If there's something you can change in your life right now, what would it be?

@catcai (1057)
Philippines
March 24, 2007 10:33am CST
Ok guys, let's be honest, imperfections aside...i know the life were living has its ups and downs, but surely i know most of us do regret some stuffs that we did that led us into this kind of life- So im seeking your honest opinion on this one...If ever there is something that you can change in your life RIGHT NOW what would it be? it can be a situation that you were in- the relationships you had.. anything part of your life that you would like to change...I know whatever happens in our life happens for a reason, and I know we should be thankful for the life that we currently have, i am, i just have a few regrets though- like for one, i really regret the fact that for the nth time i fell in love again to the same guy- the same guy who again for the nth time- broke my heart. I just wish that i listened to my friends back then, when they were telling me to just stay away from him-.. thats one thing that had a big impact on my life that i want soo bad to be changed....what about you?
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@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
24 Mar 07
I think I would have chosen to stay single and a nonparent. It is very difficult for me to spend all of my time pleasing my husband and my daughter when I cannot even please myself. I feel that I am a burden to them. I feel like they miss out on alot of things in life because I do not get out and enjoy things with them. I stay too stressed out or depressed all of the time. I am constantly trying to make things better for them but never for myself and it makes me a very bitter person. I have tried to make myself happy but it just doesn't happen. I feel like they would have a much better life without me. I also feel like I will never be able to enjoy life, so why live it?
@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
hi steph...it seems to me that before you got married, you werent really able to enjoy your single life to the fullest.. have you? its sad that youre feeling that way- i can understand the pressure that youre getting from being a wife and a mother- if only being a mother/wife is like being employed in a company- like you can request a vacation leave for a week or something...but it's not-- right? you can't take a break from motherhood- Please dont pressure yourself too much- try to be happy- i know there are still ways...for one i hope you can enjoy your time here at myLot =)
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@Buchi_bulla (8299)
• India
24 Mar 07
I am basically a timid lady and never asserted my rights. This has made my life miserable especially with my mother-in-law and husband. I always danced to their tunes and over exerted myself and ignored my people and gave unnecessary extra care for their relations. Things would have been different had I been a bit courageous and asserted my rights. I feel for that now.
@paulsy (1264)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
Well, honestly, i'm one person, who has gone through a hell lot in this life. i've been through the worst pain i could ever think of and yet, i survived it all. I too, made a lot of mistakes. And i paid for them too. I was stupid, stubborn and insistent on things i just wanted to do, and consequently made my life a disaster. But i learned my lesson well! And all that is past. Today, my life is beautiful! there is nothing i would ever change in my life today! I am happy with my children and with the man i love so very much. I live remembering the mistakes i once made, and use them as guidelines in making my life a better one. You can do that, too. Believe me, everyone makes mistakes, but after all that, when you've finally learned your lesson, you will find yourself a lot better, and so much wiser person than you were before. Don't dwell on the pain, think about your future and believe you can have a better life than what you are having right now. What is past IS PAST.. what matters now is what lies ahead for you..Good luck!
• United States
24 Mar 07
There are two things that I would definitely change if I could go back a few years. The first thing is that I had a best friend in high school that I abandoned. Her mom was a nut job and was creating all kinds of havoc at school. Others exiled this friend and I followed suit. I was a kid and I regret it because she was a good person. Also, I would lose some weight eariler in life....but regrets aside, I have a pretty good life !
@rainbow (6763)
24 Mar 07
I regret meeting my oldest sons dad, don't get me wrong my son is a beuatiful special needs child but he left while I was pregnant, emptying my home and leaving me over £22,000 of debt I didn't know about. I regret it mainly because my son has special needs and I met a wonderful man at 6 months pregnant who has to try and cope with my chiild, it doesn't seem fair somehow, my younger son copies the behaviours and some days can be horrible. it sounds selfins hand childinsh but he did this to my life and I have to deal with the legacy he left every day.
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@rainbow (6763)
28 Mar 07
Thank-you so much for giving me your best response although all I did was whinge, it's a big change that can never happen, just wish sometimes... Life's ok really, lol.
• Romania
25 Mar 07
Hey ! We`re constantly changing day by day .. that`s a fact .. but as it concernes major changes in hour lives .. these are less frequent but very important yet . In this moment i think i would change a dozen things in my life .. but if i`ll stick to the most important ones .. i would love to be healthier .. to finally realise what faculty i want to go to .. get in .. and be the best in what i`ll do .. i would also love to find the right person to be by my side .. and to get rid of the ones that hurt me .. i would love my eyes to be blue .. and here i go with my never ending "i would love right now" list .. But .. of course .. most of these things can be accomplished .. and i`m shure i will soon .. but in this very moment .. i would like to have them .. just like that :D
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• Philippines
25 Mar 07
yes there are things i want to change in my life...and one of those things i want to chnage is getting married with my husband who have caused me lots of troubles...lots of pain in the a"s and the most irresponsible guy i ever meet....you may never know the real person if you wont live with him in one roof...and that what happened to me.,...i wished i havent got married to him...
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• Philippines
25 Mar 07
Just like steph, I wish i was not married much earlier. It seems to me that my life is totally different from what i have thought when I was still in college. If I'm not married I may have gotten to venture into many things and become more succesful than what I am right now. Though, I'm contented and happy with my life I think I will be much happier if I did not get pregnant early.
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• United States
25 Mar 07
Well what a fine mess I find myself in my husband passed away 3 yrs ago and I found myself in a financial mess I let my x-husband move in to help me pay the bills a year ago. I told him we were not getting back together and this was just a financial arrangement. My health is not too good and I need his financial support.as I can only work part time. I'm not sure I want any advice just a place to vent because now he wants more than I'm willing to give
25 Mar 07
I think I wouldn't get involved with certain people. And realise I had anorexia before it got this bad. Phoned a helpline before I ended up with bulimia. Everything like that.
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• India
25 Mar 07
i will leave my laziness immediately....that gave me a lot of troubles...
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@sikhan (30)
• Bangladesh
25 Mar 07
In fact I want to change my nurvousness. When I face any problem then I feel very much nurvous. So in that time I could not take any wise decision.
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@shorva (923)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
Well for me, i wish i didn't marry so soon and got pregnant at young age. But i love my baby and my husband sooo much, they're my life now. But if i could turn back the time i wish i had been more wise and careful and should've focused on my career first, save and plan our future. But just like you said, everything happens for a reason, so in a way i'm thankful!!!
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• India
25 Mar 07
yes there is one thing that i can change right now it is my love its joke frnd
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• Denmark
25 Mar 07
I would like a better paid job, so I dont have to worry so much about my finances. I want new clothes!
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@natrlvr2 (384)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I have done some things in my past(I plead the 5th,LOL)but I do not regret anything.It was all a learning experience.I have learned my lessons the hard way alot. Right now I woudl be fine if I did not have chronic pain that has disabled me.I usually don't LOOK disabled but I cannot work.And my medication makes me pack on the pounds.I do miss not having a mate(I will NEVER remarry) but that is another issue.I do enjoy it being me and my son but I do get lonely 'sometimes'.So let's see...what was the question?LOL. I guess I regret not finding myself a rich man.I always had guys who were basically poor.
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
25 Mar 07
If I could change one thing huh? Hmmmm? Well I guess for me I'd change my fathers health. Since being here in my hopusehold things have rally changed too much. I'm used to the changes but wish things were back like before he got ill & moved in with me. Sure I know it would come back in the future but it would be nice for at least now to have my old family life back. Thanks. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!
@katisaurus (1038)
• Canada
25 Mar 07
Personally, I don't think I'd change anything. I like to think I learn from my mistakes and I learn from the things that happen in my life. I don't regret anything I've done because it's all just been a new life experience for me.. Be it friends, family, relationships. I learn from my experiences in order to help better my future. I'll admit if I could FIX someething, it would be my relationship with my ex boyfriend whom I just broke up with. I'd fix the problems before they got too out of control, but, what's done is done and I've learned from it.
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@ryanphil01 (4186)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
i wish i should have not been hot-tempered so that my friends should be staying with me longer especially during discussions (not necessarily debate).i got easily affected when they tell me that i am a warm-blooded animal!!!i know what they are up to, trying to make me boil...this attitude of mine or trait i would like to change.i might be losing all my friends.
• United States
25 Mar 07
I would change having a bad knee and currently bad ankle. I hate the fact I am always so limited to stuff because of my bad body parts. My knee is forever, my ankle is a temp but still it sucks for 3 weeks now not being able to do things I love cause of my bad ankle! I'd also like to have more self esteem better, and have a little less weight on me to worry about (aka loose weight!).
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