Religon and relationships
By CSHINE
@SHAMRACK (8576)
India
April 13, 2008 7:54am CST
I do have friends from mainly from Hinduism, Muslims, Sikhs, Buddhism, Jews. Most of them have not yet shown any disgrace or discomfort towards our relationships. But recently I came to know that one of my friend is selecting his friends only who are in same religion he is in and disposing help only to them. I never accepted that attitude from him. The only wrong thing I found in him was he was very much over possessive of his religion. But I do have friends from the same religion he is and they had not yet shown any discomfort with their religion and our relationship. As I respect every religions with positive intentions I never quoted any remark of other religion so as to not to make it a issue in my relationships. Still I feel very much hurt when some people make religious choices in making friends and having better relationships.
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7 responses
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
17 Apr 08
It is so sad, but not much you can do about it. Some people but religion above everything else and they will never change. You will have to see that this person is not a good friend to you. And you then can either stay friends with him or not. It is your choice.
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@Ohara_1983 (4117)
• Kuwait
14 Apr 08
i dont like to choice any religion for my becoming friends or relationship,as long im happy & we understand each other and the LOVE will be there.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
19 Apr 08
I can understand why you are upset over this. As you have made every effort to have friends from a variety of religions, & not shown your religious preferences in an obvious way, this is quite sad.
Your friend who is showing preference for those of the same religion, will find in the long run that he/she has less friends.
Other people will see that this friend is showing preferences & be offended.
Of course, there is not much you can do about this, except to show an example of being a friend to all religions.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
26 Apr 08
hi shamrack! 
i also have friends from different religions and different sects but i have never had known anyone who selects friends based on religion. that is really such a shallow thing to do. although i have friends with different beliefs and we sometimes argue about it, they never force their beliefs on me or to anybody. and i think i'm lucky to have friends like that who knows how to respect anybody else's beliefs. i wish that person would realize that the way he chooses friends is not a very nice way, its kinda discriminating and pathetic.
i also have friends from different religions and different sects but i have never had known anyone who selects friends based on religion. that is really such a shallow thing to do. although i have friends with different beliefs and we sometimes argue about it, they never force their beliefs on me or to anybody. and i think i'm lucky to have friends like that who knows how to respect anybody else's beliefs. i wish that person would realize that the way he chooses friends is not a very nice way, its kinda discriminating and pathetic. 
@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
I experienced people befriending be because they want me to join their religion... or that they want to spread whatever good news they have... and i think that is just rude... they start off friendly... and then the next thing you know... they would talk about their religion and how wrong the doctrines of my religion are...
I don't consider what the religion is of the person... as long as he/she can be a good friend... and there is no discrimination... that is okay with me...
@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
Well, I feel how it is for you. Yes, we have to pose for a while and think why.. but let's take a moment to also understand them. They have taken religion on it's proper essence and context and they have become judge of something religion is against off.
I have friends who does just like your friends do but I just lay the cards of my understanding and just them believe what they so believe but in the other corner of that, I still will make them feel what they most wanted in a friend and share my care even if they ignore me. To lend a hand if they need one and just be of support to them.
We just give without anything in return and we will feel happier in the end.
Cheers and good luck! 
@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
*** sorry, it should have been..
-- they have taken religion "NOT" on it's proper essence and context...
@Phlamingho (7822)
• Denmark
13 Apr 08
I don't have any friends that are very religious people, that's pretty nice I think, I guess people could get really mad at each other while discussing religion.
