When is the right time to move out of the nest (your parents home)  

I think that the purpose in being a parent is to raise your child to be independent. I have 4 very very independent girls. There independence does not lie in whether or not they live with me but how they conduct and live their lives!!

My 21 year old just moved back in with me after spending over a year away. She broke up with her boyfriend. She is working full time and fully expects to contribute to rent and other expenses. I welcome her here with open arms....she has learned alot from being on her own and each time she comes back she is much easier to live with. This is the girl that I mentioned in earlier posts was very troubled. I used "tough love" with her.
She has been a tremendous help to me and I m sure i have been to her in the past couple of weeks. Its not an age thing or even whether they are living at home or not...it is all about the kids being responsible for themselves. I have no doubt that if I were to drop dead typing this post that my daughter would not only carry on but she would assume responsibilty of my 13 yr old who is also very independent.

Im sorry but I don't agree with you at all. As you said...mom kicked him out and still paid expenses...so obviously it doesn't matter whether the kid is at home or out of home...it is all about how they are being responsible for their own lives!





















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hu.....in my opinion
Kids are very bright nowadays. They know their parents are divorced and although they may want the traditional family life, I think most kids would prefer their parents NOT be together if they dislike one another. Adults need to be adults and just be honest with the kids and tell them what the deal is. Children having custody of the parents is just plan ridiculous. We give children way too much power and control. They are not adults, they are CHILDREN! That is why the world is out of control, everyones trying to make sure the child is treated with more consideration than the parents. True divorce is hard on kids but it is hard on everyone and it is a fact of life.
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Personally speaking, it all depends.If you are not an independent person, leaving family is a kind of suicite.By opposite,living with parents, you will get more experence and support from the family.You will get enough preperation before you leave the family.And to be independent not decides on leaving or not family.Although you leave the family, you have no money to support yourself but accept parents' help. Then there is no differnce between leaving the family or not.Living with parents, you will have the chance to take care of them.

Hi,I'm 22 years old and i'm working now.I think i can pay accomadation and expendses for myself.And i should do this because i am an adult now.My mum raised me up herself because my dad has died when i was quite small.She had a painstaking working long time for the purpose of making us living a little better.Now i am growing older and graduated from university.It is the time i should pay back to my mum.Not only the material i think ,it is great love my mum gave me.
I think when the children capable of living independently ,he or she should leave home,do something theirselves,and the parents can give them a little support at first ,to help them become better step by step.We can image that there will be a little mess when they first stand on their's own feet,but finally everything will be OK.


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in china ,a adult(man) will be encouraged to live with their parents .but now more and more adults are going out to start a independ life .after you became a adult ,you still live with your parents ,others will look down with you .i think a man should learn to live on his own ,but they should take care of their parents ,and they should not do it on the excuse of liveing out .

I think the time to leave is when the 'child' can support himself. I am not talking about leaving home for further education as I look at that as not the subject we are talking about here.

I left home when I was 20, almost 21, and I was a qualified engineer with a years experience and a lust for travel. I went overseas to Johannesburg, South Africa, started work straight away and loved it.

From that time on I used to send money home to my parents and never asked for a penny from them till they died. If I had asked for help, I'm sure they would have done their best.

My wife left home at 22 but was helped by her parents till we were married and on occasions even after we were married. Maybe it is different for a girl?

well i think it all depend upon the child....v should just give him a warning and tell him the side effects and i think then after that if somthing happend to him then v wo'nt b responsible for that.....then after v shud just allow him what he wants to do and he will easily experience his own life

In my opnion it really depends on where you live and your culture. For me I moved out when I was 19. I got tired of my mom treating me like I was 6 all the time so I left. For everyone it is diffrent and it depends on the parents and the person in question. The coice is yours and yours only.

I think the right time is IF and WHEN you are ready. I lived with my parents most of my adult life when they were living, not because I couldn't make it, but because they were retired and living on fixed incomes. It helped them for me to work and live there with them. And I had a built in baby sitter when I worked, so I didn't have to pay for daycare. It was just family taking care of family. I took the mortgage off their hands and paid it for them, and I helped buy groceries. They paid the utilities and groceries too... the arrangement helped them out a lot.

related resource: adult living

I don't think there should be a specific age. It depends on whether the individual has an income of their own, whether they have been taught the basic survival skills of life such as cooking, cleaning, banking, etc. I don't think a child should leave home till he or she is mature and responsible. Sometimes it happens at 18, sometimes not till later. Sometimes college expenses and such keep a youngster from being able to move out as well. So not every situation is the same.