Why do you think it's difficult to hide one's feelings?

Philippines
April 12, 2007 6:03am CST
No matter you deny it, or you just can't accept it, I can see that my friend really loves that guy. She keeps on saying that she really doesn't like him but then I can see it in her actions..why do you think is this so? It's really hard too to hide one's feelings...do you think it could be seen by the person you're inlove to? And have you any experiences about this? thanks
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7 responses
@leanette (3004)
• India
12 Apr 07
Well, in MOST cases its really hard to hide what you strongly feel inside, when around close friends and family. Because they know you inside out, and can read no matter facade you put up to hide. I, however, am really good at hiding things inside if I want to. NOt even my family nor my closest of friends can find what am feeling then, or what am thinking. I would be tearing down inside, yet can put up a smile on my face. It is not really a good thing to hide feelings, sometimes it can be self-hurting.
@leanette (3004)
• India
12 Apr 07
And as for your friend, you might be misterpretating her admiration towards the guy as love. Maybe she's telling the truth, maybe she's unsure of her feelings towards him and hence she cannot say you clearly of how she feels.
@mlgb_24 (638)
13 Apr 07
i dunno, but sometimes people need to deny some things, and some feelings as well for some reasons. probably she doesn't want to ruin the friendship that's going on. probably one of her friends like him as well, and that friend is very dear to her. or probably she just doesn't want to hurt anybody's feelings..sometimes, what you don't know won't hurt.
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
12 Apr 07
Oh yes it is difficult to hide one's feelings some people I must admit are very good at hiding their feelings but you can tell when they talk about them by their eyes and things that slip out when they not thinking first of what they are going to say.
@ninong (110)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
I think there is a quote for that. "True love cannot be found where it does not exist nor can it be hidden where it truly does". Maybe she hasn't realized it yet or just wouldn't want to admit it to you or even herself but like they say, actions speak louder than words.
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
we usually believe what we want to believe.you should put more trust in you than trust in your partner and u=in your friends. if you have that confidence then nothing can overcome you in whatever you do. don't get me wrong, you should also put some trust in your relationships. and if in case what you thought is true then that situation , that would be a test of how tight is your relationship.do not be so uptight by what you don't want to see and feel.it may be unfair but believe , it is not because everywhere you go when you reach the real world, that is how it is .so, you have to be strong and understand how you live your life and how to deal with it. if you are internally happy nothing can overcome you.you put in yourself things you want to see and feel and what you want your world to be. no one would understand you only yourself but be firm on who you are and know everything will be alright.
@natalie1981 (2000)
• Singapore
12 Apr 07
It's easy to hide one's feelings from strangers, it's harder when you're hiding them from your friends. I think you can see it because you're her friend and you're pretty close. I can always tell when my friends are saying one thing but meant the other. But don't push your opinions though. Sometimes, it could start a fight specially if your friends are still not comfortable sharing something with you.
@ela2pso (364)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
of course,,, it was a normal stimuli.. an initial reaction in one's situation or something... feelings cant hardly deny especially for those who cant lie to somebody... Communication lies not only by words... base on many studies and research in psychology... 90% of our communication uses NON-VERBAL actions and 10% is just VERBAL... so.. action speaks louder than words... thats why no matter how hard the person tries to hide her/his feelings... it will be shown up in the right time and place.