I find this very disturbing, Girls, do you really want to look like a skeleton?

Skinny minnie - Skinny girls are not healthy
March 29, 2007 3:39am CST
I read a rather worrying article this morning that said, based on a survey of 5000 women. '97% of women think that size 12 is fat' and that '58% think that men find size zero attractive' This is very disturbing and serious issue here folks. There are kids as young as 6 going on crash diets because they think they are too fat, there are teenagers starving themselves in order to fit into size zero clothes and there are women whose lives revolve around whether to eat one lettuce leaf or two in order to slavishly follow the fashion. I don't understand, why?Guys, do you really, truthfully and honestly think that a woman that looks like a skeleton is really attractive? Girls, do you really, truthfully and honestly think that being a size zero is attractive?Parents, do you really, truthfully and honestly want your children to grow up with this kind of thinking?Please, think about this issue and let me have your thoughts.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I too believe that we have a problem here in the United States. Many of our girls think that they are fat. We as a society see women in magazines who have been air brushed and angled to look thinner, celebrities are persecuted for gaining weight and so are models. Tyra Banks was a victim of this recently. She has a fuller figure but by no means is she fat! She is proud of her body and she came out and went to war with the media. I am glad she did. When I was in high school, I starved myself to be 125 lbs. If I could have gotten thinner I would have done it. I took laxatives, weight loss pills, lived on slim fast shakes, refused to just eat at all for days at a time. I was teased as a kid by my family that I was chubby and fat. So, I starved myself. My mother finally got so worried that she would make me sit at the table and watch me eat. I told her that she should be happy that I was so skinny, because she used to say I was chubby and fat. She finally told me she was wrong to say those things. It didn't help, I still did it. I quit doing it when I got married and I began gaining weight at warp speed. I am heavy now, because my thyroid is completely destroyed from the abuse I did to my body. I however am very confident and I think women of all shapes and sizes are beautiful. I sometimes look in the mirror and see how big I have become and I don't like it, I excercise twice a day and do what I can to just be healthy. If I lose the weight I lose the weight, if I don't, I just want to be healthier. My daughter now says that she is getting fat, but I keep telling her no she isn't. She really is thin and very beautiful. She is tall like her father, but she looks in the mirror and sees what all girls see....her faults. I told her that women in magazines aren't real. They are air brushed and posed to look thinner. That in real life they don't look like perfection. I also tell her that she is beautiful just the way she is and God doesn't make mistakes. If he wants her to be this way then that is how it is. We are all different, we all have different body shapes and we all gain and lose weight differently. The lat few months she has been fine and hasn't tried to diet anymore. I hope it stays that way.
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29 Mar 07
OMG hun, this is exactly the kind of thing that really has to be stopped and stopped now. It is a terrible thing to have to face up to and the long term effects can be devastating. People should read your story and see for themselves just how warped the thinking is these days. I really wish you and your family all my best wishes.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
29 Mar 07
It is a story that most people should read, but mine is not even close to the worst, sad to say. This is something that needs to be taken care and soon. Our young ladies are literally killing themselves to be thin! Thanks for the best response I really appreciate it!
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@rhinoboy (2129)
21 May 07
I just found and replied to the discussion, but wanted to express my agreement with the sentiment above. We are all on this rock with what we're given. Some of us are meant to be bigger, some thinner. My wofe always had issues with her body and I repeat it like a mantra. "Don't lose weight / get skinny / tone-up etc. Just live healthy!" If you're eating well and exercising plenty, your body WILL become the size and shape it's SUPPOSED to be. I'm currently chubby because I've been lazy and over-indulged for a number of years, but recovering from this will require only to cut out the cakes and get more exercise. These poor girls are starving themselves because they see muscle tone as fat and reduce it by not eating. It makes me wonder whether they sit in biology classes reading vogue instead of studying anatomy?
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• Singapore
29 Mar 07
Definitely not. I think it is really disturbing to see girls so thin - as thin as wraiths. I really think one does not need to be overly thin to be considered beautiful. In fact, you might cease to be beautiful when you get too thin. :P
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@klystron635 (1520)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
In our country, being fat or being thin is not a big issue. Sometimes it becomes an issue but compared to the US ours is a lot mellow. I was shocked when I watched an episode on Tyra Banks show that a girl around 6 refused to eat because she said she want to be a skinny model. And she thinks the only way to be a model is to stop eating. Her mother has to force her to eat but the kid really does refuse to do so. I am deeply worried about how the media in the US pressures their kids. I don't think being fat or thin is an issue.
29 Mar 07
When you open a magazine and see people like Victoria Beckham looking like a walking skeleton, and realise that this is the image that kids aspire to, it worries me. It seems that the image of ideal beauty these days is sunken cheeks, skeletal arms and legs and what kind of health issues are they storing up for the future.
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@davido (1624)
• Canada
29 Mar 07
I think it is the Americans that started this what i call nonsence behavioural attitude, cause they carve this useless idol for models making them to be skinny. This is what we call "Lepa Dollar" which leterally means thin like a Dollar. Now it driving their kids crazy that they cant even direct the kids to follow a healthy way of life. Well in Africa we dont make it mandatory for models or anybody to be so thin like a walking skeleton in orther to make it in the business, infact if you are that thin here then its either such is a AIDS patient. No man can say he like so much or attracted to a skinny scallywag.
29 Mar 07
You make a very valid point here hun. Comparing images of stick thin models with the starving and destitute in the world just about sums it all up and should be a wake up call to the world.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I agree with you both. I don't think it should be mandatory to be skinny like a skeleton to be a model. They look sick! Who in reality could wear these clothes? It is nice to know that there are men who are attracted to women who have figures and aren't attracted to the skinny skallywags!
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@kclaret59 (587)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
i don't really look after looking like a skeleton.. a little meat will do.. ehheheeh
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• Philippines
29 Mar 07
I don't think it is about guys finding thin woman more beautiful. Because I thought so before, but fortunately I had my share of relationships, even if I'm not the ramp model type. For me, the problem is the media. It has too much influenced on the young people. My daughter of three sometimes do sit ups, "excercise" she said so she would be "sexy". She doesn't really know what she is doing but it is alarming to see that the media has such influence. And at least it is exercising she knows, not hunger strike, which is worst. But fortunately, I don't have a problem for feeding her, because she also knows that nutrition means health. I try to often watch tv with her. So I can explain when this or that is not good. We really have to guide our kid to avoid them to have eating disorder. And build up their self confidence and self esteem. So they won't be too much influence by media. By the way, thank you for adding me to your friends!! (^^,) Looking forward to more of your discussions.!
29 Mar 07
Glad to have you as a friend hun and equally glad to hear that your daughter isn't likely to fall prey to the media hype. One of my mates has a daughter of 6 and she is now "dieting" because the girls at school said she was fat. Fortunately Meg has the common sense to make sure her daughter knows this isn't true but it is very worrying for her nonetheless.
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@dfinster (3538)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I think this is a very disturbing trend that's happening all over today. It's these ideas that are being conveyed to young girls that are causing them do do terrible and unhealthy thingsto themselves mentaly and physically.
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29 Mar 07
Thank you for your comments, I think it is high time this issue was acted on and the media and fashion industry made to rethink their ideas
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• Philippines
29 Mar 07
I have this friend of mine who keeps asking me,"Am I fat?" The same question all day and everyday. I mean she's all skin and bones; thin as a rail. And I'm like," If she thinks she's fat, what does she think of me?" I mean who cares about how you look you can't just force yourself not to eat just because you want to look like those models in magazines. Well, yes! it's a major issue today especially to teenage girls and worse younger girls. You don't have to be skinny just to be beautiful or just to fit in.
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29 Mar 07
I hope you tell your friend that she's too thin. She cannot be healthy like that, how anyone can think this is attractive is beyond all reason. Thank you so much for your words.
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@roque20 (518)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
i dont think that a girl who is very thin is attractive. actually, when i see girls or a person who is very i thin i feel pity for him because i think they lack of nutritions or they have no money buy foods. but some i thought is just for fashion but i dont think its nice to look at. when i am at the age of 16 i tried to starve just to be look like a model and it works out but my health was affected and i was admit to the hospital.
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@milkymoon (119)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I find that I am not as influenced by the media about my weight. I realize that these women have lives REVOLVE around looking beautiful and thin, and I don't need to be like that. It would be unrealistic for me to strive to look like them. Being Asian, I think there might be more pressure to be thin, because many Asian girls are just naturally skinny. All my life, my family has called me fat or chubby, and that hurt a lot, but I got used to it. I lived in America for most of my life, until I moved to Taiwan for two years. I had never considered myself THAT overweight until then, because I was constantly teased at school by my male classmates and male FRIENDS about my weight.
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
30 Mar 07
No, I sure don't want to look like a skeleton.
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• United States
2 May 07
I agree that size 12 is fat ,but size 0 is tooooooooooo skiny.
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@Galena (9124)
2 May 07
do you really think size 12 is fat?
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• Japan
2 May 07
Maybe she's naturally skinny like my sisters. Their bones are smaller than I am so they wear size 8s. For your info if you are really chesty you can't really fit into something less than 10 or 12. As for pants, it depends on the length of the legs. I noticed if I go for 30" then I wear an 8, but if I go for 28" I wear a 10.
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2 May 07
Size 12 fat ????? good grief I wouldn't have said so.
@emeraldisle (13158)
• United States
1 May 07
I never cared for the skinny skeleton look and wouldn't want to be that way. When I count their vertebrea or ribs there is something wrong. What gets me is these models all strive to be underwieght and it looks unhealthy and yet most people when they think of pin up girls think of Marilyn Monroe. If she were alive today she wouldn't be a model, she'd be considered too fat. She wore between a size 14 and a size 18. Yes she was proportion but that's not what the industry wants now a days. Before Twiggy though it was quite normal to have a nicely curved proportionate woman as a model but after Twiggy it was the ones that looked like they escaped a POW camp that was in style. It's wrong and I know they are trying to fix it but they need to do a lot more and quickly.
@Galena (9124)
1 May 07
Height: 5 feet, 5½ inches Weight: 118-140 pounds Bust: 35-37 inches Waist: 22-23 inches Hips: 35-36 inches Bra size: 36D so apart from being half an inch shorter and having a smaller waist than mine (mines 25") her proportions are very similar to mine. depending how clothes are fitted, I wear about a 6-8 on the waist, and sometimes 10-12 to accomadate my bum or boobs. (UK sizing. so more between 6-12 than 14-18.
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@emeraldisle (13158)
• United States
1 May 07
Marilyn Monroe - Image of Marilyn Monroe With Tony Randall
Not sure where you got your sizes for things but for a woman bust size 37 wears a size 12 and that's when it's made correctly and also depends on bone structure. For example when I had a 38 bust I had to wear a size 14 due to bone structure. I could not get a 12 on. So maybe an 8, if she got lucky, might be the lowest for her but I'd question a size 6 on her. I added an image of her below looking at her there you can tell she wouldn't wear anything below a ten, at least a US 10.
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@Galena (9124)
1 May 07
as I said, it depends on the fit of the clothes. my bust is 36" and will fit in most UK10s that are very fitted at the bust. and with 35-37, well on average that works out about a 36. if a garment is fitted most at the waist, then I'll fit an 6 or 10, and her waist was smaller than mine. clothes shops are messing clothes sizings around a lot. vanity sizing. they make their version of each size a bit bigger, so that you fit a smaller size than you might elsewhere and if you're silly, buy it because of that. but with those measurements, she'd probably end up mostly around a 10 in most UK High street shops. and they'd be too big at the waist. after all, I find it hard to get clothes that fit narrow enough at my waist, and it's bigger. todays size 16 would definitely be too big. because it would be far too big on me, and I'm generally a bit bigger all over.
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• Canada
21 May 07
I live in Canada and we have the same problems... And the thing is that I am FAT... I'm a size 21 and I also know that even if I lose weight I will only ever at the smallest be a 16... Media has shown that all non anorexic women are fat... but not just media! did you know some clothing stores dont fit above and 12-16? To me that is prejudice and I will not step foot in those stores
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21 May 07
I agree with you 100% hun, most of our clothing stores in the UK only stock sizes 8 to 14 and even then most of their stock is for the skinnies. We have a couple of stores that specialise in clothes in larger sizes BUT most of those clothes look like floral tents :-(
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• Canada
23 May 07
tell me about it... sheesh
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• United States
29 Mar 07
In no way, shape or form is being size zero voluntarily attractive or even healthy. Now, for those woman that are a size zero due to genetics, and they can present themselves well, that is a different story. But, for those woman who think being super skinny is sexy, they are mistaken. Our media is portraying a very dangerous fashion (if you can even call it that). I wish that we could back to the times where woman with a little meat on their bodies were the sexy ones!
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@Galena (9124)
1 May 07
her proportions at the height of her fame were Height: 5 feet, 5½ inches Weight: 118-140 pounds Bust: 35-37 inches Waist: 22-23 inches Hips: 35-36 inches Bra size: 36D so. I'm 5.6. my bust is 36" my waist is 25" ( a little larger than hers) my hips 36" bra, 34C so all in all, I'm mostly a little bigger all over (bust slightly smaller), but not by much so, thinking UK Sizing, a size 16 would hang off me. I wear a 6 or 8 to fit the waist, sometimes a 10 or occasionally 12, mostly in trousers to accomadate my bum. so, sorry, I don't think Marilyn was a size 16. neither does Snopes.
• Philippines
15 Jul 07
Certainly not!true I'd want to be sexier but not as thin as a skeleton.It looks creepy!Honestly,people should not give a damn on how you look like.It's just how you carry yourself.
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16 Jul 07
Very true hun, thanks for your comment
@34momma (13918)
• United States
15 Jul 07
i am s size 12 and no i don't think that i am fat, but i do i can lose a pound or two. i would like to go back to a size. i never thought being skinny was sexy. and i am sad when i see young girls and women try to conform to what is suppose to be sexy. because they see all of these young girls on tv wearing a size too. it is sad. i am a size 12, and in the words of Tyra Banks i say "So What!!!"
16 Jul 07
Thanks hun, size 12 is hardly fat although you would think it from the way the media pick on celebrities and models. It is so upsetting when you see these kids looking stick thin
@worldwise1 (14890)
• United States
13 Jul 07
This trend is contributing greatly towards young girls problems with body image. It is very sad indeed. They just had a celebrity couple's fairytale wedding last weekend, and I was shocked when I saw the bride. She looked so pitifully thin that it brought to mind pictures of starving children in some third world country. I mean, these people have an obscene amount of money at their disposal, but they can't afford a decent meal? It's just plain craziness to me. Whenever I see someone looking like this it makes me all the more thankful for the little bit of extra padding that I have. My mother was fond of saying that we should keep some meat on our bones in case food ever becomes scarce-because then we'd have something to lose down to, LOL.
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13 Jul 07
This subject has been in the news again lately, now it seems the industry has taken some note but they want to stop girls under 16 becoming models instead of addressing the issues of body image in the media. Only this morning there were pictures of Posh Beckham looking like a skeleton, it's so depressing
@toxic_f22 (166)
• United States
23 May 07
Well this goes out to the girls out there.... I know that Boys prefer "Healthy " girls ... Imean .. when I look at a skinny girl , I'm like "Oh god, I thin I just saw a ghost ".....I hate , and so do many of the boys I know , skinny girls.... We all like them a little healthy , not to fat , but not too skinny either... just my views though ... So stop "Crash dieting" and live your life to the fullest...
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23 May 07
Thank you hun, good to hear from a guy on this subject too.
@rhinoboy (2129)
21 May 07
Wow, this is a big one already! i don;t have time to read through everything, but I'll gladly leave my two-penneth just incase you get round to it! It's known under a variety of names, but generally comes down to one thing. Many women have a disproportionate self-image. Even besides the main issue of body weight, every woman I've ever met has a list of things they dislike about their own bodies. I'd love to know what the actual cause of this is, bu tthink that it's generally media and the attempt to match the unhealthy image projected by skinny celebrities. From a guy's POV, I like women to look HEALTHY. Some guys like women slimmer, some like a whole lotta woman! Personally, I like average women with curves rather than muscle and no visible bones besides knees and elbows! My wife actually suffered bulemia when we first met. Having the baby was quite difficult for her, as she's naturally slim, yet grew to a ridiculous size as she came to term. Even now, she complains of her hips and tummy not being how they were, but I LOVE the new her. She's a little curvier and I'm not so scared that I'll bruise an internal organ while hugging!
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21 May 07
Hey thanks hun, a guy's perspective is always good to have on such a thorny subject, and such an erudite response too thanks again.