Feminism & Marriage

lol That shows how much you know about feminists. A feminist wouldn't "whine". She would B!T(H! Seriously though, each marriage is up to the couple in how it is handled. There are some men who have no problem with equality. Some women who have no problem with the more traditional roles. I think it is up to each couple to determine how their marriage will work. If a man doesn't want to have a marriage where each person works together to determine what is best, then he shouldn't marriage a feminiist. I don't think that traditional family roles necessarily eminate female belittlement. There are traditional families where both sides are treated with respect and appreciation regardless of what their "job" is. It shouldn't matter whether the wife is a homemaker or a working mom. Any good marriage is based on mutual respect and appreciation. You don't need to be a feminist to want a little respect.

Perhaps the section of society obsessed with feminism will think themselves above the institution of marriage, fail to marry and produce children, and die out within a generation. Then there will be no more crazed feminists and the problem will have corrected itself. Sadly I don't think these sort of notions are passed on through genetics... Oh well.

It depends, does the "feminist" want equality, or is she basically just a man hater who uses "feminism" as a war cry? If she truly wants equality for women then she won't want to dominate her husband anymore than she wants him to dominate her. To me, a true feminist would be the ideal wife. She would expect her husband to treat her well, but she would also treat him just as well.

Generally a feminist would not marry a man who believes the traditional gender roles. Marriage would be fine because she would choose a husband that would not try to change her or her ideals, perferably one that agrees with and supports her. I am a feminist. I don't whine about household responsibility because I choose to be with a man intelligent enough to understand what shared responsibilities means. A man secure enough in his manhood that he does not feel threatened and therfore have to result to insults to control his beliefs. A man who is willing to be my equal, not my master. Personally, I think the men who can't get past their outdated beliefs that their pen*s somehow makes them more suited to be in charge of the family are the ones with crazy gender issues.

I think in this case when a women is a high feminist she will more likely want equal rights she will not feel the need to submit herself completely she will wont her husband to share all the responsiblities in the household....now her and her husband may bump heads if he is a traditional male and wants his wife to stay home cook clean and tend to the kids... then I can see a serious problem I think for any marriage to work at all there must be compromise. witht he male and the female.. hopefully before they get married they will know each other good enough to take on each persons personality and outlook on life

A good marriage does not conform to society's standards. It adjusts to fit the needs of the two people involved. As a feminist who enjoys her femininity, I can tell you that as long as I work outside the home, household chores will be evenly shared. And if I'm a housewife, my workday ends when his does. All major decisions must be agreed upon, and everything needs to be talked about before it happens. And as for husbands, I suggest y'all become feminists (humanists) and start realizing the work and effort women have to put into fighting the daily crap men throw at us. Things will be much pleasanter once you can sympathize.

Feminism is no threat to marriage. If both people share the same values things will go smoothly. My fiance is as much of a feminist as I am. I have decided that I will not change my name, my religion nor my citienshop when we get married. We might live here in the USA (where he is) for a while, and then when his life is a little more relaxed we'll go to Canada (where i live) for a time. He agrees with my decisions and supports me. He doesn't want me to change my name, my citizenshop, or my religion. He loves me for who I am.

With a real feminist it shouldn't be a problem, equality doesn't mean shoving everything off on another person. I am a feminist and I am married, my relationship is great, we both do equal work, neither of us wants kids and he knows he has no control over me just as I have none over him and his choices. With a real feminist things don't get put in a blender. I personally see tradition as a virus, but that's just my veiw on it.