Would Your Friend Do This.........?

I do understand your dilemma Natrak. I've been giving this some thought for some time. I have lots of online 'friends' and in an 'online' way I love each and every one of them. But only a few of them I think would be able to make that transition from online to offline in my affections. What I mean is, if I met all of my online friends off line, I know for a fact that for one reason or another (and mostly to do with the chemical reactions we have towards people when face to face) some of them would remain acquaintances, some would be friends, and only a very few would be people I would truly love enough to make a permantent part of my life as I have with my best off line friends right now. Do you see what I mean? As for online romantic love blooming - no I don't believe it either. Face to face will always tell the REAL story. Those pheromones are important in romance.
You my dear - are one of those I really believe I could come to love off line as much as I care about you and value you online. Strange huh? But you are always so honest and give such considered comments without going all pendantic on me, and your way of 'speaking' makes me think, pay attention and see what's really being expressed. Sometimes I get it wrong, but I never feel like I've just been 'fobbed' off for a post count. You are REAL to me. I would give my eye teeth to know you in person!

It's like my mind is open book to you, I feel exactly the same way. And I have been thinking about you lately, sometimes I don't respond to your discussions, but I read all of them. I wish I could express myself better and easier in English, so maybe you didn't have to put so much effort in figuring out what was I thinking when I wrote it.
You know Spark, I don't believe anyone here said anything so nice to me that will ever come close to what you have said in your comment. I had to read it few times actually.

It was easy to write, believe me my dear friend. And your English and the way you express yourself is just fine. I don't have any trouble reading it. I just want to be sure when I do that I'm getting the right meaning because you have a way of tying so many thoughts up in a few words that I envy. It is always a learning experience reading you.
As for not responding to all my discussions - no probs. I don't respond to all of yours either. I'm very selective about certain discussions - I really want to be able to contribute something of worth and my particular friends here, like you are too important to me to just 'fob' off with silly comments, unless of course it's that kind of a discussion.

Shhhhhhh - no telling secrets!
Actually you pretty much said what I said.
But there are people I've met here and other places that I would most certainly love to meet off line. Where it went from there is up to the old pheromones! LOL

You are very lucky to have found your soul-mate. Very lucky indeed. I'm happy for you, truly. It's not an easy feat, and to have found him online is to my mind a little miracle. Kudos to you both. You must have been very honest with each other from the start - and that in itself is very rare online. And thank you for the compliment - because I try very hard to be as real as I can wherever I am. At times on line, it's more difficult to be totally forthcoming when you know you have to protect yourself and that can confuse people. But the real me always shows itself.
When I was raising my kids, I used to say to them, "I love you, but I don't like you/like your behaviour right now....." I only said this when I wanted to teach them something about a wrong they had done. This way they knew that I could love them no matter what, but not being 'liked' by mom was hard to take and that little 'ploy' worked better for keeping them always striving to be better people better than any other discinplinary action could ever have accomplished. So I well know the difference between being loved and liked. Great post Wendy. Thank you.

You are welcome. You can ask Edgy, I said the same exact words to my children. I also told them to make sure they liked the person they were becoming and the person they were concidering spending the rest of their life with. I have taken a lot of s#(% for saying that to them when they were younger. But I believed, like you, that they needed to know that, even if I didn't like them or their behavior, I would always unconditionally love them. Another thing that I have learned is I never tell my kids or grandbabies that I am proud of them. If they did it, why on earth should I be proud? I didn't do it. And if I tell them I am proud of a certain action or behavior, that puts too much pressure on them. If they don't do it that well every time I won't be proud. I have, for years now, told them that I am honored to be their mother, that a certain behavior honors the way I taught them, or that certain actions bring honor to me as their mother. The Lord said, "Pride goeth before destruction." It is something I have worked hard to eliminate from our lives. Anyway, that kinda blew me away when you said that about how you talked to your kids. Too cool!:)

Oh this is priceless! To use the word 'honor' instead of pride/proud is one of my other favs with my kids! I'm twin by the way. Were we separated at birth? LOL

I'm not sure. My mom did tell my that I had dark hair and a darker complexion when I was born which prompted her to burst into tears and tell the nurse to take me away and bring her the right baby. She said I was an eskimo baby and not her's. You an eskimo, by chance?

LOL - nope. As Celtic as they come, red hair, freckles and all!
When my sister was born prematurely she was covered everywhere in dark hair and all scrunched up in the face. My mother cried and told them to take the monkey away and bring her own baby! LOL

hehe, I'm so glad you gals met, now I hope I still get a word in edge wise:)

Who are you again edgy? ROFL....................

Don't worry, my dear. Your words are just as important to me as they ever were.

Sure sd. Put in a friends request and let's get to know each other.
Welcome to mylot by the way.

I'm a writer by profession edgy. I have a lot of hidden talents! LOL
I know that here, I'm mostly the 'class clown', but I have other places on the net where I write my more 'serious' stuff. Every personality has more than a dozen facets to it. Mylot brings out my humorous side, but no one can be laughing their way through life all the time, and when moved, I write here about whatever serious thoughts are keeping me awake. One of the reasons this site is so addictive, is the almost instant response, and except for trolls(LOL) the total acceptance by friends old and new. I hope you reconnect with your Shar. Have you tried to google her?
Now - where's the nearest bar? I need a drink and you need me! LOL

FRIENDLY NEIGHBORHOOD TAVEREN NOW OPEN AND SERVING GOOD TIMES NON-ALCOHOLIC ONLY!


We three amigos would, more than likely, end up in some sort of trouble together.
I can see it now: Spark and her mother/daughter accomplices are being held for assault without intent after causing entire bar to be bruised from rolling on floor in uncontrollable laughter and needing stitches from splitting their sides laughing. It was, after all, very serious humor, folks. Complete story when we figure it out.

ALRIGHTY THEN!
Line up the Shirley Temples barkeep - we've some serious fun to get into here................burp! (ooops)

Hey, just cuz you quit drinking, don't mean I can't have a scotch and seven, poor me a tall one, easy on the ice....it's been a long week!!!

I'm not a big drinker at all, but there are days when a cold tall one sure goes down a treat! I'm with you this week edgy. Next week I'll go temperance! LOL

hehe, ok lets share one. 'm not a big drinker either, I just like to tease mom since she's been sober now...how many years is it? I have a drink or two a few times a year, but I enjoy thinking about it often:)

Then back to Shirley Temples it is with an imaginary ounce of Vodka! LOL
Christmas at my parents was always the most martini's I ever drank at time.
One year when I was far, far, into adulthood, I asked my Dad for another and asked him to make it a little stronger this time. He looked at me and laughed and said: "You mean you're just realizing now that I've been watering down your martini's for years and years?" Funny man!

Just as long as you sleep like a happy baby ok?
See you tomorrow my love, my lust, my inspiration!

Thanks Goodie. I do agree with you that my online friends are important and though I don't keep in touch daily, I'm always so glad to 'see' them when they pop up in my inbox. But they are on my mind everyday. At different times during my day I'll think 'so and so" would love this, I must share it, or another 'so and so' needs to hear this or see this, etc. I don't keep up with everyone every day, but I always try to reach out to those I feel need a pick me up from time to time and when I get a response it just sends me over the moon.
I guess I'm just easily pleased! LOL

You made perfect sense to me Raven.
I know what you mean - which is basically what I tried to say in my discussion.
I know from experience that some online friends will just fade away when contact becomes intermittent. That's inevitable. Others I will let go for 'self preservation' reasons too. But there is a handful (which grows actually as I meet and greet new people) that will always be cluttering up my inbox (LOL) and very welcome, and others that if I don't talk to them on the phone, I would be lost without and still others that if I met in real life would probably take one look at me and want to kill me! LOL But for the main - this instant access tool we have needs to be handled carefully I think so that we 'preserve ourselves' but also don't lose totally the deeper meaning of friendship and love of friends.
You know Rave - that was some good brainfart you had! Made me think for sure.

Your welcome sid. I love what you said and do so agree.
As for o.d.ing - nope, not me, not ever again! My life saver is here on the lot now. She's my guardian angel and as long as I have her, I'm sober, sane and safe. Well, most of the time! LOL She's AnnieOakley1.

I agree that online friends can be tricky Psyclown. But out of all the people you meet online, there are always some you just know you would love to love off line.