Do you think that looks are important in a relationship?

@Mickie30 (2633)
April 15, 2007 6:20pm CST
Do you think that looks are important in a relationship? I am married to a man who I love. I love more about how is personality is than what he looks like though he has got some nice looks he is always changing his looks and one minute he has a beard then the next he hasn't. Personally I don't care for facial hair and never have, but I put up with it. I love him the way he is however he looked I would love him for who he is inside. That to me is more important.
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@ironstruck (2300)
• Canada
15 Apr 07
Of course looks are important. There must be a physical attraction in a relationship as well as an emotional one. It takes a whole package to make it work with someone, especially in a marriage. Let yourself become less attractive once you are married and your spouse can begin to wander a little.
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• United States
16 Apr 07
agreed. as my friend says, " if he looked like a foot you wouldnt give a second glance". there has to be some element of physical attraction for a relationship to work. a physical relationship is half of everything after all.
@iloveit (316)
• Canada
16 Apr 07
I think to some it is very important but to others it may or may not be that important. Personally I think if you like a person then you him/her and every thing about that person is what you start to love.
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• United States
16 Apr 07
ofcourse looks are important in a relationship initially looks play an important role for relationship, later on ppl say it does not matter a lot but initially it does
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
15 Apr 07
You know, it's hard to answer this honestly. Of course everyone wants to say that looks aren't important, but it would be really hard to be with someone I wasn't attracted to physically at all! I met my husband online, and by the time I saw a picture of him I was already pretty interested. I was really attracted to his quick wit, his pragmatism, his intelligence, his creativity... so many things about him that interested me! I suppose if he hadn't turned out to be attractive to me, I still would have wanted to be with him by that point, but it was nice to find out he really was cute! =p Of course, now, even though he cut his hair short and I thought it was prettier long, I still love him like crazy. So I guess it doesn't matter much to me after all!
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• United States
15 Apr 07
no not really. Not to me anyway I mean I wont date someone really butt ugly but not most of the time .
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@cutiedhes (509)
• Philippines
16 Apr 07
I agree with you for me looks is not important as long you love each other care and understands for each other that's what important. But I admit at first i see a guy physically but as i get to know him even if he has a good looks but his qualities is not good i tend to reject him no matter what. Because what will you do with a handsome good looking guy if he is that bad person and hurts you and makes you like a punching bag.
@Mickie30 (2633)
16 Apr 07
Yes you are right if you go out with a bad guy then you are not going to be happy.
@itkasp (266)
• Australia
17 Apr 07
I am agree with you. I think look is important but not the most important in a relationship. The most important things to me, are his personality and his point of view/ belief of life.
• United States
16 Apr 07
Yes, look is an important aspect to any relationship. That's why women and men are constantly trying to work out their bodies and put themselves in dieting regime that they hope will make them look sexier and more physically appealing. But the most important thing in a relationship is knowing what you like and want. If one person in the relationship just likes the other person based solely on looks, then what happens when a more attractive person comes along? So personality does matter, but what it is also important that they look pretty good. In the end its all up to the people involved in the relationship. And I think that having a balance between good looks and good personality is the best thing to have.
@kodie420 (872)
• Canada
16 Apr 07
I dont think looks are important but they do help if your planning to spend along time with that individual. Although its whats on the inside that counts if you have to wake up and look at the same face day in and day out then it would help if your partner had some looks. This is just my personal opinon.
• United States
16 Apr 07
I was initially attracted to my boyfriend for a lot of reasons and his looks were one of them. I'm crazy in love with him and I will love him regardless of what he looks like. With that being said, I couldn't promised I'd be physically attracted to him if he just completely let himself go. I hate how that makes me sound, but it's the truth and he feels the same way. Luckily, he's concerned with him health and looks so I feel it's something that shouldn't be an issue.
@TerryZ (22085)
• United States
16 Apr 07
And thats how it should be. You love someone for whats on the inside of them always. Sometimes looks can play a big role when we first meet someone. But after you get to know someone well that all goes away. and you see them for what they are inside.
@bad1981 (799)
• United States
16 Apr 07
Yes, because you have to be attracted to a person to stay in love with them. How can you make love to someone when you arent sexually attracted to them? My husband looked totally different when we got together but marriage and time and kids make you change but I still love him and am attracted to him in some ways.
@KarenO52 (2951)
• United States
16 Apr 07
Looks might attract you to a relationship in the first place, but it's the character and personality along with sharing some similar interests that will keep you together in the long run. Just look at the pictures of elderly couples to see how they've changed with the years, and you will see that in the ones who stay together looks really don't matter when you look with the eyes of love.