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City_Ordinance (20)   ranked 985 out of 3,197 in lover1 year ago

Do you think that this kind of love will work with out each other?? Most people say that you cannot combine two together ate the same level. It isn't balance. I also agree it is because that if you love romantically and mature, life is being miserable. But terrific. Showing the kind of love everyday makes love to fade for because lose interest on each other. with out thrills and trouble. right? it is all good thing, it is all love. . it must be balance not to much romantic and not to much mature. RIGHT?

For me I go for Mature love for it's forever. It is good for you and your partner and even you future kids.,

FOR you, what do you think?

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 46/100. GloomCookieLex (2202)   ranked 324 out of 3,197 in lover   1 year ago

I think you're confusing romance with infatuation. Romance has every ability of being mature and life lasting. Infatuation is what fades.

How would life be miserable if you're romantic and mature?


City_Ordinance (20)   ranked 985 out of 3,197 in lover  1 year ago

Yah. Its quite a long time i have not open this discusion. Loving in mature and romantic way runs together but both should be balanced. Right? It also depends on you and your partner what to adjust. Gloom did you ever encounter a lover that always think of life? Thinking of how you will live for tomorrow?? ... Would'nt you get irritated or let you feel an unimportant person?


myLot reputation of 46/100. GloomCookieLex (2202)   ranked 324 out of 3,197 in lover  1 year ago

No, I've never been with someone who thinks only of the future. I've never been with someone who never considers real life, either. Which is why I said romance has every ability to be long-lasting and mature. It's not a black and white circumstance. For a relationship to last and be healthy, you have to have both love and romance as well as reality and forethought. You made it sound like the two couldn't co-exist.

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2. myLot reputation of 97/100. Kashigurl (1168)   ranked 3,042 out of 3,197 in lover   1 year ago

"Limerence", which it that initial romantic attraction when our hormones are all crazy....is what I think you mean as "romatic love"....that intensity only lasts for so long, I feel, though traces of it hopefully remain throughout the relationship.
"Mature love", what I think you believe to mean, accepting your husbands drool drenched pillows with a contented sigh, and him lovingly accepting the size of your unfortunate thighs? Yes, that rocks, while that seems to be a not such a fun thing...it's something that makes life worth living. Once you get to that phase in a loving and quality relationship, it's intimacy that some never know...it's wonderful. Life is Balance...always. I'd hate to think it all goes down the toilet once we get used to one another.

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3. myLot reputation of 93/100. klaudyou (363)   ranked 2,107 out of 3,197 in lover   1 year ago

If I get it right, romantic love is the "I would die for you" love and the mature one is the one based on true, long lasting feeling of respect, admiration and friendship...
Well, the best would be the bursting one, the ever promises one, the first one...to last forever...
Only that...you know as I do, that, at least men can't love like that forever...and they pass in the stage of the mature love, which is the family-type love, with assuming responsibilities, coming home earlier, feeding the kids, and so on....which is indeed long lasting....
I will just make sure that what I feel is really love...that is my point!

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4. myLot reputation of 87/100. jsharriz (361)   ranked 163 out of 3,197 in lover   1 year ago

der's nothin in love called romantic love n mature love... it jus matures as u enjoy to be in love... u dun need to try to be mature... love unconditionally...life will be happy.


City_Ordinance (20)   ranked 985 out of 3,197 in lover  1 year ago

Jsharriz.. Yeah, Loving unconditionally makes person happy if you truly bind and accept concequences. Its not easy to love unconditionaly specially us people because there are things that we want to feel or to control. Like Him that really loves unconditionally. I'm doing everything, my best to love like how He loves us. Loving unconditionally is hard. But if you really want to love like this, its like being like Him. Getting hurt is accepted and being contented of what you have. But for me, it hurts because there are things that I want to have but not controlling your partner and understanding her always makes me become a stronger person.

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5. myLot reputation of 93/100. jc00771 (133)   ranked 12 out of 3,197 in lover   1 year ago

For me I would like to combine both, though the mature love may take bigger part of the combination of love.You know, romantic love without mature comnposition may be not long lasting as when the reality conflict you do not get prepared.On the other hand,mature love if not romatic a little at least may lack of fun.So a mature love with some romantic component will be the best and long lasting one,i think.

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6. myLot reputation of 82/100. asawako48162 (2426)   ranked 2,674 out of 3,197 in lover   1 year ago

I have had three real experiences and the first one was for love,lust and romance..it was a roller coaster and you did not know what the ride was going to be like but it ended after a few years as this was not the women for me..She and I were not on the same page with life..I had to work too much in my job and I did get promoted and got the next level..management but I had to give up someone who would not live without fun and games..24/7..

Second experience I had met an older women and thought we were a good match as we both were working on the same level and even the same working hours and she would visit me in my apartment..as she had a house but next door she owned that house and her daughter and son in law was living...but she was a young widow and we split every thing..and it was nice as she was good at going on trips and camping and everything I like and she was spontaneous ..but she was very jealous and insecure and after awhile the romance became a chore and hell has no women like a women scorned..I told her from the day one that if a women turn a man down..that was ok..but if a man turn a women down that was horrible...omg..all heck breaks lose

So now i have been married to a mature women who has not past husband or children and she and I have built a life with two homes..its been 22 years and not always a bed of roses but we are mature..but there is no fire like in the first two..that fire was never to be..as not all people desire the same thing...men often marry for a trophy wife and a lot of benefits in the romance but some women marry for security and companionship...
men often marry and hope the women never change
but
most women marry and want to change the man..
but that comes with experience..love is a battle field..most times

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7. myLot reputation of 69/100. subha12 (16007)   ranked 488 out of 3,197 in lover   1 year ago

i think the combination of both works fine. I think there should be some maturity with romanticism. but love does not know any rule. if it works it fine. there is nothing like that. else it gives pain.

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8. myLot reputation of 97/100. izathewzia (3385)   ranked 1,291 out of 3,197 in lover   1 year ago

There is this saying "love at the wrong place and time". Meaning we can be engage in romantic love but it must be in a mature way. We should not insist it if we know it is not possible on the first place. We should be mature enough to find if it is right to be in a romantic relationship.

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9. myLot reputation of 26/100. zhangqweqaz (743)   1 year ago

Hi, my friend, in my opinion, I choose to like the mature love. I also have a romantic love in my college, but it ended when we graduated, so I think the romantic love can not last long for ever, for the reasons, the romantic love mostly depended on the money, for example, buying the romantic things like gifts and flowers will spend the money,but the true romantic love is not totally depended on money, and this romantic love will be coming the mature love.

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10. myLot reputation of 26/100. zhangqweqaz (743)   1 year ago

Hi, talk again. In my opinion, I think the romantic love and the mature love is same from the the root.they are the Love. Making people who we love and care to be happy is the meaning of the love.No matter whether your love is romantic love or mature love, it does not matter. So the romantic love and the mature love are the same,do not have any differently rootly.

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