@bluewings (3857)
22 Mar 07
Hi Neha.Welcome to Mylot.Thoughtfulness definitely connects with the heart.Thanks.
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• United States
22 Mar 07
When I met my brand new husband, I first seen his beautiful blue eye's looking at me over his eye glesses and I thought it was the sexiest look I ever seen on a man. I knew I had to know more about him. Once we got to know each other, I was attracted to so much more, his walk, his sense of humor, his soft gentle side, his brain, the fact that he has a BIG heart, his smile, his honesty. My hubby is far from wealthy financially but wealthy in so many other ways which is what I so adore about him. Assets, he had nothing ut a good paying job, a rental home, and older PU truck and few furnishings, so was it his assets? Nope, since we have bought a beautiful new home. What qualities impressed me about my hubby is his ability to be his self. I am in deed the luckiest woman in the world! ;-) Mary
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@bluewings (3857)
22 Mar 07
You sound lucky.BIG heart is definitely is heart winner:)
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• India
23 Mar 07
HI!!To be honest this is one of the finest discussions ever started on mylot.. I FEEL tat i get attracted to people by their behavior, humbleness,frankness, dtermination, attitude , aptitude n last their looks.. if the first six r der u feel tat person s beautiful whether tat person is realy good looking.. but no1 really knows y as to u get attracted to a person.
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• China
23 Mar 07
there are several points that i need to consider when judging a person. the first is look. if he/she has good looking, he/she has already 50 percent of winning my favor. the second is his/her self-cultivation. the third is his/her morality. i think these are the main three points that impress me most.
@sweetsue (759)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
I must say its the intellect of the person that I am most attrated to. I want a person that is good conversant and smart. Of course, fair looking is good enough.An intelletual person is a well principled man and such man I would love to settle someday hopefully hehehe. I hate users ( I knew a few)!
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@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
28 Mar 07
It can be difficult to tell, sometimes. In the beginning, it always feels very "random"-- it could be the way somebody looks, or their voice, or something they did, or a look in their eyes. It doesn't usually make sense. But in the slightly longer run, it always (for me, anyway) comes down to their energy, and the "vibes" I get from what I feel to be the "essence" of that person. I am not sure how to describe essence, other than to say that it seems to be what is there, below the layers of ego. And much of that has to do with a basic kind spirit and character, and a strong sense of self.
@bluewings (3857)
28 Mar 07
I have to agree! First ,it doesn't make sense and then comes a time when it makes perfect sense even if we can't quite describe it. Yes,speaking for myself ,too,a kind spirit,strong character and strong sense of self under the outer guard of ego,is magnetic and makes me want to explore.
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• United States
22 Mar 07
i love a guy with a sense of humor. If he can make me laugh all the time, then he is a total catch. i never judge anyone by their assets, i have been out with guys who had lots of money and nice cars, but they were just all wrong for me. I also love a man who apppreciates what he has and doesnt complain constantly.
@bluewings (3857)
22 Mar 07
True,wealth can't guarantee fun moments if the guy lacks humor and if there is no humor,then it gets dull after a while.
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@Rexy_leigh (1189)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
ummm i guess it's when we share almost the same wavelength that I get pretty attracted to someone and eventually turn out to be some good friends. Let's say, I go along well with people who shares the same interests as mine.. but somehow still have a bit of differences to spice up the company.. :P confidence, wits, manner of dressing, and lifestyle are also some of the things that attracts me toward somebody. :P
@bluewings (3857)
22 Mar 07
Yeah, a little difference always gives something to argue about :-P
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• Canada
22 Mar 07
Honestly, I think I'm like you, though there are certain types of people who put me off easily enough. These being egotists, people who don't take care of themselves, and those who can't make me laugh (Its really not that hard :P) I guess I feel the attraction and if it goes further and we get to talking, then I try to figure out what attracted me to that person. Whether it was their sense of humour, or their intelligence, their compassion, how genuine they are. There's so many different things it could have been. Looks alone aren't enough, and quite frankly, if someone's good looking, but can't hold a conversation, then I don't even bother. Wealth also means nothing. What you never had, you can't miss.
@bluewings (3857)
22 Mar 07
Yeah,I think about what attracted me to the person after I get to know him or her and it's never one single thing,but certain aspects stand out. Wealth doesn't figure there and humor and wit almost always show up.
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@shahmeerx (368)
• Pakistan
22 Mar 07
hmm probably all people are the same,same face and all just a bit of difference because we all are humans.According to the users question I my self beleive that we should respect the differences amongst us and the different thinking of the person because that is what hes really done,being blessed with good looks is no big deal because the person himself has not played any big part in it.The real big deal is his hardwork and his way to think properly,all of us get attracted to looks on first site but the charachter,the thinking and the hard work is what really matters.
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@bluewings (3857)
22 Mar 07
Mutual respect is very important in every relationship and similarity in thoughts keeps us together.
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@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
22 Mar 07
not really, for me it was his caring way and how cute he smiled. he like to just be with me without haveing to go somewhere, we could just talk for hours and hours about anything.
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@bluewings (3857)
22 Mar 07
Knowing to hold a conversation is undoubtedly an important factor.
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@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
22 Mar 07
I agree that it is possible to be attracted to someone without knowing why. I have been through it. It just come. This person may be just an average person, both in looks and intellect. He may not be rich nor successful. It's just him. Perhaps he has with him a special type of charisma which subsciously draws your attention. Most of the time, it would be wit and humour which will implant the first impression into me.
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@bluewings (3857)
22 Mar 07
I like to be in control,but it's my mind that's in control more often,lol.
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@anne_143god (5390)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
For me it does not attract me those who has alot of property or who are good looking but it matters most for me is the character of a person. If my first impression to a person is she/he is a good person then I would be like to be his/her friend. I dont mind if that person has property or not.
@maxxine (612)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
hmmmm for me .. someone who has a great sense of humor.. someone who isnt pretending something who they aren't and some one with a perfect nose hehehe
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@gegegelay (934)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
Sense of humor =) I'm a very shallow person when it comes to jokes or laughing. I would laugh at your corniest jokes, that's true! It's something that I need for me to always be cheerful. I am a thinker and so I need someone who will take me away from all of my thinking. Intelligence is also something that would impress, but I don't wanna go too far like the "geeky" types. I'm also attracted to guys who are romantic and is a gentleman and knows how to respect women.
@manmaxman (850)
• India
23 Mar 07
if she is simple and if she wair black dreas than i realy going to see her once ................ but the nature of a person is the best thing that always make me attracted ...........................
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• Philippines
23 Mar 07
I dont tend to jugge a person by the way he looks nor with the kind of life he has at the moment. I usually judge a person by the way he talks and express himself to others. The kind of resp[ect he has for himself emulates the level of respect he has for others. It doesn't matter how rich you are or how illiterate a person can be.... it is the way he perceives himself as a person and the way he accepts others for what they are.