What do you do when your heart aches?

broken heart - A love that seems to be forever but eventually fades is something we all dread. But we can't help nor stop it from happening. Then one day we realize the love we treated so preciously is gone. A sudden gasp for air and the moments when you smiled cheerfully with your beloved is longed and hoped for. But nothing could ever bring it back. Now you are wandering in the world of emptiness, struggling to show everyone 'I am ok' but when secluded you burst out your soul hoping that your 'beloved' could hear your calling and wishing that his heart longs for yours. But instead of console, you feel the harsh coolness of reality ~ there is no coming back. Thus, you realize, your heart is broken.
@laydee (12798)
Philippines
April 27, 2008 8:37am CST
This may sound a very emotional topic, but I'm just wondering how you guys/gals treat your heart when it aches?I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 4years. Things haven't been easy for the both of us recently and I snapped and felt it was time for us to go our separate ways since we don't really 'talk' as much as we did a few years back. Now, I'm really regretting the decision and my heart aches since it seems it's Okay for him that we have broken up. I usually go mylotting or do some chatting or typing to heal my broken heart. What do you do to heal or prevent the down feeling from conquering your world?Oh by the way, I'm not here to ask for advice but rather want some sharing on how you do your healing.=) Thanks
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walnutbrownie
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
28 Apr 08
breaking up is the toughest thing one has to undergo esp when u love the other person so much.Well, i try to keep myself busy and induldge in activities which doesnt involve much thinkin . Tried listening to music, watching a movie but it only reminded me of the other person so bascially DONT BE ALONE, stay among frens you are comfortable and get going ..Life is beautiful and we learn from the past relationships ..so that in future we can value and appreciate the gift of love. Take care..i know its difficult to..
laydee
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
Yeah, breakups indeed make you appreciate the gift of love given to you more and more. I just hope that someday we won't be too tired of meeting other people who could be our future partner. Anyhow, regardless how much we try of staying away from being alone, there really are times when we can't help but be alone, specially when it's sleep time. That's the worst time of it all. In the cold and silence of the night. It simply drives us nuts in our heart to think of what we lost. But hopefully it's an experience we'd soon forget, well not really forget, maybe more of 'get over'. So how long before you got over your heartache?
walnutbrownie
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
30 Apr 08
I can unerstand the loneliness and emptiness u feel even when u are amidst people cos i am going through the same though its been some time for me.I guess the memories always stay wid us and thats shud be enough to last a life time.From the past, ive learnd to appreciate relationships n love to its fullest meaning.I guess with time we'l get over it but memeories are here to stay. take care laydee...
checapricorn
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
27 Apr 08
IN my case, I just move on though it was hard, but with the presence of my family and friends, I was able to, I always go out to play our favorite sports so I don't have time to think about the pain! I try my very best not to have an idle time!
laydee
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
Hi there, How long before you recovered from the pain? Did you ever forgive the person who hurt you so much in the end? Yeah, I guess it's really not good to have idle time at the early stages of the break-up.
checapricorn
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
29 Apr 08
Long time...hahahahaha, I didn't started another relationship right away, I guess it took like 2 years before I can say I was able to escape from the memory and pain! I didn't hate him because I'm the one who decided to just stop it even if it's painful since I can't see any good future for us! We are just two different people but we do enjoy hanging around together but beyond that, I can't see that he will be a responsible partner in the future!
subha12
@subha12 (18441)
• India
28 Apr 08
i can understand your situation. its really hard when it hurts so much. actually the breakups take generally long time to heal. just keep yourself away from all those thoughts. i know those are easy to say tahn done. but try it.
laydee
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
Have you experienced similar situations? How do you deal with it?
Malyck
@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
27 Apr 08
Oh, I'm really sorry to hear that you broke up =( I can't even imagine how much you're hurting, but it's good that you're staying active and giving yourself something to do. I haven't ever been through a bad breakup, but plenty of things have happened in my life to hurt and almost tear my heart apart. At different times I've coped differently. These days, when I'm feeling low, I normally read with music that soothes me playing in the background and play with my kitten, who always makes me happy and appreciative. I TRY not to wallow too much, walking, reading, using the internet, watching tv, and of course the comfort eating. And I let the people who love me know how I'm feeling =)
laydee
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
Comfort eating? wow, I can never do that, coz I got this tendency to overeat and pour all my feelings on food cravings which I usually regret afterwards. Whew, breaking up indeed is the most tough specially if you've been with someone for a long time. Anyhow, I really appreciate your comments on this topic. By the way, how long do you usually recover whenever 'hurtful things' happen in your life?