Do YOU go to BED ANGRY with you are FIGHTING with your MATE?

Do you go to Bed ANGRY? - fighting with mate
United States
March 28, 2007 4:20pm CST
Ever go to bed angry when you have had a fight with your mate? I know I always say I never want to go bed angry, especially when I do I never get a bit of sleep only going over in my mind what the fight was about. So do you stay up, even if it means that you will be tired the next day to resolve issues with your mate so that you can go to bed on a good tone?
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@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
29 Mar 07
We never ever go to bed mad, ever. Thing is, i've heard this advice from so many tv shows, people, and one person more than anyone, the woman who married us. And to this day, if we're angry with eachother, we talk it out, and then we can go to bed, when all feelings are mended.
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• Canada
29 Mar 07
Thanks for the best responses hunni. Your a sweety.
@diablouk (600)
28 Mar 07
I try not to go to bed angry. I haven't had many fights with my partner but there have been a few and Ive got really mad but I think I get more angry with myself for having the arguement in the first place because its usually started as something trivial and got blown out of proportion. Worst thing I ever did was let him go to bed after an arguement while I sat up and brooded. It resulted in him moving out the following day and we were apart for a few months. Just letting it go and going to bed at the same time could have changed all that and I know I'll never recover the time we were apart.
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• United States
28 Mar 07
Sorry to hear that, I used to be married to man that did not believe in fighting when it was bedtime, he would say we can fight when we wake up with a clear head, in a way he was right since sleeping on it will allow you to pick your words to say to the party and not use fighting words, but then again you did not get a good night sleep cause it was on your mind the entire night. Thanks for responding
• United States
29 Mar 07
He does, I can't
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@gberlin (3836)
29 Mar 07
My wife and I make it a point not to go to bed angry. Besides niether one of us wants to sleep on the couch and it is hard to be angry at the person who is sleeping next to you!
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
29 Mar 07
i am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year now. and even if he's been so nice and understanding, we still have those so called "bad" days in our relationship. there are issues we disagree upon and that's where arguments start from and well, anger, too. my boyfriend and i always try to solve the issue that same day and we never let the issue bother us anymore. but during those nights, i admit i can't easily put myself to bed. not because i am still mad or angry, but because i think of it all over again - the mistakes i've done, the shortcomings... and at the end of it all, i am just happy that we were able to resolve the matter.
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I try to resolve everything before we go to sleep, even if it means we will be up late. I hate going to bed mad/sad. So we try to work things out, be that as it may there have been a couple of times that he went to the couch and I just let him stay there and we worked it out when he got home from work the next day. I don't like when that happens though!
@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
14 Apr 07
NOpe. My husband fights over every thing and every day, so if I went to bed not mad or what not, I would never get sleep. I think that it is a good idea to work it out, but both parties have to work at it and the personalities must be taken into consideration.
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
31 Mar 07
my boyfriend and i always try never to go to bed mad at each other. we have spent a couple times up to wee hours in the morning making sure we have everything straightened out and then another making up..wink wink.
@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
30 Mar 07
It has occured a few times, where my husband & I have argued. Unfortunately we have gone to bed angry. I find this extremely upsetting. I don't really know how to avoid it, except to make an effort not to bring up issues I know are senstive to him.
• United States
30 Mar 07
When we were younger, I would. He never liked too stay mad. Now I don't do it. Or, I try not too. What happens if one of us were not to wake up? I don't want to be in that situation.