How can I be frank and not hurt a friend?
By fortunebee
@fortunebee (509)
Philippines
September 30, 2007 6:10pm CST
Living with a friend is not as easy as it looks. Being with my sister,we're alright, of course we also get into a fight. But the most difficult part is when you are living with a friend. Inasmuch as wanting to be honest and frank/straightforward with her, I don't want her to think that I am not being considerate.
How can be straightforward in telling her what I feel about situations without feeling bad about what she will think?
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@wild_flow_r (304)
• Philippines
1 Oct 07
yes. i know what you are saying but then friendship has also its bounderies you simply cannot be saying you are okey even if you are not okey. and telling her straight to her face is the only solution. your friend is not a mind guesser so she does not know how you feel or think. tell her the truth no matter what.
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@fortunebee (509)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
I agree. Saying it straight to her face is actually the best solution for me. I am also the type who can express myself and I also refrain from being rude. What I've noticed though, is that my friend despite the fact of given the hint or told what is felt on my side, still seems to be carefree. Responding to you by saying 'Okay, I got that.' Sometimes, I am not far from wanting to strangle someone whom I thought was intelligent but sometimes plays dumb about how others feel. Common sense doesn't easily kick in to those whom you'd want this thought to come out from.
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@alamode (3071)
• United States
2 Oct 07
I have found that the friends that I have been honest with are the friends I keep... if I hold in what I really want to say, I become angry with them, and then I will avoid them. My best friend and I have known each other for over 33 years. I can always tell her exactly what I want to say, but I never do it in a mean way or try to fight with her. I would ask your friend what she thinks she should do, then tell her what I would do. Then she can make up her own mind.
@fortunebee (509)
• Philippines
2 Oct 07
That's wonderful that you have a friend whom you can truly confide in. It's also good because your friend is understanding. Sometimes it seems to be rare to find those whom you can say less to but they will understand what you actually mean. It's not about mind reading but it's the mutual understanding and practically common sense. I'm thankful for the way my parents brought me up and the lesson they've thought of how to feel like others if situations were turned around.
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@alamode (3071)
• United States
2 Oct 07
It would be wonderful if we could be understanding, honest and kind in all of our relationships, to try to have some empathy for others. I don't believe that we are born to fight and struggle... I believe we can be good inside, and let that goodness destroy the evil that drives people apart.
