Seeking advice...my "crowning glory" getting grey!!!

grey hair - my "crowning glory" getting grey
Philippines
March 30, 2007 6:33pm CST
the hair is our "crowning glory". it has the tendency to lose its natural color as we age, but premature greying of hair is something i just can't accept because my hair started greying while i was at my mid 30's and that made me really looked older. they say it's inheritance because my mother at the age of 40 + used to have white hair already, she was a pure filipina, by the way. others say also that it has something to do with the foods i eat. i tried using hair dyes but eventually the more my hair becomes greyer. so i stopped using them. this concerns me a lot because almost everybody's telling me am an old man already.will anyone suggests what would i do to make my hair look black so i would look younger?
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@lvap0628 (731)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
We have the same problem ryanphil01. In my case, it was my father who had prematurely graying hair and I got that from him. I have tried using hair color off and on but my hair gets dry especially during the summers here in the Phils. So I'm resting my hair for a while and color it again when the rainy season comes. I don't use black though instead I use burgundy or chestnut brown. That way, if my hair starts to get gray, it doesn't stand out as much as it does with the black hair.
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
i checked the hair color chart and i prefer a medium dark brown hair (a little bit darker than the chestnut brown). i really wanted to look younger than my age. lol. thanks for the advice.
@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
31 Mar 07
My husband started graying in his early twenties. By 40 his hair was already mostly white. I don't think that the foods you eat have much to do with it, and genetics is probably the main culprit. My father in law's hair also grayed really early but not as early as my husband's. Other than coloring it, I don't really think you have that many options. They say that there are some products that help, but from what I've seen they just bring a metallic unnatural color. SO your choices seem to be either coloring - something that it's done by more men that what we would think - or just relax about it and enjoy. It really doesn't look that bad LOL
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
it's really genetics that explains why our hair becomes grey. perhaps after the lent, i have my hair color to dark brown. not necessarily black
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
1 Apr 07
I am sure you will find what will work the best for you:) There is no right or wrong, really, just what works best for each person. Coloring is a good option that works well. Many men do it , I actually know quite a few.
@joyce959 (1562)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
Dont tell me that greying hair is purely hereditary. My mom and dad started to get grey hair at age 55+. I noticed that white or grey strands started to appear on my crowning glory when I reached 40 years old, though its not yet noticeable that time. Now, the white / grey strands of my hair are becoming noticeable. I don't use black dyes to color my hair because somebody told me that if I started using hair dyes or hair coloring, the the more my hair will turn grey. However, I like looking at purely grey or white hair. It makes the person look like a mestiza or mestizo (if posessing a fair skin). I would just like to add that I noticed strands of grey hair on my kids who are just aged 15 and 19 now. They use gels on their hair for styling. I guess the use of some gels, spray, dyes, shampoo makes the hair grey and so greying is not purely on the genes.
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
yeah you are right. not only heredity is the main cause of greying hair, there are other factors contributing to it like food intake. i rather use loreal.
• Australia
31 Mar 07
On the 'foods you eat' part of it, I heard that a deficiency in manganese can be a cause of premature greying hair. Only other choice: Heh, do what I do, shave it all off! Come on, don't be scared. Once you've done it for a couple of months, you won't even notice anymore. I've been doing it for nearly 16 years now and it's completely normal for me now.
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
it's actually deficiency in some nutrients and minerals that cause greying of hair. may be manganese is one. as to shaving it off, i tried it once when i was younger, but the same thing, grey hairs grew after that.
• United States
31 Mar 07
Yes it is hard to accept the grey hairs. I have had them for quite a few years and I am a woman and only 47 and not ready to be grey at all. I am totally grey now and dye my hair as soon as the roots show to much grey. I used to go to salon but can't afford that right at the moment. Know it is better for hair but that is the way it goes. Not no fun to do all of the time but not ready for the grey hair as of yet. Don't know if ever will be. I just use the ones at walmart nice and easy for loreal. They do have some for men too I believe.
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• Philippines
1 Apr 07
can't think of it that mid-life's gonna be like this. i prefer the loreal.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
31 Mar 07
The decision on whether or not to let your hair go gray is a personal one. I used to dye my hair when I was young and had no grey, but when the gray started coming in in my 40s I decided to go with the flow. Now that I am 60, I only have a minimal amount of gray hair (just enough to be interesting). My suggestion, if you really can't deal with the gray, go to a professional and have it dyed. The upkeep probably won't be too much. In my point of view our society pressures us to do everything we can to avoid looking older. Even though I am a greatgrandmother, I still get many compliments, and people don't believe I am 60.
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• Philippines
1 Apr 07
thanks grandma. you're really an inspiration!!! i think i'll follow your steps.
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Dude, I too am greying earlier than I should. And to make matters worse, this week I found not one but two, TWO grey hours south of the border!! That is simply unacceptable! I am not 40 and won't be for quite sometime. I have been told grey hair is a symptom of folic acid deficiency. I don't know if that is true or not, but I'm about to start taking a whole bottle of the stuff!
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
i read about that,too. deficiency in folic acid results to premature greying of hair. eat a lot of grains and green vegetables coz' they rich in folic acid.
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
Why not dye your hair with neon green on the left side, red on the other and sky blue on top? You're going to be the coolest forty-something old, err... young looking old man in town! Just kidding, of course. About your graying hair and looking old, don't despair. At first we can't accept physical transformation but we'll soon realize that it is unavoidable. No amount of vitamins and eating the right food can bring back those black hair now. Only hair colorants. Do you know why there are so many hair dyes in the market? Maybe it is because no one has invented a miracle cure for preventing graying hair yet. Get that trip to the salon, and forget about looking old for now.
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
i might as well get a hair coloring at the nearest parlor the soonest. LOL
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
You can say that I am really a killjoy. But before going any further, I'd like to say first that your observation as having taken early greying of your hair from your mom is right. These genetic inhereritance or influence really does so much in our lives. I am a killjoy because I don't mind about looking any younger. I don't mind wearing my greying hair around. But since you are that anxious, have your hair coloured. My mom and sisters are doing that. I am amazed at how much one look younger when the hair colour is black again. Try it and discover for yourself whether you will do it continuously or leave it at that, hair getting grey and looking older than your real age. Whichever you are comfortable in.
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
no, you're not being a killjoy. you're just too good to be true. among my brothers and sisters, i am the one that has inherited most from my mother of having white hair(not anymore grey hair). i am not supposed to be looking like a 60 year old guy with my white hair. that really made me conscious. all of my friends keep telling me to color my hair so i would be looking younger, and i think it's the right time to do hair dyeing again. whenever i see my photos, i really wanted to burn them up. i really looked like then senator ramon mitra sr(may he rest in peace!)lol
@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
I don't think that's a good idea to try to make yourself look younger. I mean, when they say you're old then let it be. They, too, will become old someday and they will experience to have grey hairs. In short, being old is a fact of life. Let it show! - Ron Reyes www.ronreyes.co.nr
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
not at my age now. am still 48. perhaps when i become a senior citizen that would be more acceptable.
• United States
31 Mar 07
just look at it as if it was a sign of wisdom I do i used to dye my hair then i decided to just let it be and everyone says it looks better now !
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• Philippines
1 Apr 07
that's what they are saying. having grey or white hair is a sign of wisdom. i like it, but it's really better for me to wear a liitle bit dark brown hair. lol
@moneytree (188)
• India
31 Mar 07
Hey its simple use a hair colour Loreal is good if its too much to work around with go to a parlour and they will do it for you, or else just forget what people say it shouldnt make a difference because you are what you are.
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• Philippines
31 Mar 07
yeah, you convinced me more to really have a hair colour. thanks.
• India
15 Dec 07
I hardly go for a haircut/trim, because I want to grow out my hair to at least halfway down my back, cutting off half the length in the front. I'm still trying to grow that stuff out.I do trim my own hair, though, with my own scissors- gotta get those split ends.