Does your partner have a say in your dress, or the way you wear your hair?

Thank you for your comment, so to paraphrase: If I agree, I listen... Good to hear you have a mind of your own.:)

Hehe.. if I agree, I agree.=) I just don't like any inkling of a control or property issue, as I am my own person and I make my own decisions.

Thank you for your input. Actually I don't mind that he likes my hair long, I think its cute that he likes me the way I am and doesn't want me to change. Everytime I have cut my hair in the past I have regretted it, so him saying not to cut it is almost like protecting me from my own whims. Also, he compliments me quite often... just don't want to give the impression he is some sort of obsessive jerk. He just knows what he likes.

Cute! and well said. I just wonder does he know that he has the power of reverse psychology? If he knew it could be dangerous...lol!

Absolutely. There is a song I think by Montgomery Gentry called 'She Don't Tell Me To'. I think it is self explanatory, as people are much more willing to do things if the other doesn't tell them to.

Lol!!!! I think my partner and I would love to come to a BBQ at your house!!! Sounds like you have a very healthy relationship, and a great sense of style!

Well yeah but then I would have to cook....he can't cook a lick. I guess it is the Bahamian thing....you know men don't cook. Love him anyway though.

My husband cooks.... well he bbqs=) I enjoy compliments too but I am secure enough in myself that I don't require them from people to feel good. I have figured out that when I feel good, I will get compliments anyway, so I only try to look good for me.

Ah I learned after a 100 lb weight gain a years of physical therapy and recovery from a near fatal injury not to rely upon anybody or anything for validation.

I have a very healthy respect for myself, my beauty, my person as a human being and a woman. I am whatever I will be. I am not what society expects of me. I am not a lollipop head and never will be. I once was a ballet dancer. I once was an athlete. I once was a runner. I once was a size 2. I once was everything society considered beautiful and I once was miserable.

Then I was shot three times.

Then I spent years recoverying.

Then I got fat.

Then I spent years searching for me.

Now when Cosmopolitan calls and wants to do an artical on Fun and Fearless Women....well they will simply need a foldout!

Wow! Well, you are courageous and awesome=) At this point in my life, I am probably somebody that some people like to hate. I take care of myself and I am actually a size 0/1. There is a price to being secure though, and there is a price to life - most people including me have been at the other end of the spectrum too. When you have been there, you KNOW what miserable is, and you will do anything not to be there again, and you try to help other people get out of it, at least I do. I took care of myself because if I didn't, I would be having health problems, perhaps not related to weight but exercise and diet definitely helped. I want to be a good example and role model for my children, for my husband, and for my friends. I want to be able to help encourage people by showing them there is a way to improve any situation, and although none of the ways are quick fix, they work longterm as a lifestyle, which is the best way to learn and practice healthy habits.-

I love me now. I would like to lose weight from a health perspective. Last year I lost 36 lbs through diet and an exercise routine that works with and around my disabilities.

I fell in October and had to endure three surgeries to correct the damages. That set me back a bit. I am only now getting back to the gym after recovery.

HA! Funny, I'm in my thirties and have been greying since my twenties. I used to color my hair because I was embarassed of the grey. Now I leave it alone. When I first started dating my mate, he commented that he liked the grey... that it was "sparkly". It made me feel so special that I haven't colored it since. I have toned my wardrobe down a notch, more so that I don't embarass my kids than anything else.:) Thanks for your thoughts!!!

I'm in my 30s and I highlight my hair=) It is naturally a really dark reddish brown but I put highlights in it that are blonde - about the color of my daughter's hair. The cool thing about highlights is that they should cover any grays that do happen to sneak into the picture. Otherwise they would be VERY noticeable and I don't ever want to go gray, I am still getting carded for goodness sake.

I prefer comfort over style, I work out a lot and I have three kids, but I'm good at finding stylish comfortable. I wouldn't call myself a prude but I try to dress appropriately such as I don't wander about in a sports bra or a cut off tshirt or daisy dukes. Some people say that if you can get away with that, it doesn't matter, but it only seems all right if you are younger and single without kids.

Good point!! I think respect in a relationship is important, truth be told if I didn't respect my spouce I certainly would have a hard time doing anything for him. In my case we agree on most everything so it is easy for me to "please" him.

Lol... My partner is definately Lord and Master of my household. It is not to say I'm some stepford wife with no opinions of my own, but I respect him and prefer to do things that make him happy. When he is pleased the whole household is affected positively. I know it takes all kinds of people and all kinds of relationships to make this world and interesting place to live. The important thing is you love him and he loves you. Thanks for your imput. I think its cute he knows enough to not want to make you angry!!!

Hmmm. I agree! No lord and master relationship/behavior here, that's for sure. I often wonder about people who choose or live like that, it doesn't sound very loving or fun to me. The only people I tell to do things and how to do them are my kids, other minors, or folks whose JOB it is to do things how, when, and where I ask them to. Opinions are opinions, everybody has one, they cannot really be right or wrong, they are preferences and choices. Just because I don't like yours doesn't mean you don't have the right to have it, and just because you don't like mine doesn't mean*I* don't have the right to have it.=)

Exactly. We even joke about it. He will use a deep echoey voice and say your lord and master has spoken and I break out laughing. Can't help it because our relationship isn't like that and never will be. Equal partners, respecting each others' opinions. That doesn't say I don't do things that I know pleases him and vice versa. We call those "brownie points" to be used when needed. I do understand that people are raised differently and in different cultures it is fine for the husband to be in "charge" and I respect that. If we were all the same what a boring world it would be. If they are happy with the set up, far be it from me to say anything about it, as long as my hubby doesn't get any ideas.

In my case I do enjoy my partner having a say. It allows him the opportunity to freely express himself, I know he doesn't just say I look good to advoid an argument. If he says I look particularly spectacular...well it just means alot more. I get a great deal out of our relationship, although I know it wouldn't work for everybody.

Thanks for the comment!

My spouce likes the way I choose to dress, it is one of the things that originally attracted him to me. Sometimes, when I'm just lounging about at home, I wear outfits that are comfy but less than flattering. Whenever he comments on something not being his favorite thing of mine, I give it to a charity so that I don't make that mistake again. It is easier for me than to think he finds me less than attractive. My partner does have the final say in my dress, but that is mostly because I WANT to please him.
Thank you for your thoughts!!