Do You Believe Parents Deserve Respect No Matter What?

I think the key to what you said there was "respect they deserve". Some people don't deserve respect because of their own actions.

For me..we must respect our parents.They are supposed to be our beacon of light that somehow guides us in this life.They have experience life much more longer tahn us and are definitely much more wiser than us concerning life,But somehow this burnig sense of respect that we must give to our parents is somewhat one sided.

I don't know about some of you out there.but i feel that parents seem to demand to respect from us youths but don't give us the same respect taht we deserve.I say this is the sense liie looking down on our self made decisions,or macking the path that we might have taken,or just plain out give us no what so ever respect that we are entitled to. How many times you heard the lines your's still young What do you know?

You got it right Lecanis.Deserve is the catch here.

Thanks Balasri, it is very true that people no matter who they are need to 'earn' respect, they are given the respect if they deserve it, in other words they respect others.=)

*takes a bow* Why thank you lecanis not that you needed to applaud me, but I wont turn it down either!

You have hit the nail right on the head when you say 'Do you even know what my childhood was like?' as the answer is always NO. How could anyone know what another person's family life is like, no one see's what happens behind close doors. I am sorry you had to deal with so much sh*t growing up and have had people then telling you to 'let it go'?!!?
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I understand where you are coming from about people saying oh but 'their your parents' no one is perfect' I think yeah but does that give them the right to treat me the way they did!!!

Why should I put my son in through the same emotional abuse and watch them treat him the way they treated me, I will not stand by and let it happen no matter what anyone says. And we don't, that is why I haven't seen them now for nearly two years. I am not mean or nasty to them, I just choose not to have anything to do with them, and that is my right as it is your right to bad mouth if you want your parents and not see them.

Thanks for your reply lecanis, I imagine some will not like what they read as some people still find it hard to believe that not all parents are like Mr and Mrs Brady!!!=)

You deserved your applause.:P

You have an excellent point here, no one can know what someone else's childhood was like, or how it affects them. Even if you tell people about your experiences, unless they've had very similar experiences, they're not going to understand. And even if the experiences are similar, sometimes people deal with things differently, so that's not even a guarantee that they will understand.

In my case, a lot of the people around me are very close to their families, and are constantly frustrating me by asking me very intrusive questions about mine, or asking why I don't go back to where I grew up, or why my family doesn't help me out when I'm having money problems, or health problems, or whatever. No matter how many times I explain to them WHY I'm not close to my family, they can't seem to grasp it.*smacks forehead*

It always seems to amaze me that no matter how many times you can explain your situation to someone they still ask you the next time they see you, "how's your mum?" Or "have you sorted stuff out now", "talking to them now" or some other stupid question that!!!! I mean they just dont get it!!

I feel like I am continually smacking my forhead!!!lol

I guess some people only know or see the world from their own experiences, rather than what they are told or hear about.

Thanks again lecanis.=)

A child should respect their parents no matter what they are? So if ones parent is a child molesting, murdering drug addict, they deserve the same respect as a loving caring mum and dad? I think not, it has to be taken as a case by case situation. Parents cant all be put into the same catagory as they are not all the same.

I am not saying that parents cant tell their kids off, or teach them right from wrong, that is normal. But these parents are not the parents I am talking about, and not all are like that. Thanks shak143 for your response on this.

Yes that is true tootsie101 if it weren't for them we would not be alive, but does that then give them the right to be our keepers for life, to treat us how they please to then choose when we no longer live? A mum here recently killed her 18month old baby after constantly abusing the child which included broken bones and numerous bite marks, and then tried to blame it on her seven year old after finally confessing that she did it, would you respect her? Is that ok becuase she gave birth to the child and therefore the child wouldn't be here if it wasnt for her that then is her right to take the childs life away? I think not, and I know that isn't what you mean but it has to be looked at in that kind of context. Otherwise were do we draw thre line on our gratitude?

I agree in respecting all the great and loving parents out there and I know there are lots of them, but people need to be made aware that there is the other side of the coin. God Bless you too tootsie101 and thanks for your views on this.=)

That is a great list of examples muscare and I think the problem is people tend to forget or not seem to want to know that these kind of peple as you have stated are 'parents'. They are people we could pass in the street or see dropping their kids of at school, they look normal enough, but WE DO NOT KNOW WHAT GOES ON AT HOME and only they do. So we need to not judge or expect that if we have great loving parents that it is the case for everyone. Which is like you said hard to pick up as there are no physical marks that we can see just by looking.

'Respect needs to be earnt, no matter who you are'
Is so true Muscare, thanks for your views on this.=)

i think that they should. if it wasn't for them than where would u be or you children and so on.

I agree positiveminded1977 that no one has 'perfect' parents, but I disagree with that 'all' parents did or do their best according to their intelligence. As some very clever and highly respected children have been found to be sexually or emotionally and physically abusing their children.
I do again agree though that revenge is no the right way to handle things. One bad turn does not deserve another but the child has the right to distance and leave the parent, and if need be let them be punished acourding to the laws, which most times let them down anyway, but taking things into their own hands is not the right way, I agree. Thanks=)

Thank you ozzie13 for the great comment os
'As some parents could be anyone' I think this is something to many people forget about, that the phedophile or murderer they hear about on the radio or T.V, or read in the paper, is more times than not a parent.

Respect is definatly a two way thing, thanks for your comments on this ozzie13.=)

It is hard sometimes nmhschic2004 especially when we ourselves are not treated with respect from those we long to get it from most.

I don't think it is something we should just throw away easily, but we are important and if someone constantly makes us feel bad and not safe then we have a right to take steps to distance oursleves from such treatment.

I understand about being put down and made to feel bad, believe in yourslef and your abilities and know that he must not think very highly of himslelf if he has to constantly put you down. All the best.=)

"Parents do not have the right to repress, supress,deny,trivialize,minimalize or make children swallow their emotions" Thanks for a great point DuoMaxwell, I like this statement.

I think people do forget that parents are human which means they are not 'all' wonderful loving caring people, the world is not like that! If only!

I will have to try and find a copy of that book DuoMaxwell, thanks for your views on this subject.=)

I am so glad to hear from someone that has great parents, but also understands that not all kids are as lucky. I am very happy for you lavenderbloom that you have parents that you love and respect and that have done the same to you. All the best.=)