Evil MIL at it again...

Foxyfire I feel your pain! I know what you are going through because I have been in your shoes! When I was pregnant with my oldest son, up till he was about 3months of age, We stayed with my mother-in-law. This, "woman", I swear is one of the most horrible creatures on the planet! Ok, here's the situion. My mother-in-law lives off social security and some sort of disability, hence, she does not have to work. She lives in a trailer in a trailer park. Her lot rent is a little under $400/mo. and the trailer is completely paid for. Her phone bill and utitilities usually add up to another $200, give or take a few, per month. So that's a total of a little under $500/mo. + groceries. When we stayed with her, I was working at a walgreens part time. My take home pay was a little over $200 every 2 weeks. My husband drove towtuck and was on call quite a bit and seldom ever there. Every payday, my mother-in-law demanded my entire paycheck for us staying with her. She also got another couple hundred a week off my husband for us to stay with her. On top of that, WE bought ALL of the groceries during the time we stayed there. She went to the store with us and told or rather demanded us, what to buy. Now during the time that I was pregnant, I could not eat ground beef at all. Every time I did, it didn't agree with me and I ended up throwing it back up. Yet, almost every meal my mother-in-law made was loaded with ground beef. She knew that I could not eat it. She wouldn't let anyone else cook the meals. When I made myself a sandwitch or something else to eat, in place what she cooked; she threw a fit! She'd start bytching that I had no right to be getting into "her" food that way. MY HUSBAND AND I bought ALL of the groceries with OUR money! Now there was also a small TV in the bedroom where we stayed. I would often just stay in the bedroom watching TV while we stayed there because I did not want to deal with her. Many times she would come barging in the room, turn the TV off and rudely order me not to watch TV so much and start bytching about her electric bill. She watched TV all day and half the night however. Also, again, she was getting MY ENTIRE PAYCHECK every 2 weeks and another COUPLE HUNDRED from my husband EVERY week as well. That's over $1000/mo. that she got from us and her total bills including lot rent and utilities were a little under $500/mo! When my son was born, from then untill he was at least 2mos. old, he would cry most all night, then end up sleeping most of the day. Many nights nothing we tried worked to get him to stop crying. We'd check and or change his diaper when needed, feed him, burb him, hold him, rock him, you name it, didn't matter; nothing worked. He was just fussy and he cried. Well, one morning after just such a night, when my son was just 2 weeks old, my mother-in-law comes barging into our bedroom. She marched right up to my son who was sitting comfortably in his baby swing. She stuck her finger in his face and screamed at him at the top of her lungs. She screamed, "YOU'RE A SPOILED ROTTEN F*CKING BRAT AND YOU CRY ALL NIGHT ON PURPOSE JUST TO KEEP ME AWAKE!" Now, I tell you what, I'm sort of a wimp most of the time and I do not like fighting or violence but; at that point my husband had all he could do to hold me back from decking that bytch! Anyway, we finally got the opportunity to move out of there a couple months later and I swore that no matter what, I never wanted to stay with her again. Unfortunately, a few months back, we did have to stay with her again for a short time. Thank God, it wasn't nearly as long as it was the first time! The entire time we were there this last time was just as bad as the first. She spent the majority of her time yelling and cussing at my kids for no good reason. She told my youngest son that he was "stupid" because he liked to watch the Disney "Cars" movie every day. He's 6! And actually, he was only 5 at that time because he just turned 6 at the end of November. She has several dozen stuffed animals sitting in various places all over her house. Sometimes one of my kids would innocently pick one up to hug it or ask if they could play with it. She would tell them that they were nasty little brats and harshly demand them to put her stuffed animal down, etc. There are many other examples I could give as to just how nasty this woman is, but if I gave them all, I'd have to write you an entire book! Anyway, I understand what you are going through and I feel for you! I hope that you are able to get out of that situation soon.

You defiantly need to get out of there no doubt at all I do not understand this Woman and I would certainly tell her where to go her House or not They are Children, what does she expect miserable old Bag that she is

Sometimes you wonder if they really raised children when MILs (or mothers for that matter!) do things like putting things where little ones are just going to "have to" play with or move them. Like what are they thinking?

OMG! I can't tell you how bad I feel for you right now! Those poor little boys are having as tough a time as you are and in their own home. Once the holidays are over I think you have to do some good, hard thinking about the quality of your life and that of your kids. Then kick your s/o in the butt and try to wake him up so he can see what he's doing to his family. Basically at this point all you can do is grin and bear it and keep writing about it to get it off your chest. We're here for you!

My thoughts are with you Foxy. It actually sounds like you do have a lot going on. I'm /facepalm over this one. Uh, take a nice long break Saturday, I mean really relax. It sounds like you truly need it!