How do you feel sitting besides a crying person?
By hora_fugit
@hora_fugit (5859)
India
May 7, 2007 12:13pm CST
Suppose you are sitting with a person, two of you. And suddenly that person starts crying, tears flowing from the eyes. What's your first reaction? I confess I feel much embarassed and lost. The first thing I think of is that I must help... but how can I be helpful-- that's the question which gets me confused:( And I'm really not confident (and sometimes afraid!) to ask the person him/herself!
What are your reactions?
4 responses
@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
25 Jun 07
I too would find the situation embarrassing, and I would find it easier to give the person a hug, both male and female, I think some people prefer to be hugged and nothing said. I used to have to deal with my mum crying because she had been upset by my father, it was difficult to deal with because I couldn't take sides, I disagreed with how mum was being treated and I could feel her pain which made me sad too.
@hora_fugit (5859)
• India
27 Jun 07
Giving hugs.... well, it does help but I fear some people don't like it as well. At least not the people around me. But I must try it I think :)
Thanks for the suggestion:)
@cecillecarmela (3818)
• Philippines
31 May 07
hmmm... :D it's hard to talk especially when you're crying so i let him/her cry first.. then when he's ready to speak, i'll let him tell his sentiments and the reasons why he is crying...
try to listen keenly about when the person is saying... maybe he just needs affirmation of her feelings than advice... i usually give advice when i think the person needs one :D
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@hora_fugit (5859)
• India
31 May 07
That's a fine solution. I too think it's best to do. Mostly people just want to be heard and that gives them the peace of mind:) ...though I don't give advices for that's difficult for me.
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@peaceful (3294)
• United States
7 May 07
If the crying sparks a sense of compassion deep within yourself, you'll know what to instinctively, if it does not, you'll still know what to do...
All humans, well most, have this built in sense and it truly guides us in situations like these...
Don't let this question trouble you any longer... if it ever happens, you'll know what to do and it will always be the Right Thing! :)
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@hora_fugit (5859)
• India
12 May 07
That's a good idea :) but I fear if that person minds my asking as sometimes people hate to be interferred in such situations.
