My sister in laws wedding is finally over.
By Lifez2short
@Lifez2short (4962)
United States
July 16, 2007 6:49pm CST
It was a beautiful wedding ceremony. And she looked so pretty in her dress. I was touched by the whole thing. But after the ceremony was over the whole family drove to a area where there is a very pretty waterfall to take pictures. And to be honest with you I have no idea why I went. My sister in law (Sully) was taking pictures with her new hubby and mother in law and mother. And then she called all of her siblings to take pictures with them as well. My hubby took pictures along with there other brothers and sisters. Then she had asked my other sister and brother in law to get there spouses for pictures. And did not mention my name at all. So I grabbed up my kids and said lets go and waited in the car until it was all done with and then drove to the reception. I was a little upset about it all and kinda pouted for a minute. Then got over myself and had a great time at the reception. My question is does anyone else think it was rude of her not to ask me to take a picture with her and my hubby? Was I wrong in being upset? I did not once get rude towards her just walked away. I was hurt but not once did I say or do anything to be rude to her on her day. What would you have done in the same situation?
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
17 Jul 07
I would have been hurt if I was not included. On the other had what if she just made a mistake in leaving you out? On her day I am sure she was really busy and had so much on her plate, maybe she did not think you wanted to be in the photo.
I am glad you did not treat her badly or treat your hubby badly because you could have ruined the day for all.
I am glad you ended up and had a good day anyway. You go girl.
MY inlaws have gone out of their way to make me feel left out of the family. But guess what I am here and I am not leaving. I will be here for lots more years.
@jnallen_487 (800)
• United States
18 Jul 07
I don't think you were wrong to get upset. Now if she wouldn't have asked the other spouses for a picture, then I wouldn't think you had a right to be upset. But the fact that she did that, gives me reason to think you should be. I wouldn't care though. Who cares what she thinks of you.
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@Lifez2short (4962)
• United States
17 Jul 07
I believe she did it on purpose. We have never really gotten along.
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
17 Jul 07
I wonder why she got pictures with her other siblings and their spouses and not you and your husband- Your husband is her brother right? I think I’m understanding this correctly? Were you in the wedding? That could be why if you were not- Maybe she just wanted the wedding party- I’m glad you got over it and had fun anyways- Heck free food and entertainment- why not- Don’t let this bother you and your sis-in-laws relationship- It seems like you 2 were starting to get along- I hope you still keep your lunch date for after the wedding!
@Lifez2short (4962)
• United States
17 Jul 07
No I was not in the wedding and neither were her other siblings spouses. I will feel sorry for myself a little while longer but eventually I will get over it.
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
17 Jul 07
You could say that. But she may not have even realized that she had forgotten you. I'm glad you decided to stay for the reception. Years later all of you will think about it and laugh. Don't be too hard on her.It won't be the last time she or someone close to you will upset you. Be kind. God Bless.
@kitty1234 (1476)
• United States
17 Jul 07
I would have been hurt also, but I think she may have just goten swept away in the moment and had an oversight....Wh didn't your husband say something to her?
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
17 Jul 07
I can see why you were upset. Maybe it was an oversight. I am glad that you still went to the reception and had a good time. I think you handled it fine.
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@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
17 Jul 07
i def. think it was rude of her especially since she asked ur husband! well wait, how is she ur sis in law, is it ur hubby's sister? if so well that's y she asked him, but i'd feel hurt too! but it's good u enjoyed urself, maybe u could ask her about it!
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@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
17 Jul 07
Maybe she didn't ask you because you had your kids. Or just plain over looked you and won't noticed til the pictures come back. Who knows. Weddings are a crazy time anyways. But I think you handled it rather well. I would of done the exact same thing you did. You did a great thing in front of kids by teaching them to walk away instead of making a scene.
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@smacksman (6053)
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17 Jul 07
I'm sure she just made a mistake - I expect one of many on such a busy day.
You know Prime Ministers and Presidents have a team of hundreds whose job it is to deal with protocol and even then they make mistakes.
Maybe in retrospect you should have gone up to her with all your kids and husband and smiled sweetly and asked to have a picture with her as she looked so fabulous ... etc. blah, blah and she would have said something like, 'Oh gosh - yes - silly me - I nearly missed you - so sorry - slipped my mind - etc. blah, blah'. Problem over.
Sometimes you have to be a bit pushy. Loads of other people push! haha.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
17 Jul 07
I don't get it really, why she acted that way. you are married to her brother so you should be in the pictures too if her brother is there. I know this is an internal thing but if she invites you and you buys her gifts, the least she can do is let you have your picture taken along with the rest of the family. I didn't get along much with my sister in law either, but family is family, family pictures mean everyone in the family who are there have to have their pictures taken together. Anyway I don't mean to interfere. Just a thought.
