Divorce By Smith & Wesson 38 Special  

Yeah still living together has to be tough, (hugs) it will be easier when he's moved out, or you have. Must have felt good to have your son stand up for you, and set him straight. Give him mad props for me.

I think the best thing you can do is seperate as soon as possible, and well live a happy and productive life without him. Sever all ties as quickly as possible and just move on. You've got a good lawyer, and your wits about you... I doubt he is in your league.

Try to avoid altercations, and just give him a wide berth. As for the .38 solution, I've never wanted to turn a gun on anyone but myself...

That being said, if he gives you any trouble, I have no job, I can go have a talk with him...

I don't know if I'm ever gonna oppose you in an argument again; you might send a hit-man after me! To answer your actual question; no. Been there, was unable to do that. But I hope you get the SO(B) out of your life soon. My parents lived together while they were divorcing; I'm sure it affected my brothers and sisters and I negatively. At least your son is not his and won't feel torn between loyalty to one parent or the other. I won't say my prayers are with you, but you WILL be in my thoughts.

Love the title.. LOL!! Ok this is no secret I'm married and me and my husband are currently going on 8 yrs of seperation I have been with my SO for about 6yrs. The only reason I haven't divorced is my finances. LOL!! And the fact that he walked out and said he didn't want the responsibility. So he should pay for at least half of the divorce right? I wouldn't say it was a messy divorce LOL because we had an argument and he said he didn't want the responsibility of a wife and kids and that he was walking Of course I told him that if he walks out on this marriage he can never come back. LOL!!! I was fearless during that time.
But since your question has to deal with could I hold onto my sense of humor during a messy divorce I would have to say probably not. I can only take so much crap and then I explode especially if we were divorcing I think mr. Smith & Ms. Wesson would have their 38 special doing a dance... LOL!!! I honestly just don't think that I'd do well. Right now I've been praying that my husband meets and untimely doom. It would be so easy if he just up and died of natural causes.
My estranged husband had no part in my or our childrens life , so his two kids Katie and Ty have no clue who he is! None what so ever. I get about 100 a month when he pays and let me tell you that ain't much. LOL!!! I don't want to take him back and try and get more for fear he's going to pull the I'm pyscho card that he pulled for 5 yrs .. He just started paying about a year and a half ago. or less. He kept on saying that he wasn't able to work in large groups of people with out getting physically violent .. The problem I saw with this is he was a truck driver and it wasn't team driving it was solo. So he wasn't in large groups of people hell he didn't even have to unload or load the truck it was all done for him he only had to drive it. But he did say when he walked out I wouldn't see a penny from him and that he would quit his job becuase in the state I live in they can take up to 55% of his paycheck for child support and he was clearing after taxes 700 a week. Grrrrr. which would have meant I would have gotten a pretty penny .. Now he doesn't even work in the field he went to school for and he's paying 100 a month for 2 kids and that is when he pays. Funny thing he still has his CDL Class A with all the hazmat
Sh!t.

Ok need to stop my rant now .. I'm sorry that your going through this and that he is being a d!ck and I only hope that he gets enough sense to move out. LOL!!!

You know life is very hard at times and whenyou can laugh at something funny or smle, then you are good. I have been going through a few dramas in my life, but when I'm at work, you wouldn't think I had problems because of the way I am when I'm here. I smile, laugh, flirt, and doing those things take my mind of off my problems, until I get home of course. But yes, you are capable of holding on to your sense of humor. It's therapy! Don't kill no one and I wish you and your family the best.

Careful he doesn't get the same idea and beats you to the draw!

You must have loved him once so wouldn't it be easier just to remain friends? It would make the whole deal a lot easier.

You did say you had a good sense of humour so that's a start.

I am not surprised t your feelings, and am very very very glad that you are able to maintain, even cynicla, a sense of humor....

I have to say right now that I woudn't be able to handle it, I would be all over him and wouldn't be very nice about it, my tempter would be one tht would be flaring and flaring big time......

I hope it gets better for you, and I am glad your brother stood up for you, it always helps to have friends and family to back you up.

Hope the divorce goes well for you and ends soon.

Mooch

Neither of my divorces were messy, Spark, thank goodness. The second one was actually kind of fun. I hadn't seen him in a few years, and he looked so completely adorable, and I was really happy that we were there getting the thing, so it wasn't altogether unpleasant at all. But I realize that I am a rare exception in this matter. Tangled divorces are so awful, and I feel so much for you, having to go through this. It just sucks. And, no, I don't think I'd be able to hang on to my sense of humor. That would take a bit more than I have in me, I think. I don't know how you're going to do it, darlin, but if anyone can, you can. You've got such determination and are a true pit bull when it comes to things you want, so you're gonna make it, for sure. Keep the .38 locked up tight. Don't create too much temptation for yourself. And definitely get him into the RV asap. Out! Damn spot!

my divorce wasnt messy.. mainly because i walked away with the statement "id rather have just some of my stuff, than any part of you" i had always introduced him to others as "my first husband" , he shouldve had a clue this was how itd end up.

the only thing youll buy yerself with a .38 special divorce, is another prison. the kind with ironbars, and guards that tell you when you can pee. not exactly my idea of a decent solution.

oh my I do doubt it as I have a veryquick temper and in the circumstances you describe I would probably have to literally bite my tongue to keep from yelling at the SO{B} but hope I would try to find my sense of humor rather that stoop to his level.

Oh this'll be fun.

My first marriage was dismal.
My ex wife was/is the laziest welfare mom wannabe there is. I literally worked myself to death ( heart stopped, ambulance called, the whole 9 yards ) to try to provide for our family while she did nothing but spend our money on everything but the bills.

After I died I told her " Our vows were till death do us part, I died... Goodbye."

She soon also found that when everything was said & done WE actually didn't own anything. It was all in someone else's name. She got NOTHING I didn't feel like giving her in the divorce. When she did balk I went over there with a wrecker & a dollie & made a show of leaving her car & fridge. The whole alimony idea was dropped quick...

She's still a pain in my arsh... Tell you what , you do mine, I'll do yours!