Are you a reserve person?

@dpk262006 (41601)
Delhi, India
April 12, 2007 11:32pm CST
Are you a reserve and shy person or outspoken person? There are many people who will always remain reserve...they will not come out with their feelings and thinking and on the other hand there are many persons who are outspoken.....come what may, they will narrate you each and every thing which happened with them....outspoken persons do not bother whether other fellow is interested in knowing their experiences or not. (ii) Do you prefer a reserve person or a outspoken person as your friend? please share your views. Thanks in advance.
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@arkentos (213)
• India
13 Apr 07
i am a bit of reserved person.at the beginning when i meet someone new i never start to open up my chatter box.but once i get familiar,i usually always talk blah-blah...Am I not a typical girl?what do u say?i prefer a out-spoken friend..many of them are in my gang..
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@Easytime (126)
• Nigeria
13 Apr 07
Hello Arkentos, I want you to understand that you are a human being. You have the freedom of choice to do whatever and whenever you want to. You don't have to fake yourself, to even say that you are a bit shy. The fact is that you have not yet discovered your right of choice to say what you want, how you want and when you want or to be silent at what you would have said. By the time you realize this right, you should have changed your mentality concerning being outspoken or not. If you need any more advice on being yourself or critical consciourness and your right of freedom of choice, please write to me: easytime_comm_ltd@yahoo.co.uk or call: +2348036198325. Thank you.
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@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
17 Apr 07
Easytime, has taken the liberty to comment on you...LOL. Yes, your approach is right..in the beginnign eveyone tend to be reserved, until and unless she knows in details about the other fellow. I also initially do not open up.(+) rated.
@lucy67 (819)
• China
13 Apr 07
i'm a reserved person. sometimes i can't express myself well especially in public. but i will talk a lot among my friends. i like to make friends with anyone i can get along with no matter he is reserved or outspoken.
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
18 Apr 07
Lucy, thanks for your reply. What I understand from your reply is that you only open up with friends when you become intimate and close with them.
• India
13 Apr 07
ya i m very reserve person.i never share my felling wth anyone. i dont like my this behavior i want to change myself but how ever hard i try i cant help it.for friend ship i always prefer those person that r outspoken.bcas i also want to be like those.
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@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
17 Apr 07
You should be contended what you are... if you are comfortable with your approach and if you get success in all what you do ... I think being a reserve person should not be a disadvatageous point for you.
• United States
13 Apr 07
I am a very outspoken person. I have no problem telling you exactly what I think of you, whether I think you are wrong or right, or how you've screwed up. I do feel that an outspoken person does care about your experiences. Just because I speak my mind doesn't mean I don't want to listen to your take on it. My life has taught me a lot of hard lessons, lessons I've chosen to learn by my own actions. By opening my mouth and saying what is going on in my head, I am sharing my knowledge. I think your perception of an outspoken person is a bit off. You seem to be making a generalization, which isn't right.
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
17 Apr 07
serialmommy.... wonderful response. I liked your response and your acceptance that you are outspoken. MOst of the response say that they are 'reseve'. Atleast you have the guts to claim that you are outspoken. I think...nothing wrong in that....it depends... if you are comfortable in your approach...then it is ok. (+) rated.
@jennybianca (12919)
• Australia
13 Apr 07
I have always been fairly outgoing. I speak my mind on some issues. At meetings when I was teaching, I often took a leadership role. Now I am older, I have felt less of a need to speak out.
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
17 Apr 07
Jenny, from your discussions and replies I can make out that you are outspoken. It is difficult for you to be reserve, perhaps. Thanks. Deepak
@Generis (145)
• China
13 Apr 07
I think I'm a reserve person . I usually prefer to keep a silence when I face to many questions . I would rather stay in a quiet place and enjoy my own world than go out to chat with others . I don't like judge whether you're right or wrong . I'll consider some oupspoken persons to be my friends because I hope I can change a little in future . Actually , I hate myself somewhere because If I never express myself to others , they may not easily understand what I think . At this situation , they'll feel tired to make friends with me .
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@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
17 Apr 07
No harm.... if you are reseve person. The point is... do you feel comfortbale in that situation, if you do...then no problem.
• United States
13 Apr 07
I consider myself more of a reserved, inward looking, relaxed person. Basically I'm an introvert. I keep all my ideas and thoughts locked inside me and I only release them when I'm asked questions that would prompt me to. Many people think that introverts are those geeky people with no social life. But the truth is just the opposite. Of course I can be outspoken whenever necessary, but most of the time, I just keep to myself, because whenever I talk, I give out unnecessary information or details that relates to the original question. That's probably what I'm doing right now.
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@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
17 Apr 07
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I think you should not be too consious ...that you consider yourself a Reseve person. If you are happy in your apprach and attitude, nothing wrong in that. (+) rated.
• United States
13 Apr 07
Yes. I'm a little shy. But I do open up when I get comfortable. I think when I do get angry or upset people are really taken back because they are so useto my liad back personality. I would like both kinds of friends and I have out spoken and shy friends. And we all get along just fine :)
@punchery (67)
• China
13 Apr 07
I am a bit reserved.As for my friends,most of them are outspoken.I enjoy being their listener.Frankly speaking,I will make friends with people who share the same interests with me.Whether he or she is spokentive or not is not so important.
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@subha12 (18472)
• India
13 Apr 07
i am quite a reserve person. I don't speak a lot with people. also i don't like to disclose a lot to people about me. Rather I like to what people say surrounding me.I had never been outspoken and all.
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13 Apr 07
Iam a flexible person.I deal reser ved with those who appears and behavaes to be reserved and very free with those who are very free to talk or discuss or chat. Basing on the mentality of the others I will react and continue my activity with them .
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• Philippines
13 Apr 07
at first, i think i am reserved person, i don't just talk to acquiantant, and i prefer to expose myself to someone i am comfortable with it. i usually screen those new friends i met, so i know to whom i will be comfortable with.
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@SONALIKA (573)
• India
17 Apr 07
being a capricornian i am very reserve person but that only in personal matters as i can't speak my feelings out except in front of my hubby.but in other people's case i am extrovert as i love helping people out,and sometimes in due course i hurt myself as i simply don't care for myself while helping others(i hate this thing about myself).at such times my hubby is my healer as he is very much aware of my habits and is always a pillar behind me.
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@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
18 Apr 07
Sonalika, thanks for wonderful response and coming about your nature. So, your hubby is your best frined, I believe, with whom you are comfortable sharing your personal matters. It is really heartening to know that you care and help others even at the cost of making yourself uneasy. It is really great... and it gives me a positive feeling that someone as caring and nice as you are my frined. (+) rated. Deepak
@SONALIKA (573)
• India
18 Apr 07
thanks,deepak. for the compliment but i really hate this habit of mine as it is very hirtful sometimes.
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@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
13 Apr 07
At first when I meet people I am a little reserved and shy until I get to know them, then I'm all talk LOL It all depends if I get along with them at first glance/instance, you can usually tell whether a person you meet is one that you will befriend. I am an easy go lucky type of person, easy to get along with, friendly in nature and I'm always told that I'm bubbly, so whether you class that as outspoken, hmm not sure. I do have a few outspoken friends who like to talk and make sure there opinions are heard, but thats just them, doesn't mean I like them any less (as long as they are not shoving their opinion down my throat if you know what I mean!).
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
18 Apr 07
As usual, a wonderful and expressinve response from you. I think it is normal that one does not open up to strangers at the first instance. I know you are friendly and happy go lucky. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@Easytime (126)
• Nigeria
13 Apr 07
Being a shy or not a shy person is not what makes people outspoken or not outspoken. The problem is CHOICE. Everyone is human who have rights and freedom of choice. Therefore, due to their right of choice, they either choose to be outspoken or not be outspoken. If a lady or a man chooses to be outspoken, it is because of their freedom of choice. By right and law, no one should force anyone to do what he/she does not want to do. And no one should do something based on the directives of the society. Do what you want to do because you have the freedom of choice to do it. When I was in high school, I was not very outspoken because I wanted to be reserved not because I was shy. But when I finished High School, I decided that I must be social so that it will not affect me. So, now I am outspoken and there are sometimes I am reserved. The fact that you make a noise at something does not mean that you are shy. So, shyness is neither an element of being reserved nor a counter character of being outspoken. Remember, the freedom of choice is the determinant of both. Think about it critically - I always love to be critical in everything I indulge.
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@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
18 Apr 07
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for expressing that it is by choice that people become reserve or otherwise.
@mosvph (97)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
What is a reserve person? I think a reserve person is one who can come out with his feelings and thoughts but only in select company, not in any strange crowd. I think I am a reserve person. It takes time for me to open up my real feelings and deepest thoughts. I need to assess the company first. Will they be interested in what I will say? Will they understand? Will they accept me? I would also like a reserve person for a friend. A reserve person is more sensitive to the other person. I do not like loud recklessly-talking individuals.
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
18 Apr 07
You asked a question in response to the discussion and gave the reply also. Wonderful thoughts from you. I appreciated it and liked it. No problem, if you are reserve, provided you are comfortable in that. Thanks very much for sharing your thoughts.
@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
13 Apr 07
I am neither a talker nor a gossiper, and I guess that puts me in the category of a reserved person. I am one who excels in observation and not in expression and respects my own privacy alot. I do share personal stories, but only if the story can help the other person see the point. Otherwise, I see no point in complicating matters and confusing him further.
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@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
18 Apr 07
As usual, wonderful response from you. I liked your point that you love to observe others. I too do the same, while at a public place.
@makingpots (11929)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I consider myself an outspoken person but based on your definition I am almost ashamed to admit it. I am outspoken in the sense that I have no problem meeting people or talking to strangers. I am pretty comfortable in social situations because I feel I am capable of holding my own, conversationally. I am also very sensitive to other people. I don't feel that I just spue my thoughts or offer a narative to anyone who is not interested in hearing it. As for friends, I prefer a well mixed group of both reserved and outspoken just to keep the balance.
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@lizeri (533)
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
I am a reserve person but in terms of having friends, I want someone who is honest and sincere. But I want someone who speaks what they feel so that I will know how to adjust to them. As long as they know their limits, it is fine with me if they talk about themselves. What I mean is, since friendship is a give and take relationship, the other person must also give way to you to voice out your side.
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• New Zealand
13 Apr 07
well.. I may be a reserve person ,. i dont really want to talk and share feeling in front of the people who i dont really know. And sometimes i dont even know what to say and just want to stay away from them as soon as possible(and i think that's why i dont have many friends :D) I always talk a lot when i am with my friends and the people i really know about.. just like a totally different person.. as a friend, i think i might prefer the outspoken person, because at least you wont get bored when stay with them...but sometimes a reserve person may be better,,,
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