New Babies

United States
April 12, 2007 3:49pm CST
I am 35 years old, my oldest is 13 years old, and i just had a brand new baby girl. It's completely amazing how much i had forgotten about having a small child. Little things like how many times a day you change a diaper, or trying to read exactly what is wrong with them before they can talk. And sometimes I feel like I dont do enough for her because I feel more worn out now than i did when i was in my early twenties. I know its because i am older, but i sometimes wonder if i take care of her as well as i did my oldest. I swear it is like starting all over, like people say. I just wonder if there are other women out there who feel the same as i do.
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11 responses
@dcroome2005 (1211)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I am not a mother so I can't help you on that, but I did want to stop by and be the first Mylotter to Congratulate you . That is so awesome. I am trying to get pregnant and no luck yet. Keep us updated.
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• United States
12 Apr 07
good luch trying to get pregnant. it is a beautiful feeling.
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• United States
13 Apr 07
Give up and get a puppy. That's what we did and the next month we found out that we had a baby on the way! :)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
Just follow your maternal instinct. When changing diapers, you just have to check if its already full and your baby is not comfortable anymore. I would suggest that you let your baby's skin breath by having a time when you don't put on diaper because it helps the baby feel good. 30 minutes or an hour will do. You don't have to worry too much about your baby because your baby can actually feel it and would make her uneasy and irritable. Be calm and things will just be fine. You're blessed with a beautiful baby girl because God knows that you deserved to have one.
• India
13 Apr 07
hi, congrats for the new baby. can't help this question lingering in my mind that how did u plan to have a child after a gap of 13 years after ur first pregnancy?
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@alexsis (2149)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Congrats on your new bundle of joy. I have a 20 mth old daughter, I only have one child but I'm still in my 20's. I have not experienced the big age gap yet. But I'm pretty sure you will be alright, it will all come back to you soon. And you have some help.
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• United States
12 Apr 07
Thank you. She is beautiful and i love her so much.
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@Calais (10900)
• Australia
13 Apr 07
~ Congratulations ~ I sort of know how you feel, I just had a bub and my other child is 7. You do forget everything, but it does come flowing back just as quickly. But then everything has changed, like at the hospital and they do things differently and they recommend to do this not that and vice versa. But like a mum I have just gone along using my instincts. All is good. I feel really really tired too, but I just put that down to being a little older.
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@lafavorito (2966)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
Hi. Congratulations on your baby girl! I'm a mom to a very active 2 year old boy and would like to have a baby girl next maybe in a couple of years or so. Let your motherly instinct do all the work, remember your baby doesn't really know if you're tired or worn out, they just know that you'll be there for her when she needs something. Good luck!
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@mimatexas (1835)
• United States
12 Apr 07
First of all, congratulations on the birth of your baby girl! It's funny, my baby sister had a baby boy yesterday and she is thinking too, how will she take care of her baby. Change diapers, check on him from time to time and still take care of her first child who is 4 years old. I know how you feel, it's a little bit scary because you are not used to having a baby from a long time. 13 years difference is a lot. But hang in there, you will get used to it and I am sure you will be a great mother.
@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Congratulations on your new addition. I'm sure everything will come back to you as time goes along. Just be enjoy her and do your best and everything will be fine. Maybe yo can nap when she does to get some extra rest.
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@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
12 Apr 07
First of all, congratulations...you have a 13 year old? Put them to work (get them to help around the house!!) My sister in law did the same thing as you. She and hubby had 4 children biologically (the youngest is now 17) and over the last 4 years, they have adopted 2 babies from China. She feels the same way. I think it is because you get so involved in the stage that they are in (whether that be 0, 5, 10, or even 20 that you forget about every thing else!!) I know that myself. My daughters are 13 and 10 and I am very aware of whats going on with them and I don't know if I could deal with a baby right now lol
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@shoelover (896)
• Australia
12 Apr 07
First off let me say congruatulations on the birth of your daughter. You always feel worn out looking after a baby as it is a full time job for which deprives you of sleep. I always found after each baby I had I soon got back into the swing of things. All mothers worry that they are not doing enough for their baby at some stage or another. Don't fret it is natural. You will find it will get easier once your little daughter sleeps through the night. It feels as if you are always listening subconsciously for the babys cry. You are a great mum. If you didn't have concerns you wouldn't be doing such a good job. Hugs
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• Canada
13 Apr 07
I am not an older mother with a new baby, but my cousin is. Her son is 12 and she's just had a little girl. She's 35. She actually suffered a lot of problems after birth and she was rushed back to hospital with her blood pressure soaring dangerously high and then extremely low. I don't remember exactly what the Doctors told her, but I know she's extremely lucky to be alive. She too had forgotten about the little things such as changing diapers and the night time feedings, and trying to figure out whats wrong, and she said it's mentally exhausting just thinking about it lol. I promise you, it's not just you. I think there's an adjustment period for "older" mothers, and it takes more time to adjust. I think you're doing a fine job though. If your daughter is healthy and happy, you can't ask for more than that.
@simplysue (631)
• United States
13 Apr 07
crayola1, I had my children 14 years apart and know how you are feeling. Don't worry about not taking care of her as well because you are taking good care of her. I expressed the concern about being older and more worn out to one of my friends and she told me that I was just as worn out with my first...it's just that it was so long ago that I don't remember it being this hard.LOL It really is like starting over and doing all this for the first time again. I remember with my first we put them on their stomache to sleep....my lil one was put on his back. So many things have changed over the years it's no wonder we feel like "newbies". My best advice to you is to relax, enjoy your lil one as much as you can and try not to worry or compare yourself to how you were with your first. At the moment, I'm going through the "I'm three years old and I'm the boss" with my lil man and I swear that I don't remember going through this with my first. LOL Any way around it, all children are different and no matter how much we want to be the same with all of our kids....there will be differences in what we do and how we do it for each of them. :) Congratulations on your new baby girl!