April 1, 2007 12:01am CST
My son is 15 years old and for some reason he thinks he is gang related. We live in a small town of about 3000 or so.(We recently moved only 15 miles from a town of about 100,000 because we purchased a fixer upper house at a real good price and decided to live in it while we fix it up) Now he has a lot of friends from where we moved from and has made a handful of friends here. I notice him and the way he dresses. I constantly have to tell him to pull his pants up, what are the gang signs for etc. Someone please tell me he is gonna grow out of this. He is a very handsome young man standing 6'2" tall. He is the Football and Basketball great here in town. He is very smart even though he is slightly struggling in school.(I stay on him). Is there anyone that may have gone through this stage and outgrew it or have children that has gone through this. I need answers.
• United States
18 Apr 07
I would say it's probably just a teenage phase. Just keep an eye on him, and who he's hanging out with. About 2 years ago, my now 15 year old girl decided she like the "goth" look, with a twist to it lol. Wore a lot of black, and such, black eyeliner, black nail polish, dyed her hair black(I did too, was kinda cool lol)cut her hair real short in the back long in the front. I let her go with it for awhile, but when she came out for school one morning with the Alice Cooper eyeliner, going down her eyes in a line, I drew my own line lol. Said no freaking way, you look absolutely ridiculous, go wash it off or I will!! She stopped that phase when we moved, she had to go to another school where they were more, rednecky I guess you could say. Haven't seen my Alice Cooper daughter since :) Now she's into the oh isn't this sooo cute clothes phase again, much more enjoyable. I think all kids have to go through an "experimental" phase, and you should let them, with limits if needed. And like I said, just watch them, their friends, their grades for any signs of problems brewing.
• United States
18 Apr 07
Another thing I forgot to add, take a trip up to the school one day. Look around at how "most" of the kids are dressing. You'll see the different cliques that were common when we were in school, but see if a majority of them are dressing how he is. May just be the fad or fashion statement and he's just trying to fit in. Or, if it's the minority dressing that way, that would be a sign that that's the "group" or clique he's associated with, and probably the one that accepts him more readily.