Irritated with hubby again!

@soccermom (3200)
United States
March 28, 2007 9:34pm CST
My hubby and I applied for an auto loan through our local bank. My FIL is selling us his car at an incredible deal. My idea was lets just take the money out of our savings, but my hubby didn't want to take $5000 out, he wanted to get a loan. The bank approved us, and I told him when they called to set the appointment to sign papers after 5pm. Our bank is open until 6:30 and the way I see it for the amount of money we have there, they would accomodate us. My boss is on vacation again until Monday, and I'm the only one in the office, hubby knows I have to work until 5. He made the appointment to sign the papers tomorrow at 4pm, and didn't even bother to ask me! I hate closing the office early, and I scheduled a 3:30 appointment, it would be a freak of nature for me to make it to the bank by 4. Even if all my client has to do is sign and pay I like to go over their insurance policy with them so they understand it. I've kept my mouth shut and will reschedule my appointment, but I'm still irritated with him! Does your significant other just do things and expect you to accomodate them? My dog is getting fixed Monday and I set it up so I pick him up after I get off work, but then I have to be across town at soccer practice by 6, maybe I should just tell him to leave work early to get the dog and see how he likes it.
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@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
29 Mar 07
Have him pick up the dog and be at soccer practice at 5 or 5:30 Mine wouldn't even tink about it I would throttle him. Plus I am the one who figures out how to pay for that loan
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I am the assistant coach so I have to be there. Which reminds me, not only do I have to be there so does my daughter! DUH! Now I have to figure out how to get the dog, be at the other end of the county to pick her up and run to yet the other end of the county to be to practice! Looks like hubby is leaving early to get the dog! LOL
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@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
29 Mar 07
Oh yes one of the other things about soccer. Never knowing whether your coming or going lol. Congrats on reaching 500 posts
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
29 Mar 07
OMG! I hadn't even realized I'd hit the 500 post mark!! LOL Woohoo! Now I can start copy and pasting every one elses discussions!! JUST KIDDING!! LOL Thanks for pointing it out and bringing me a smile!!
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@moonmagick (1458)
• United States
29 Mar 07
Mine does things like that all the time. He assumes since I stay home with our son, I have nothing better to do than accomodate him. I hate to say it, but I am busier staying at home than I ever was working. Especially with the little one. I have started leaving him to take care of whatever mess he made by scheduling something without consulting me first. After a couple of times it seems to be helping a bit. Now instead of "I need you to run to town and pay my car payment tomorrow" Its "My car payment is due tomorrow and it slipped my mind. Do you think you can take care of it for me?" Still a pain, but a little more tolerable than just being expected to do it.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
29 Mar 07
When I was working two jobs and gone all the time my hubby was more willing to help out. Now that I'm only at the office he's s;acked off and I've picked it up. It would be nice if I would hear a thank you every once in awhile, but I don't. He says this is a partnership and I shouldn't expect to hear a thanks for helping in the responsibilities that make our household run. I agree to a certain extent, but lately everything is in my lap! just because he brings home a bigger paycheck shouldn't diminish my contirbutions, which as far as I'm concerned are priceless, as are your moon!
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I meant "as are yours moon" :)
• Canada
29 Mar 07
Wow, nothing like a full schedule eh? I would certainly tell him to leave work early to get the Dog lol. My partner, for some reason, will not schedule anything without asking me first. I'm usually the one who knows what plans we have for what days, and so everything goes through me. He even started asking me if he should do overtime at work on a Saturday if they asked and I was like hon, I appreciate you asking me this, but please, if you want to do it, then do it. Don't feel you have to ask me lol. He's too cute.
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
29 Mar 07
My hubby never asks if he can work overtime Saturday, he just always does it. This week we're lucky because he only has to work until 1pm instead of the usual 5:30pm. He works 12 hours Monday- Friday anyway. I think he feels since I only work part time, 30 hours a week that I have nothing better to do. You partner is at least considerate, maybe he can call mine and give him a lesson? LOL
@aissha (2036)
• India
29 Mar 07
hmm very indian situation ,here husbands feel they are born superior and they need no advise from wife what they is correct and others are not,very disgusting situation,all rights to be irritated ,just take ur time back to ur calm self and try to make him understand ur point and that u r right.lol
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
29 Mar 07
My hubby has never made me feel as though he is superior, he just has this impression(as most of my family does) that I am superwoman. I bring it on myself as I have always been able to manage everything for everybody. But you're right, I do need to calm down before I talk to him about it, otherwise it's gona be a big fight, and I don't have time to fight with him.
• Grand Junction, Colorado
29 Mar 07
Well this may help to settle at least the bank issue. From being in the finance industry for many years it's not always convenient to have spouses sign together due to conflicting schedules. Most banks will accommodate you. All you have to do is call the bank and set up a separate time to sign the documents that's convenient for you. He can still go and sign where needed. Both parties don't have to be present at the same time. As for the dog at the vet, I would personally at least mention to him that you need his help with that. Unless he also is planning on going to the soccer practice in which one of you will most certainly be late. Better late than never. Hope this helps to try and keep the peace. :)
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I said something to him about that, unfortunately our loan officer doesn't work Saturday and the only time I am free is at 9am Saturday. I have to teach a "Safe Kids" class at the soccer facility for new coaches from 10-3 and told my 4 year old I'd take her to the Easter Egg Hunt at the local childrens farm at 4pm Saturday. My hubby works Saturdays until 1pm and I have to get my oldest from my moms too. Hopefully my mom will just drop my oldest off at t he soccer facilty and she can hang out for a few hours. Man, maybe I do need to slow down! LOL
• Canada
29 Mar 07
Good idea!!! Tell him to leave early for the dog, and then tell us what happens. My Sweetheart and I would never do stuff like that to eachother. Our plans are OUR plans, not his and not mine. My plans are my plans, his plans are his plans, but our plans are OUR plans. We would never do something so selfish.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
29 Mar 07
It is selfish of him! I think I've made the mistake of always being able to work my schedule around stuff so I can fit anything in, and now he's taking it for granted.
@kurtbiewald (2628)
• United States
29 Mar 07
ok first lets get this straight, your husband doesn't know what a FIL is, so he is jealous. Lets start there. Papers, boss , car, $5000, appointment, 5pm, 4am, signing, office, botherations, clients, pay, reschedule, appointment, mouth, other, dog, fixed, pick, socccer, across, work, he likes it anyway, stop all that and just rest for a few months maybe
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@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
30 Mar 07
My hubby does stuff like that too, all the time. I will be trying to tell him when I can do something, and he will not even hear me. It is aggravating, but I don't think he does it to make me mad, he just doesn't think.
@Kaeli72 (1230)
• United States
29 Mar 07
Sit down...take a breather...it's ok. Fortunately, you're not alone. Not all husbands are like that, but it comes naturally to men to be that way. When I was preggy with our son, we would be in church until nearly 6 hours. That's alot of pressure for a preggy woman to have to deal with. I would beg and plead with him for letting me stay at home because it would hurt me too much. You know what he said, "G-d will give you the strenth!" Again, my potty mouth escaped and I tend to forget what he said to me afterwards. There are times when I have a great idea and plan in my head and tell it to him. He disreagaurds it as "what does she know...she's just a female" syndrome. Well, after the event took place, he realized something and mentions he could have done it better with a different plan. He nearly gets throttled by me as I'm sceaming, "I TOLD YOU TO DO IT THAT WAY! But would you listen? NNNOOOOO!!!" Men, they'll never learn. Remember sweety, men have two heads to think with...not enough blood for both.
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@atramesil (685)
• United States
29 Mar 07
Yes, I to have an idiot of my own. (love him, plan on keeping him, but an idiot non the less).
@navtech (1776)
• India
29 Mar 07
Like this problems faced by many wives every corner of the world. It is matter of adjustment than that of making an issue. Of course your hushand will listen to your problems and he can make arrangement for time adjustment. One thing I agree, that your hubby should ask your convenient time before making any appointment.
@maevic (821)
• Bahrain
29 Mar 07
Yes, I really understand your point. BUt as of this time, appointments are already made but you can try some options: Call the vet and advise that you will get the og at 3:30 and go to the bank at 4pm. I don't know how much time you would spend on the bank but you can go back to the office around 4:20 then close at 5pm. Take a quick meal and then go to the soccer practice at 6pm. One more thing is to talk to your husband that u got irritated with him deciding about the appointment without asking you. Don't shut up ok? This will make you crazy. It's very rude for him to do that. Though it's up to you how you will handle him in these matters.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
29 Mar 07
lol yup maybe you should! Do you think he would get the hint? You sure have a busy schedule . Hope your team wins yeah!!!!
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
29 Mar 07
I don't blame you for being ticked of with him about that Why is it that Men never think that we have plans to and that they can just make Appointments without asking if you are available. My Ex Husband used to be like that but I refused in the end to keep changing my Plams
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@bad1981 (799)
• United States
29 Mar 07
Yes, my husband does this alot too...or makes appointments for himself and assumes I have nothing going so I can watch my kids. Men jsut dont get it sometimes.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
29 Mar 07
Sometimes giving a dose of his own medicine is a good remedy! I have also had these trials and tribulations with the hubby. It is very annoying and in the end you end up doing most of the accomodating. Sometimes men are insensitive clods and take for granted all that you do. Have you talked to him about how you feel? If you haven't, it is high time you should. Wait until you are not irritated or it will turn into a big hullaballoo!
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