Do you like your children?

Well I guess to a person any other than the parents, it may sound absolutely horrible when children called "Brats" or "troublemaker" but I think most of the times parents don't mean it in the literal sense of the word. It is just that kids can get on your nerves many times during the day and even the most patient parent can lose control. But usually they love their children to death and if anybody dare says the same words to their children, they will be quick to jump to their kid's defense.

I love my daughter. Sometime I call her a brat or something when she frustrates me but all in all id never do anything to hurt her or anything like that. It is hard sometimes as I think it is for most people. Other kids however get on my nerves badly. Some kids I just cant stand. Its different when its your own child. But I think it varies a lot depending on the child and the parents. I know a few parents that try their hardest and the child is still bratty, or the parents just dont care. I know a few of those as well.

I would imagine all parents like and love their children. That does not mean that parents do not have a bad day. Children can be trying at times (like the terrible twos). They probly do not mean it they way it sounds.

I am so glad your not by my window. LOL I love my daughter to pieces. I have also told her a few things that are very true. I call her a follower and that is true. I even told her last night. That she had better change soon. Or she will follow someone to the pits of hell. I don't call her brats and such. Becasue she is not one. She can be very lazy and just not caring. I have let her know this as well. To say it to a neighbor or another adult. I can't see this happening. Things always sound worse when hearing it the way you did.

Have you ever heard of the phrase "Hate the sin and not the sinner"? I don't like what they do and I said to my son just las night, " I don't like what I see you becoming" because he just became a teenager this past October and as the other old saying goes: 'He is smelling his armpits." Please don't ask where it came from because I don't know but that is what he is doing and the attitude is getting out of control, plus I believe my eldest son may be rubbing off on him. You know how that goes! So I wouldn't say that I don't like my children, I just don't like their behavior sometimes.

Yes I like my children and I love them even more. There are times that I dont like what they are doing, but their mistakes, if they learn from them that will make them the ppl they will be in the future. I have never called any of my kids a brat, high maintaince sometimes and I have told them they are spoiled, then they give me that goofy smile and its all good. I also know my kids arent perfect angels, they are children, children like adults make mistakes, thats how we all learn. I am blessed to have my children and I love and like them very much:)

I love my children,tho sometimes i do not like the way they speak or act,so i will say things like'stop stirring it'
or ' your daft'.They know it is more a figure of speech at that time,not that i realy think they are daft. I guess that parents do say it & mean it,like what your saying,seeing parents & children out & about,you just know by their tone,expression.

I was sitting with a group of women a few years back when my children were very young. A women was speaking to the group telling us how one day it dawned on her that she not only loved her children but that she liked them too. She gave it much thought as to why this was ringing such a bell with her that day and said she realized it was possible to love your children but not necessarily like them for what ever reason. It hit me and I had to think really hard on that because I also had thought it was the same thing. I thought how sad it would be if I didn't like my children and did I like my children? I knew for sure I loved them. I soon felt yes this women was right we have to love our children but we don't necessarily have to like them. I was so happy to find out that I not only loved my children but liked them too. Does anyone else ever think about if they like their children or not? Think about anyone in our lives; it could be parents siblings anyone close to us. Do we love them but not really like them?

Sometimes I try to look at my children (all grown) objectively, and I do wonder if I'd like them, like if I just met them somewhere. I believe I would. They are all unique individuals. Witty, charismatic, talented, compassionate, open minded and respectful. They all take care of themselves so well, have great work ethics. One is a math professor at a University, another a successful pastry chef in a fancy restuarant(as well as a good welder and artist), and the other is a wonderful mother, and singer/songwriter. I have another daughter, as well, who is a fantastic mother to 3 little girls. Sure they have their faults, we all do, but they are interesting and fun to be with. Alot of people have told me so, so it's just not me who thinks this. I'm immensely proud of them. I could never say negative things about my children, I don't know how a parent can. I do acknowlege their shortcomings, but they are also aware of them. I enjoy their company, however, and always look forward to being with them. I don't see how people can have children if they treat them so badly. Someone should only have kids if they know they will love them, and support them, and guide them, and help them to find their "calling" in life. They should always respect their kids, and treat them like precious human beings who have the potential to become a true asset to society. I guess it's ok to think your kid is "pretty" or "smart," but I don't think it's right to overdo that sort of thing. I mean my daughter is beautiful..but I've always told her, "you know you're pretty, and it's a gift, so do good with it. Don't manipulate or control people with your beauty, and always know, that real beauty lies within you, as your physical beauty will always fade." Then I try to teach her about that "real" beauty inside her. That's what really counts in the long run.

I know what you mean. All of us parents need to see our children as individuals with their foibles and their best features both. I hate to hear parents calling their children names. It just gets passed down from generation to generation and it's so ugly.