Who is there for you when

@whyaskq (7553)
Singapore
April 4, 2007 4:25am CST
you need someone, either to chat, talk or share, be it for joy, fun or laughter? It may be to share your joy It may be to talk over a personal problem It may be to get advice It may be to let out a grouse It may be to borrow .... It may be to give ..... It may be to ....... The list is endless. We do not live just for ourselves. We are in a community sharing with one another happiness, love, hatred, kindness, be it joy or agonies. Other than god, some may turn to their partner, a close friend, parents, sibblings, doctors, councilors, or even strangers. What about you? Who do you turn to in times of joy or woe or when you need help? Will they be there for you when you need them?
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@gapeach65 (805)
• United States
7 Apr 07
I turn to my husband! He's the best, it's always so reassuring when I hear his voice, sometimes, he just needs to be there for me, even if it's just over the phone. I will also turn to my daughter sometimes. I used to call my mom sometimes too, know that she's gone, I have my husband and my daughter.
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@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
8 Apr 07
Gapeach, you still have us, your online friends :)
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
4 Apr 07
Yes they will be there for me and I am lucky as I have my lovely Man that is there for me, My Children and my loving and caring Friends on here and I know these People are here for me when I need them They have proved it many a time.
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@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
4 Apr 07
Its really good to have friends who have proven to be always there for you. I envy you. Thanks for sharing.
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4 Apr 07
Happy Hugs - Happy Hugs from a good friend
When I am feeling down and depressed I usually turn to my partner. I am lucky really, he understands me well and knows when to speak and when to just hold me. The other person is my best friend, someone I have known for the best part of 20 years
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@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
4 Apr 07
I agree you are lucky. It is really a blessing to have someone who knows when to speak and when to just hold :)
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@Darkwing (21590)
28 Apr 07
Firstly, I'll turn to my Deity, then my inner self, but when I get to the stage that I want to talk, or get confirmation that what I've decided to do is going to be best, I will turn to my closest friends. I know they will support me through thick and thin, as they know I will support them in similar situations. Brightest Blessings my friend.
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@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
28 Apr 07
What if your closest friends give you alternative opinion? Will you change your mind because of their comments?
@Darkwing (21590)
28 Apr 07
Sometimes... I would certainly consider their opinions. I'm a Libra by birth and a true Libran in that I weigh everything up to find a balance. So, this is the way I would deal with friends' opposing opinions; weigh them up against my own and come to a final decision that way.
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
28 Apr 07
The first person I turn to would be my husband and if I have an issue with him and need to talk to someone about it then its either my twin sister or my best friend who lives in Hawaii. Those are about the only people I talk to when it comes to personal issues or if I need help. I am always there for them too, especially my twin sister :)
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@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
28 Apr 07
Just curious, does your twin sister think alike in most situations?
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
28 Apr 07
No not really! we are the complete opposite. She is very strong minded/strong willed and often speaks her mind. This is due to the fact that she had an accident when she ws 7 or 8 (hit by a hockey stick in the eye and is blind). She is very determined and very caring and raises 4 wonderful children. She has always been my inspiration and one who I look up to all the time (even though I am 45 minutes older than her LOL).
@DeaXyza (577)
• United States
9 Apr 07
My spouse or my siblings. My spouse is very understanding and almost all the time I go to him irrespective of happiness or sadness, grief or a good news. When I am happy his enthusiasm doubles my happiness and if I am sad just the unburdening and his understanding helps in getting over my tough situation! He is one of the finest human beings I have had the joy of being married to!
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@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
9 Apr 07
It is indeed the envy of many to have a wonderful and supportive spouse. Cherish him :)
@DeaXyza (577)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I do cherish him and treasure him. Thanks a lot :)
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@bluewings (3857)
4 Apr 07
It's my friends ,family and my online friends that I share my joyous moments with.However,if I am in a grumpy mood ,I go to a few of my friends.They seem to understand me well.Perhaps they have parented me in my past life,lol.They always have something to say that either lifts my mood or gives me a solution. It rarely happens that I can't find any solution at all to a problem I have and if that happens I turn to my bed,lol.A good nap rejuvenates me and I am ready for another day.But as I said,usually talking to my friends helps me when I am low and yes,they are there for me when I need them.
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@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
4 Apr 07
I hope that you do share your joys with those friends whom you share your downs. And the god of sleep, he is always the best friend for me ;P
@bluewings (3857)
4 Apr 07
Sure,I do.As they hold me together in my lows,it's only fair that they have the first access to my joy too.:)
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@AmbiePam (46158)
• United States
18 Apr 07
It would have to be my mom. Sure, there are other people, but she is the first human I talk to. Since God doesn't count. : ) Ssh.. don't tell Him. LOL My mom is just there to listen and very non judgmental. And that is a special thing, especially in a parent.
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@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
19 Apr 07
Yes, parents will definitely listen to their children. I try not to talk to my mum as she gets worried very easily and I don't want her to worry unnecessarily.
@Zelmarq (11508)
• Cebu City, Philippines
18 Apr 07
I share all my bitter and sweet memories with my friends and but there is one person who is always there to help me out when I need someone; my boy friend i sthe one who lifts me up when I need a hand and a shoulder to cry on. I just wonder even Im not that sweet or that caring to him he still gives me the extra care and I thank God for sending me his angel.
@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
19 Apr 07
It's wonderful to have a supportive boyfriend. Continue cherishing him but dont neglect your friends too :P
@raijin (10380)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Other than family, I go with my friends. They are one of the best reason why I am always happy, with all the things we shared and all the adventures we've had, I am very thankful in having them. There are times when they give me joy and happiness in times that I'm down, and I also make sure that I do the same thing with them. It's a good way of giving and taking, a natural wonder in establishing good friendly relationships. I'm very happy to say that we do try our best to be with each other, not only during the time we need, but because they are just simply there everytime. I'm proud of my friends because our relationship with each other is genuine, and that our friendship doesn't evolve around money..
@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
9 Apr 07
It is really a blessing if one has true and genuine friends to share at all times. Money is one good test of true friendship :P
@charms88 (7546)
• Philippines
8 Apr 07
I tend to hide myself in my shell whenever I have troubles. I rarely share any unpleasant things with my friends as I don't like to burden them. If I really needed to talk about my problems, I will holler my two best friends. They will be right beside me to hear me out. As for online friends, I don't give anything out. Everyone knew me as charms and that's fine by me. :)
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@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
9 Apr 07
People are always sharing joy and afraid to share troubles for fear of burdening people. But what are friends for if they can only share your joy and not your woes. I share my friends' joy and woes, if they do come to me :)
@Darkwing (21590)
7 Apr 07
I usually turn to friends or family. I certainly wouldn't approach a strange straight away with anything personal. I like to know I can trust a body before I start sharing things with them... otherwise, they're going to think you've gone nuts! ha ha ha Brightest Blessings, Why.
@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
8 Apr 07
ya, telling a stranger face to face is "nuts". I would not be able to do it but online, I think I can, probably because it is online in nature and no one can see my face goes red :P
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
Hi! Other than advice, agonies, insecurities and the need to borrow (these are for siblings and parents), I turn to my nephews and niece. They provide such unconditional love. They bring fun, joy, laughter and a very refreshing outlook towards life that never fails to amaze me. When you need someone it is always nice to go to someone who needs you more. I always do that and I end up forgetting why I "needed" in the first place. Thanks for this post. Nice. Have a great day and happy posting!
@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
8 Apr 07
sick4muzick, you do indeed have a refreshing idea. "Go to someone who needs you more". I just hope I can do it. It's similar to helping others to help yourself, a theory I know but just find it hard to practice. Thanks for the reminder :)
@samrat16 (2442)
• India
4 Apr 07
I'm a married man and I find that my wife is always there with me . She is the person I can chat with. share my problems , enjoy happy moments and be with her for most happy moments of my life. I like to get advice from her as she is very unbiased . I think she is always there when I need her.
@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
4 Apr 07
Not good enough to think so. Must be able to confirm. LOL.
@charms88 (7546)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
I tend to keep all my troubles to myslef. In fact, I'm pretty good at hiding it. Nobody even close friends will ever know that something is bothering me. I only share my happiness but never my problems. Only two persons know the real me. My best friend and somebody from my past.
@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
4 Apr 07
It is really good if you do not have any problems, but it is not good to keep your problems to yourself nor hide them from sight. It is not important who knows the real you. It is only you matters to them or they to you :P
• Singapore
4 Apr 07
I don't know. Sometimes I talk to friends about my problems. Sometimes I find it easier to talk to strangers. Other times, I turn to online friends who are sort of in-between. But ultimately, I always realise that it is useless to talk to them because they never can provide me any real help. That's why when I do open up to them, it's because I have bottled it up too long. It will be a miracle if just talking to them will make my situation better.
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@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
4 Apr 07
Sometimes, I find that by talking out, a solution presents itself automatically. It is not that the situation will turn better just by talking :P
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
4 Apr 07
I am very fortunate that god has given me such wonderful friends that are there for me when I need them, with my friends I would have been a street person a long time ago.
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@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
4 Apr 07
Guess you are a fortunate bunch to cherish each other :)
@easy888 (10406)
• Australia
19 Apr 07
I have a best friend who always support me no matter i get any problems. When I just want to talk to someone and share my unhappiness with her,she will be right there for me,when I am boring ,I will call her and talk for a while,or when I would like to get some advise from someone, she will be the first person I will ask.