Do You Tell Or Not?

April 9, 2007 7:46pm CST
Ok, so your Ex has moved to another State. Ten years has past with no real communication except for child support etc. Since that time you have a new life with a new partner. Now your Ex is coming back to town and wants to meet up with you. Two questions, Do you secretly meet with your Ex? Or, Do you tell your partner and take them along to the meeting?
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• United States
10 Apr 07
Definitely tell. What's to hide? It's an "EX" for a reason and it's also 10 years later. Basing any relationship on lies being acceptable is just a recipe for failure. There's not even any question for me... honesty is the best policy.
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• Canada
11 Apr 07
Bravo! I agree all the way. Keep it above board. If you feel the need to hide and meet your EX from 10 years ago behind the back of your current soulmate, then something is wrong with your current relationship. Thanx for responding.
@earth2jacq (1503)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
I definitely would tell my partner. It is better to be honest now than having to explain later. Atleast your current partner will see that you have no intentions whatsoever but just to meet up as a friend with your ex. I also don't have any issues if my partner wants to come along with the meeting, all the more better if he is there.
@caribe (2465)
• United States
24 Apr 07
I definitely would tell my partner. You should not have that kind of secret that your spouse know nothing about. If you do, it will come out later probably and it won't look too pretty to your spouse. It's better to be truthful from the start and go together to meet them.
• Canada
24 Apr 07
This exact thing happened to me a couple of months ago when I was visiting my boyfriend in Arizona. His ex-wife was in town. She called to meet him, and I answered the phone. I happened to get there first. Other times when my boyfriend answered the phone when I was there, he put it on speaker, so we'd have no secrets. WE agreed to meet with his ex-wife together. All THREE of us went out for lunch, and we had a great time. We also went to visit his daughter (her step-daughter) who was in hospital in a nearby city. We were all honest with eachother, and it was a fine day.