i love being alone... is that alright?

@ronreyes (4726)
Philippines
March 28, 2007 5:27am CST
I'm always been the loner-type since elementary. I admit that I'm alone most of the time, though I had a few company sometimes but I don't really hang-out with them, and I don't treat them as friends. I believe that friends or bestfriends here on Earth aren't real! They just take you for granted and they will be nice to you only if they need something, but after that, you'll just find yourself left in nowhere. It might sound weird but being alone is what makes me happy. I feel uncomfortable whem I'm surrounded by many individuals who makes such loud noises and faking their smiles when you're facing them. Honestly, I get sick of it! But sometimes I also get confused. Why? Because I know that no man is an island and you can't survive without friends. I may need someone's help in the future when I'm really down. That's what my mom had told me and rest assured that I'll always keep that in mind. Well, there's one time that I've tried to be friendly, and suprisingly, it worked! I have befriended several individuals which I must say they're really fun to be with. Unfortunately, I always felt that I'm not really happy when I'm with them. That's how I've realized that loneliness is one of the things that is meant for me and I think I must stick with it all my life coz that's when/where I do my best in all the things that I love to do. For now, the only friend and bestfriend I have is God. He's the only one I know that will remain true and loyal to me all throughout the way. Besides, God made us all unique! Maybe I'm just one of the "happy-loners" He had created for this world - and I won't complain about that! What's important now is that I'm in to the place where I think I'm supposed to be and where I became happy. Well, I guess I've already answered my question Wow! I didn't expected this ending! LOL How about you? I still want to ask... "I Love Being Alone... Is That Alright?" if your answer is YES, then Welcome To My World!
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@smacksman (6081)
28 Mar 07
Welcome to myLot, ronreyes, I hope you will meet some cyber friends here. haha. I am a bit of a mixture. I am happy in the company of friends but perfectly happy in my own company. If I go sailing by myself, I can be days at a time in my own company. Does 'alone' automatically mean 'loneliness'. I don't think so.
@marci3 (245)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
Hi there! Welcome me into your world! HAHA! Well we actually have something in common. I too, am a LONER, or I prefer being alone most of the time. It's not that I don't like being with other people..it's because I am comfortable doing things on my own. I'd like to think I've been trying to be independent since I was a kid. I do have a number of friends but I think we could only have a few who are really trustworthy and who would have our backs when we need them. I don't want to bug them just in case I want to go out. I go to the mall alone, watch movies by myself...I don't see anything wrong with that! I actually like shopping alone because I do things faster (haha); although sometimes it's nice to share a hearty laugh while watching a comedy or witnessing anything funny. Nevertheless, who cares if you're alone? As long as you're happy with what you're doing, I'm sure other people would respect that.
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@ejayjae (38)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
Yes I think it's alright but why do you think God made us live with other people? Remember the saying, "No man is an island" which means nobody on earth can live alone. It is not literally "live alone" like living on your house alone or living your life alone. You must know that one time in your life, you WILL need someone to hold on to. About your loneliness, I think it's just made by your own predicament that you're destined to be ALONE. Maybe you just didn't found your DESTINED buddies that's why you say that. I've visited your website, btw.
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• United States
11 May 07
To a certain point I say yes. I think that it is perfectly fine to be a loner. I believe that we all need time to ourselves and if that's what makes you happy.:) Then I think that there is nothing wrong with it. I myself think that it so hard to make good friends as you said. You do get tired of the fakeness after so long. But then again if they are acting fake maybe they were never your friends to begin with. Every now then, though I think that it does some good to interact with others...I think that it's great that you Love to be a loner and are Happy with it. So good for you for being you, keeping doing you. You seem to have no problems with it so that's good.
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@marababe (2514)
• Philippines
11 May 07
Yes. I kind of know how you feel actually. Sometimes I want to be totally alone even when I go to the mall. I just feel like spending time with myself and not having to listen to others' yakking and blabbing. There are also times when I want to be with my friends and don't want to be alone cos I feel like I'm going to go nuts. Lol. But it's still OK with me. I agree, we are not totally alone because we hae God with us every day, every minute.
@easyzheng (666)
• China
11 May 07
Of course you can choose to be alone or with others. Most of the time I would have room for myself without being disturbed by any other things or people. I need a quiet world to myself to do what I like, such as listening to music, reading my favorite books, surfing on internet, chatting with friends through msn, doing mylot...I think there is nothing wrong to be left alone. But it should not be isolated. that's another matter.
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• United States
11 May 07
I am both a very social person that gives all I can to the world, but often a loner, as I discovered the same as you.. about people only wanting to be friend you when they want something from you..... I am go through moments of happiness and sadness, I find most of my happiness amongst nature, and Spirit work.. As they understand me better than most human beings do... I can be who I am passionate and not have to worry about much about being used, or mistreated amongst them.... Being alone is fine if you are happy but even then it is healthy to have some form of social interaction. Most of mine is through the computer, when interacting with human beings.. . - DNatureofDTrain
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@anant123 (66)
• United States
19 May 07
Yes....there is nothing wrong in being alone.....its alright...basically it depends on the nature of the person...some like the company of 4-5 ppl,,,some enjoy in his/her own company and love being alone....btw, i also love being alone [:)]..though i like the other shade too...
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• Philippines
19 May 07
I love being alone.. sometimes. especially when it' raining. it's the feeling when you're reminiscing old happy times. i really love being alone. just remembering all the happy moments that happened in my life. it feels so special. maybe it's because we keep to ourselves everything that we long for and we everything that we experienced we keep to ourselves. we are not open to everyone. it's because we don't feel comfortable saying some precious things to others afraid of their comments and we are araid that they might know who wwe really are.
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• China
19 May 07
Sometimes I enjoy to be alone, but usually I like being with friends,I don't like feeling lonely,because it will make me think that I am forgotten by my friends. I agree with you on some points in this disscussion. It is more and more hard to find sincere friends nowadays. But there is a saying like this" A friend indeed is a friend in need." LOL.Fortunately, I have good friends around me. In my opinion, a really good friend must encourage you when you feel disappointed, help you when you are in trouble, share the happy with you when you achieve your goals, give you suggestions when you are confused,ect. You will tell him or her everything. Friendship is existed at least two people. Both of them shall regard the other as his or her friend from the bottom of the heart. I don't think that people could live happily alone, we are in this society, we have to communicate with others on some issues, we will learn to how to resolve the human relationship from frienship. We try to accept people's disadvantages, try to find their advantages and learn from them. The life will be meaningful when you have good freinds. I believe that you will enjoy it. Another saying like this" It is you who teach others how to perform in front of you." that is to say, if you make freinds with others from the bottom of your heart, you regard him or her as your truely friends, they will also give their return. It is true. We couldn't know the others' comments on us, if we do right things, we won't feel sorry for them. Just to be ourselves. I hope that you could have more confidence on friends, just try to hang-out with them and find the happiness in it. If you couldn't help smiling with them, that is to say,you really enjoy the life among them. cheer up! I believe that you can make it!
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@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
19 May 07
i don't see anything wrong with wanting to be alone. i, too, prefer to be alone sometimes. there are times when a person needs to be by himself. it helps one to reflect on himself and somehow appreciate what he has and does not have.
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@sad_man (81)
• Romania
19 May 07
yes ,yes ,yes the final answer is god ! hmmmmm what can I do for you people you're nice people ....with a f**D up ideea ufff ....i'll no bother anymor....think what you want belive in a lie no problem for me lie to yourself etc etc you'r life about ...the subject....I have just one friend
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@kiiizu (1905)
• Estonia
18 May 07
Yes, actually I do but I can't enjoy this privilege very often. I have to communicate with very many people at work, and mostly I can't be alone at home also. Sometimes, after a very hard and communicative day I feel that everything I need is couple of months in a separate cell! That is one reason why I'm trying to walk to work and back home - it's the only time I can be alone with my thoughts. Still, I can't agree with you that all friends aren't real. There are some people in my life I can trust, and some I'm just loving without trusting them LOL!
@mahmah (436)
• United States
13 May 07
I personally prefer to be alone. Once in awhile I will interact with other people but for the most part, it doesn't matter. All through school I had the friends that were nice to my face but talked nasty crap behind my back. Most of them were just using me. So I guess in a way this has carried over into adulthood where I tend to steer away from people. I had one person in high school when I lived in Arizona that didn't treat me like garbage. Even though I have moved away (17 years ago), we still talk to each other and every so often I go out there to see her. I am more comfortable alone. I mean I live with my younger brother but it isn't like we are close or anything. We live together out of necessity I think. Neither of us can afford to live on our own. I don't feel lonely when I am alone. I am perfectly content this way. But that is me and some say I am kind of weird but we are all weird in our own ways. :) mahmah
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
13 May 07
There is nothing wrong with liking to be alone. My husband is a loner too. He doesn't have many friends, and he likes to be with very few people. He does like to have his alone time and that is fine with me, because sometimes I am the same way. I don't like to socialize that much anymore and I like to enjoy time to myself.
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• Latvia
11 May 07
I love to be alone as well. Not lonely, but alone. Sometimes it freaks me out whe my boyfriend or other friends or falily stay at my place for longer time. i get very fratruated and nervous. I don't see it wrong to be alone. People are diferent and with diferent needs.
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@rsa101 (13350)
• Philippines
11 May 07
Wow I was like that when I was young too. Until today I still consider myself loner-type of person. I really do not enjoy with so many people around. But I do enjoy just being alone with myself tinkering whatever it is that is of interest to me. But your mother is indeed true since when I reached my age 30 and was already working by myself i realized I needed someone who I can trust and be with that person and that I found in my wife. It was just fortunate that my wife understood my situation and slightly changed my outlook in life. Now I have my wife and my kid and I am now happy being with my own family. Just like the family that accepted me who I was and now I have my own family to take care of me and I have a family to lean on when I grow old. Indeed, "No man is an island". I hope someday you'll find a partner that will truly be dedicated as loving you as you are.
@archer1811 (1099)
• Philippines
11 May 07
hi ronreyes!! it's nice to know that you always visit friendster too.. i have a friendster too.. hope to see yah there... my spouse and i have only one account in friendster.. i really love to be alone too.. specially when im feelin sad, i dont wanna have a companion or i dont like to have someone with me whom i can talk too.. when i have a problem or so i'd rather choose to be alone than to have somebody else in my side. but what if the time come and you find someone to be your spouse? you can't still do what you are doin today.. in my part i always wanna be alone if my spouse is away..
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• United States
11 May 07
I think it is perfectly normal to love being alone. I love being alone also. It's like my favorite thing to do. Recently I haven't had any time alone because I've been working a lot, had lots of things to help my grandma with and stuff like that. I don't have many friends outside of work. Actually only 1 and that is my boyfriend. I feel the same way about friends as you do. They are just there to get things from you and take what they can get. God is the only one that can truly be your friend. He will never use you or hurt you. Welcome to my world too.
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• Philippines
11 May 07
Haha :) I'm not much of a people person myself. I'll admit that everyone needs friends, but sometimes when things get a little too crowded or I feel like I just need a time out from all the talking and having to get along or please everybody, I stay home, read a book and recharge. Then after a while I'm ready to see everyone again. It's all about balance, I guess. If you're naturally an introvert than you do need some time alone to think once in a while. But sometimes you do need company to share your thoughts and feelings with. When you find friends that you really want to keep, take the time to get to know them and make an effort to stay in touch. You don't need to be friends with the whole school, but it's always great to have people you can talk to when you need it.