Marriage Invitation by SMS / Text Msg, is that ok ?

@femimi (872)
Indonesia
April 10, 2007 12:37pm CST
In my country (and maybe same like yours) SMS / text msg is become a habit, also a quite cheap way to communicate with others. You can congrate people in special occasion by using MMS / EMS (means text with picture inside), and making very crowded traffic for the provider in special days (like Christmas, Idul Fitri, New Year, etc). But what do you think about sending / receiving marriage invitation by sms ? Do you think is it polite enough inviting people in that way (note : since marriage is one of important celebration for us), because some people doing that, and some people are offended receiving such invitation by sms especially if we live in the same city. So what do you feel if you receiving marriage invitation via sms / text msg ?
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15 responses
• China
16 Apr 07
in fact ,SMS and textmsg is more and more pop now , I think it is acceptable the marriage invitiation between friends and classmates.but for the reactive ,I think it is not a good way to invite them, this tradtional is hard to be canceled soon.
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@Bizziebod (3527)
13 Apr 07
Hi, I think recieving an invite to a wedding by text is a bit ott and impersonal. I guess it could suit some people though if they are busy or on a budget maybe, but personally I wouldn't send invition by text.
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@uu4h708 (638)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
id see that as a joke... ahihihi.... i mean if its a marriage proposal done by real couples , i dont see anything wrong with it.. but if its a stranger... ahuh!! no way.... id appreciate it more if they give me load though..
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@wolfie34 (26868)
• United Kingdom
10 Apr 07
Well it certainly saves money by not sending highly priced invitation or wedding cards LOL as if wedding aren't expensive enough! It wouldn't make any odds to me and I think in this day and age what with technology taking over that it will become the norm and snail mail will gradually die out.
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@waytovj (268)
• India
10 Apr 07
Well I dont think there is anything wrong in sending a text in such occasions. Then again its always better to give a ring or send a card. There is a remarakable difference when you do so. A card or a ring shows that you have taken pains to do that and you really want the person to be there. In the modern day I dont know if this stands valid. Its all about convinience. I dont think anyone will stand for writing a letter to email the same way text message invitation can also be the rule of the times.
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@vebela (310)
• United States
10 Apr 07
That is a horrible way to propose for marriage, regardless of how far apart you live, and even worse for living in the same city. A marriage proposal should be as special to the two people involved as the ceremony should be, considering you are declaring that you are spending the rest of your life together. Sending a marriage proposal by text message is offensive. If I got one that way, I would think that you really don't have time for me...or, that I'm not special enough in your life to put any effort in proposing to.
@femimi (872)
• Indonesia
10 Apr 07
I mean marriage / wedding invitation not propose someone :) Sorry if I make mistake in my vocabularies if make a lil bit misunderstanding :)
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@vebela (310)
• United States
10 Apr 07
Oh, I see. Sorry for my misunderstanding. In that case, it is the choice of the happy couple how they want to invite their guests. Of course, the proper way to do it is through a formal invitation. However, if there is a need to keep the costs low, and text messaging is one of those ways, I wouldn't fault the couple for it. I've gotten invitations through the Evite website, and through social networks such as Facebook and Myspace. If the people receiving it are offended, they are forgetting that it is not their special day. The focus should be on the happiness and future happiness of the couple to be married, and all that pettiness should be put aside. Why be offended when the whole affair is a celebration? I don't see the point in being offended.
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@dpauli (407)
• Indonesia
16 Apr 07
It's really improper way to propose a woman. Since we're from same sountry, I think we both agree it's like 'taboo' to our people. And a man who do that just like someone with no courage at all or afraid to be rejected, or don't want to think any better way. I hope my bf won't propose me that way, lol
@dpauli (407)
• Indonesia
16 Apr 07
ouch, ya. I was mistaken. I thought it was a proposal. But wedding invitation by sms is improper way either in our people. They will think they're not been honoured by the couple.
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• Singapore
10 Apr 07
Goodness, of course not! It is not as if a person gets married every other day. Marriage is supposed to be a once in a lifetime kind of affairs.. invitation by sms is just not solemn enough.
@femimi (872)
• Indonesia
10 Apr 07
Well I think the person think this is the simple way :p I have some friends who do this, and also many friends reject to come if they invited only by sms
• United States
10 Apr 07
To me, to send or recieve invitation about marriage through SMS is not polite at all It means you dont care enough about that person In my country, we go to our closest friends and relatives to invite them for marriage so its not good idea to do that specially you are in same city and if you are in different city then you should call and should not use SMS
@femimi (872)
• Indonesia
10 Apr 07
I also think that we still must see the limitation from text msg relates to polite culture. So not all condition we can use text msg because not all people can receive that also.
@busta1 (1029)
• United States
21 May 08
i dnt see why it would be rong but its not the best way to do it at all...its kinda embarrassing i think...i wouldnt do it
• Philippines
16 Apr 07
I have never heard of this thing yet, all my life. I believe marriage is one of the most important event in ones life, as it is a once in a lifetime occasion, unlike birthdays, christmas, and all those celebrated days which happen every year. My family, relatives, and friends used to personally invite the people for wedding celebrations, and that is with matching enveloped printed wedding invitation. We just don't text them inviting them to come over for the wedding. It seem quite impolite if we do it that way!
@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
16 Apr 07
I thought at first you meant the marriage proposal itself through a text message! I think a wedding is such a formal event, unless it is a barefoot on the beach do, aper invitations would be best. It sets the tone.
14 Apr 07
I dont think SMS is suitable as a wedding invitation. Call me old fashioned but I would prefer a proper paper invitation.
@usama46 (864)
• Pakistan
10 Apr 07
i think it is the best way of using technology i don't mind if i receive any invitation for this way i accept it .
@KissThis (3008)
• United States
10 Apr 07
I would have to assume that someone didn't really care about me if they felt the need to sms me to ask if I will marry them. That is very rude.