What will you feel if he compares you to his Ex Wife???
By ayou82
@ayou82 (3450)
Philippines
5 responses
@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
6 Nov 07
I think I'll be pissed and upset. Sometimes I ask my hubby about how good his ex girlfriends were...but he refused to tell me the details. I think it's only good. He said that he didn't want to remember the details about them, whether they were better than me in some areas or not. I TRULY appreciate that.
I think if I were you, I'd tell my hubby that I would appreciate it if he stops doing that and just accepts me as who I am 'coz after all, I AM his wife right now, not the ex wife and that he's chosen me to be his.
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
6 Nov 07
my friend, i am very piss whenever he do that all the time or say that to me all the time that im just like his ex vindictive wife. And it hhurts me so much.
Because as I said to jen we are all different. We think differently ..Maybe he thinks im vindictive too..but im just saying whats on my mind and in my heart.
Thanks Anyways!
@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
6 Nov 07
Hi, ayou!
I can understand your pain. It's always be annoying when someone compares us to someone else and say bad things about both of us.
You're right. We're all different and we think differently. GOOD LUCK solving this problem. Hope he'll stop saying those words to you. :-)))
@girlgonefishing (2174)
• United States
6 Nov 07
Ha! My husband did that to me once. It's the only time in our whole marriage he has done it....It's also the only time in our whole marriage that I served his dinner on the floor with no plate!
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
6 Nov 07
Hi ayou82, sorry that I could not give any comments on the comparison as my hubby does not has any ex wife before. Anyhow I think man could hardly give a fair statement about any comments as man tends to be bias and irrational when comparing something emotional like those involving his ex wife.
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
6 Nov 07
Helllo there! Well thanks anyways i can see your trying your best to give a small participation on this topic. Thank you!
Yeah, i just think it is very unfair sometimes if you are compared to someone you never met before you know that. And it hurts really if both of yoou are angry then you say words that you cannot take back. Ouch!
Anyways, Im smiling i just say who cares...i never met her Yet.Smiley!
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
6 Nov 07
My husband does compare me to his ex wife. There is no comparison. He says that she is selfish, mean & self centred. She is also evil, & only cares about her kids for financial gain.
I am none of these things, so I feel good when he compares us.
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
6 Nov 07
im not perfect,i also have flaws and everything but what i hate the most is comparing me to other people specially to an old flame.
We all have uniqueness in us, i am unique and everybody else here in mylot is unique , we differ in race colour, attitude and how we view life is different, and it shows here in mylot how different kinds of people have different view in a certain discussions, some may agree others disagree.
Its just like ME..i am different thats why im a bit pissy why compare me to a person specially the person i never met in my entire life Right?
@jmmj2011 (1)
• United States
6 Jan 13
It infuriates me!!! he hates her, says she is so selfish and she uses and manipulates the kids. She has done horrible things, I have seen it. I am nothing like her! I have been on my own for years and independent and raised my kids by my self sometimes even with out child support. He didn't come right out and say so but in an argument he said about me, what he always says about her. It was not the 1st time either. So today was the last straw and I threw a cup of coffee across the room. I feel sorta bad but I am more mad about him comparing me to her then about the argument! I feel like it didn't even need to be an argument just a discussion about an issue we were having,but he gets very defensive.
