My ex-husband still thinks he is in love with me.
By KiraSienna
@KiraSienna (45)
United States
March 31, 2007 5:05pm CST
What would you do if your ex-husband told you he was still in love with you after being divorced for 3 years and were both remarried? My ex-husband and I both remarried. I am now married to a wonderful man who treats me and my kids with love and respect (something we never had from my ex-husband). He divorced his current wife last week and told her that he was still in love with me. He sent me an email telling me his feelings and told me he needed an answer by this past Friday whether I was going to leave my husband and come back to me. He is a very controlling person and never treated me and my oldest daughter very good. He also tried to bring another woman into our marriage. There is no way I would ever take him back but we have been friends for 20 years. I am to the point that I don't care about our friendship and am ready to tell him never to talk to me again. What do you think?
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@SilPhil (267)
• Australia
1 Apr 07
I can only see one reason for him to remain in your life, and that is for the children that you had with him. If they wish to have a relationship with their father, then it is probably worth trying to salvage at least a basic friendship. I can just imagine it would be easier on the children if they want both their mother and father in their life if they could at least be civil to each other, and to agree on what is best for the children.
However, from what I've read it sounds as though your ex-husband is detrimental to your current relationship. Let him know that you are happy where you are and don't wish to get back together with him, but would like to remain on good terms for the childrens sake. Don't let him guilt or control you into doing anything you aren't willing to do.
At the end of the day, just do what is best for you and your kids. They are the ones that matter, not some ex-husband who is trying to toy with your emotions once more.
@KiraSienna (45)
• United States
1 Apr 07
That is the only reason that I have remained friends with him is because of the children. When he got remarried to his new wife, she has a daughter too, I knew it would be hard for him to take care of a family and pay child support to me so we agreed that I would claim both the girls at tax time and that he didn't have to pay child support. By doing that I lose $3000 a year for my kids, but I was trying to be nice and make it easier on him because we were friends. I got along with his 2nd wife and treated her daughter as one of my own. Anyway, my ex-husband only wants to get our children when it is convienent for him. For two weeks he spent more time with them than he has in the past 3 years. He has taken them on camping trips, taken them out to eat, spent money on them, and called them every night. But now, since I have rejected him, he acts like he doesn't want to see them.
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
1 Apr 07
I would tell him that if he can't respect you enough to not give you ultimatums regarding your friendship that you will no longer consider him a friend. What a set of kahoonies this guy has.
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I would not let him ruin what you have now. If he cant respect the way it is, then he has a poblem. You have the right to go forward and you have the right to say goodbye.
