If you could do it over again

I also have the same feeling as gerald.But maybe more...If i can ture back time,i will:1.to stay with my parents more time and talk with them.My parents worked outside alldays and didn't talk to me much since i was a child.They don't care about us like when i m sad they didn't came up to see what happened.They just smile as if it was funny.I cann't understand.So sometimes i doubted that they didn't love me.We lack of communication.And i even felt that i was neglected by the world.It made me feel so awuful,really.2.To change my college course.I'm not interested in computer at all,but we still have to learn developing some computer programs.What i like is literary and languages.But learning this course helped me sometimes,but i'm sure i will be better if i choose literary or languges as my major.^^3.the same,"sociable".But i am not very good at communication,it's my character.It's hard to change.If changed,maybe it's not me. Life cannot regret,just keep moving!

gerald, I admire anyone that wants to better themselves with a good education. I don't know if I would call you 'lazy' I think all those years of schooling would make anyone feel burned out. As for me. I am fine and dandy, the thing I was referring to about my exhusband was something that happened 30 years ago. Life is good if you know where to look for the goodness at. liuqian, You know, I think a lot of people out there wishes thier parents would have been more approachable. Mine weren't either. I love my mom, but it's like she became emotionally detached from us or something while we were growing up. I really needed someone in my teen years and there wasn't anyone there. I remember one time I asked her a question and she told me to stop being stupid. Needless to say I never bothered to ask her anything important again. Of course I've grown older, I am better able to relate to maybe why she was the way she was and I try to do better by my children. Also, I am so proud for you getting an education

I think the term "lazy" still applies to me really well because during my school years, even during exam periods I still either watch TV a lot or play computer games and not study. Even though I didn't fail and still did quite reasonably, but I think I should have put all my focus and energy into studying and maximize my potential of getting better results. Btw, from your discussion and reply to liuqian, I think I'll have to consider myself very lucky because my parents did give a lot of attention to me eg. they scold me whenever I laze around instead of studying. When I was younger, I always thought that they were sort of controlling my life, but now I know that they did it for my own good and future. So I think I really have to be grateful for good and caring parents.

Okay we both screwed up the first time around(i think the way we were raised gauranteed that). But i think we both did alright the second time around don't you?

Thanks for the best response. I stand by what i wrote.

I hear you, there are so many things we all would do differently. I definatly wouldn't have let that first one get within ten miles of me.

You lost a child? I am so sorry. You must have a very deep insight to life. And you sound like a person that has really found peace.