A Feeling of Love That Left Behind...
By add_im
@add_im (2712)
Philippines
May 23, 2007 2:16am CST
Hi again mylotters, I would like to share this funny story to all of you here, now it's about my oldmaid aunt,:-).
Her story is about her lovelife from the past that even until now she still kept the memories of the guy in her heart, the reason why she can't move on and start a new lovelife with someone else. Now, years and years have gone by still she can't resist to forget about the guy and even how her friends introduced her to some of their guy friends but for her it won't click at all, what I mean to say is that all those guys being introduced to her mean really nothing to her part.
Then time comes that maybe she now feels uncomplete, unhappy and lonely in her life she then started realizing to feel like being with someone and start moving on. She did pass it and start liking guys and looking out for the right one...but the thing is, now that she's already in her old age she doesn't like men that has the same age with her, but rather she likes those younger ones,:-). Now then, the problem is that no young men would interest her age no more and she started to feel low again because of the situation.
My question is...Does age really matters in love or it doesn't? What's the best thing my aunt should do with this?
Oh by the way, before I forgot to post my aunt's age here, just let me tell you so people out there won't wonder how old she really is...Okay, she's in her 40's already close to 50.:-)
Would you all give me some insights and opinions about this matter, so that way I could cope them up and maybe then to help out my aunt to give her advices and to comfort her through your given advices and opinions. Thanks everyone!
NOTE: I'm not posting this discussion to criticize my own aunt, but just thought to give her advices and opinions through you all here.
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@gberlin (3836)
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24 May 07
When I first started reading this I thought your aunt was in her 80s. She is still young only in her 40s. I don't think age matters that much if they both love each other. I have one brother-in-law who was 14 years younger than his wife. And another brother-in-law who is 10 years younger than his wife. The first brother-in-law was 28 years old and his wife was 42 when they got married. If your aunt wants someone younger then she will need to look and act a little younger. But I say she should go for the younger men.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
25 May 07
Yes, we keep on encouraging her and building her Spirit's up when she started feeling low and depressed about the situation, because as we understand that she truly wanted to settle down and start a family...but then, the problem there is even until now she's just that too eager to know who will be the guy or the man for her to be with in life.
But, until now we just keep on encourage her not to lose her hope and that God knows her heart's desire that she wanted to be married someday in her life, and she have the assurance that will always hear His children's plea.
Thanks for sharing gberlin.
@derek_a (10873)
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23 May 07
Well it would be difficult for your aunt to find a younger man, because most younger men are looking at women their own age.
That is the strange thing about ageing, when I see someone my age, I tend to think of them as a old person - But when I see myself on a photograph with my grey hair, I see myself as that old person! LOL.
If she's like me, your aunt is young at heart and can talk to younger people very easily and even "feel" the same age, but people of her own age will feel too old for her to want to be with.
All you can do really is to talk to your aunt and show her photos of herself and people of her age, so then she can see the type of people she needs to be approaching. Ask her how old (herself) the person in the picture looks and then maybe she will realise.
But hey, maybe one day, a much younger man will want to be with her, but then she may not want to be with him.. It's not an easy situation getting old - that's something I know about. LOL.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
23 May 07
Hello derek, thanks for responding. You are right, it really is difficult for her to find a younger guy nowadays, specially when young men's are not so much interested with older women, like my aunt.
But then, like what you said all I can do is to help her see and realize the fact that she needs to know and just so to accept it whether she likes it or not, it's just part of life's reality to face.
Yeah, maybe then someday if one young man wanted to be with her but she doesn't want to...then, I would surely tell her that it's her fault already, the reason why she ain't married 'till her age now, lol :-)
Thanks for sharing again derek.
