Kids need love! How much love you feel good? Is it necessary to snub them too..

@aliasad (1567)
Pakistan
April 26, 2007 12:10pm CST
Well, to all those who are parents are going to be parents, to all those who remember their childhood ... Do you believe that kids must be treated with love all the times. I don't think so. I feel that they must be beahved in a moderated way.. But on the other hand snubbing is also bad. Ammm I feel a dilemma of love or snub!! How do you do with your kids or done with your kids (for those who have brough up their kids) would you please guide me! My little one gonna grown up:)
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@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Children need to be loved at all times. Discipline IS love. And you can raise your child in a house hold with discipline and restriction that still has love ALL the time. There is no need to snub a child - but raise them with values and ideals and that IS loving them!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
27 Apr 07
You can never love a Child to much Mine where brought up with a lot of Love and cuddles from me but they also got Disciplined if it was needed As for Snubbing a Child that is a definate no Kids need to grow up secure and honest and the only way to achieve that is by loving them and Disciplining when needed My Kids are Adults now and I could not be prouder of them They are wonderful and caring People
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
28 Apr 07
Nice to learn your experience. Well, did you plan to discipline your children or make them by immitating yours? You have brought up your children and surely, being the disciplined, you must be proud of them. Thanks for your response.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
29 Apr 07
I would never have brought them up to immitate me as they are their own Person Yes when discipline was needed they got it but most of the time it just took a look from me lol They are their own Person not me
@gberlin (3836)
27 Apr 07
If you love your kids then you must also discipline them when they misbehave. I am not sure of your meaning of 'snub'. I believe in God and the Bible. From what I have read about God, He loves us but because of His love He disciplines us to helps us learn right from wrong.
• Pakistan
26 Apr 07
That's true bringing up a child needs love but to be honest a balanced relationship is required too.First we should try in their early 5-6 years to be a person who matches his tongue well,like whatever speak must do to.Try to adopt a moderate behaviour like if do mischief,then give him punishment but never scold him/her infront of others.Try to reward him/her in form of gesture like huging, kissing,praizing.indulging him/her with yourself if he/she performs good work.Be supportive in form that he/she never feel hesitant to tell you about anything being faced by him/her and also give confidence of your own.Adopt win-win attitude and help him/her in times of his/her need.Do give him/her religious knowledge too as it will help him/her to conduct his/her life as well as will define boundries for himself too.Always keep in mind what are your actions and be flexible in your dealings too.
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
27 Apr 07
A very nice remark indeed! Win-Win situation is the best policy. Being moderate means balancing the Do's and Dont's .... I agree that one must never scold the child but do you believe the same is always true? Thanks for response.
@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
29 Apr 07
Yes, children should be treated with love at all times! Should is the operative word, here. I don't know any parent who is patient enough to treat their children with love at all times! Love, however, does not mean letting them get away with murder. Not teaching them good morals and behavior is not loving, because it will cause them problems later one. Love includes "tough love" which means discipline sometimes. You can be angry with someone and still love them. Your kids need to learn that, too.
@Mithoo (255)
• Pakistan
28 Apr 07
I will not go for snubbing the children. I would like to make them good and responsible citizens. We must try to teach the children the ethics and the social norms. The children behavior is accountable at all. You must love your child but don't make him feel that his mistakes are overlooking by you.
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
28 Apr 07
Hummm Well, I think that you are a bit right that one must never over look the mistakes because it would become a routine and then habit, but on the other hand never snub them in order to correct the mistake. Thanks for response friend.
@tater03 (1765)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I don't think that you should snub your child because for one they are not going to understand that behavior and who know might just learn it. I think that you kids always need to know that they are loved even when you are mad. My boys know that they are loved even when mom may be having a bad day or they have had to be diciplined.
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I think that our children should be treated with love all of the time. I also think that there is a difference between loving them and spoiling them. To me, spoiling them involves giving them anything they want, babying them each and every time that something goes wrong, and letting them do and say anything they want even if it's wrong. They should be lovingly taught right from wrong. And they should never be snubbed. I think that is something that lessens their self esteem and makes them feel as if they are worth nothing.
@youdontsay (3497)
• United States
27 Apr 07
There are many loving behaviors beyond being sweet and cuddly. It is loving to correct a child when necessary if you do it without belittling the child or striking the child. In fact, if you don't correct improper behavior you are not loving. Withdrawing your love, which is what I think you mean by snubbing, is not good. It teaches the child that they are only loved when they behave "good." We need to teach them that they are loved unconditionally but that they won't be permitted to behavior badly. Parenting isn't easy, is it? Many parents think their children must "like" them and therefore they try to always please their child. What a wrong message that sends them! We are their caretakers, responsibile for teaching them a good way to live. We can't always please them. And they won't always please us. But the love can always be there. Respect your child as a human being, but don't always defer to them because they aren't mature enough to know what is best for them. You are the teacher of their lessons on life for many years. If you teach them well, they will have a better life when they are grown. Hang in there. They grow up faster than you know.
@KissThis (3003)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I believe that you can always show your child love no matter what. There is a way to lovingly discipline your child. Talking about what the did wrong instead of yelling and screaming. You need to show your child that no matter what they do wrong they will always have your love.
• United States
26 Apr 07
All children definately need loved at all times, even during discipline. You wouldn't be disciplining them if it wasn't out of love. Never snub your child, unless you expect it in return because that's the message you will be sending. Kid's need reassurance at all times while growing up. Kid's NEED love. Have a blessed day.