Should I do it?

I think you should be moving because your husband won;t let you live with him anyway!it is absolutely ridiculous that even after you have made all attempts to keep the family together,your husband's family calls you selfish.Well,I say you should be.afterall,it is as mch for the sake of the kids as you that you are thinking about.It is good for your children if you stay nearer to the school and most importantly where you all will be happy.People will call you all sorts of names but they are not going to look after your children,it is you who will be doing that.So obviously,you have to do what is best for them.Don't go on explaining things to your husband's family.Tell them that you are moving because of the children.Goodluck!

First off, why are you even with this man? If he's going to let his children treat you that way, then he doesn't care a thing about you. He doesn't deserve you or the baby. I would be afraid of how he would treat my daughter. He had kids, surely he knows that things happen and children are going to make messes. What kind of man marries a woman and leaves her to raise their child alone while he raises his in another home and refuses to let her live there? My advice to you is to divorce him as soon as possible. He doesn't love you. He doesn't love the child the two of you had together and he doesn't respect. He obviously has some problems and you do not need to submit either yourself or your children to that. If his family is condoning the way he treats you, then ignore them as well. Get out and live where YOU want to. It's time to move on. If you haven't lived together in three years, it shouldn't be hard to get at the very least a legal separation. Goodluck to you.

"wow" and "Oh my god" are the phrases that keep repeating themselves over and over in my head. I coulddn't imagine not living with my spouse.It sounds to me like the one being selfish is your husband, although from the sounds of it he's not much of a husband to you. When he married you he should have accepted that you have a daughter and that SHE comes with you as part of the deal. It sounds to me like he wnats the benifits of marrige with out the hassle of living with some one. DUMP this lout. Im very sorry for your situation and I hope you gather the streangth to move on and make a good life for you and your children, good luck to you.

I don't want to offend you or upset you any further, but what kind of a marriage do you have? Why are you putting up with this? I would not marry someone who would not allow me to live in their home with them. This makes no sense to me. I would definitely move to where you feel comfortable and what makes your children happy. It is quite obvious your "husband" doesn't care about you as a person or as his "wife". he doesn't treat you as such. It seems you are only there as a passing fancy. It astounds me that you aren't "allowed" to live with your husband because of your daughter. I would never marry a man who couldn't accept my child previous marriage or otherwise. You are a beautiful woman and a kind one at that. You deserve all of a man, not just part of one when he has time and wants to play house or husband/father. Please do what you feel is right. Don't be torn in this decision. Move and be happy and comfortable.

First of all, WHY didn't anyone take an issue when his kids wouldn't let you live with your husband? that's a problem, serious one if ask me. I don't know if you both sat down and talked or what have you, but that in of itself is a problem; then now, you want to move and now YOUR the one being selfish. Ma'am. I suggest highly here that you both(I tend to get to say ya'll since I'm in the South) sit down and talk to these children. Well first to the husband and let him know what you feel and why your going and then the kids. If your daughter don't feel at home there, perhaps it is time you leave. If he cannot put his foot down perhaps this move will. I wish you the best because this is a hard situation. I am a divorcee but despite of all I believe in marriage, but then again, it seems to me, you lost the battle from day one when you couldn't live with your husband.

I think that you should move. Marriage is a partnership and it seems like it's just one sided right now. If you're married I would think you should be able to live with him and not down the street because he children didn't want you there. I think you will be alot better off away from him. Maybe the time "apart" will help him to see the light or at least be willing to get some counseling with you. Good luck and you have to think of yourself and the kids foremost.

I think moving would be good for you and your kids! No need stayng around for a man that doesn't want a full commitment with you and your older daughter. He is being selfish not letting ya'll live with him. You need to do what makes you and your kids happy and not worry about him. Good luck!

Im not sure why you even married this man did you not know about not living with him before you got married? What kind of man allows his children to run his house and say who can live there and who cant? As far as his family being upset about you takeing the baby away, what makes the difference when you dont live with him and hes never home anyhow as he works all the time.
I would never marry a man who did not accept my child as his own, I think you should have moved long ago.
Not only would I be moving I would also be filing for divorce because what you have with this man is certainly not a marriage.

Definitely sound like their is major marital problems. I am still trying to imagine getting married and never have lived with the person in the 3 years of marriage. It sounds like he has major issues, and maybe you do as well for letting this go on for so long. Cut your losses now and get a divorce and find someone you can have a real future with.

will about people opinion, in my country there is a story said: a man with him son and their donkey, the man carry his son on the donkey's back, people said:
what this impolite son that leave his old father walk .
the man put down the son on the land and he put him self on the donkey's back, people said:
what is this selfish father who let him son walk .
the man get on the back with his son on the donkey's back,people said what are this rude people who doesn't care about the donkey, do you know what this man do?
he Carry the donkey on his shoulder, and people said:
that man is crazy .
do u know what this story taught us?!
people will never like any thing, whatever you do they will complain . so, you have to do what you need to do, whatever make you happy, your husband didn't care about your feeling, his family didn't call him selfish with his act, so now they turn to you and said you are the selfish one?!!!!
you have to be happy for the sake of your children, you have to be strong for them, children feel and know every thing, if you sad they will be sad too and sure you don't want that .
the father is already away, what is a day in 7 day? nothing . so you are the nearest one beside them, and you are the one who care, so please, whatever make you happy do it, and Carry your children any place you want to,whatever makes you happy .

i wish you the good luck and happiness to you and your children .