You know that's where it's headed anyway...

HI Foxy!! You two have known each other for an awfully long time now. It could be just that you 2 are use to each other always being there for each other..But then again it could be true love. What's taking him so long to get rid of the 'girlfriend'? I would wonder about that myself. Maybe she's not 'stable' enough right now for him to break it off with her. I would ask him "What's taking so long if you truly LOVE ME"??If it's meant to be it will be so. I wish you all the best,Lori

Of course the important thing to think about are the kids you have with the man you are with now. How would they be effected by this? Is your ex willing to take you as a "package" deal including your boys?
Besides being young, you need to also reflect on what some of the other reasons are why you two split in the first place. Otherwise, you risk dooming yourselves to more heartache.
If you leave the S/O (or should I say S.O.B. for how he and his parents treat you), will he create more problems than you are willing or able to cope with? (Custody, money, living arrangements and such).
It may seem like a convenient escape to go back to your ex, but jumping from one relationship to another is rarely a healthy thing. Would there be any possible way you could leave the man you have now and spend a little time with no man before hooking up with the ex? This would give you a chance to spread your wings and get to know yourself, and then you could make a better informed decision on what the next step should be.
I know it is hard for you now, where you are, but I'd hate to see you make a move seeking to improve things and have them worsen. you know?
Whatever you end up doing, I and all your mylot pals will be sending you all our best wishes for your happiness.

To say the least Foxy, I am a bit confused. I've been following your drama now for months and you have a s/o that you are with and things haven't been going well there, and you planned to stay with him until you could do better, but you aren't happy.

I remember the husband was never getting in contact with you for the children and you went months without seeing them.. and you got that worked out finally.

Now the exhusband makes a remark that when he gets rid of his girlfriend you all can pick back up? Does that sound real to you? Are you looking for security, so you have a place to go to get away from the s/o? If you are I understand it.. but at the same time I think you are opening yourself up to get hurt again, and fall into more drama. Exes are exes for a reason.. and there was a reason you didn't stay together in the first place.

I'm just an outsider, but this has been like a soap opera for me as I have followed your discussions.. and I wonder if you are heading for another world of hurt.

I do wish you the best, no matter what.. and I hope you can finally be happy. I think you will have to find that happiness within yourself and not by going to another man, even if he is familiar.. sorry.. that is just my thought on this. I don't mean to offend you at all.. but you are asking for feedback.. so I am giving you mine.

Hi foxyfire, I have no words of advice, just a wish for happiness. May you know more love and joy than you ever thought possible. Blessings.

I once heard it said that true happiness comes from within ourselves, and not from others or other events or circumstances. I could tell from your words that you do still love this man very much. I think that right now time is your best ally. This may be your second chance at this relationship, or it may be your chance at freedom so that you will be ready for your next relationship.

You never know, it may be meant to be.
Heaps of people do get back together after a long time apart.
Now you are older you both may just be able to make it work.

I don't like to burst bubbles, but if it were going to happen, he would not be waiting for his girlfreind to leave, he would be breaking off the relationship with her.. You know that you can do whatever you want to do to be happy, but as for myself, I think that I would tell him to hit the road and take her with him.. When someone sees that you can't be run over in a relationship, sometimes they quit trying to run over you.. I do hope things work out for the best for you..

You're probably too young to remember the old song that goes "Love is lovelier the second time around" but that just might be the perfect theme song for you guys. The lyrics go on with "much more comfortable, the second time you fall". I think it's something that happens pretty often, two people fall in love when they're very young and immature and when the going gets a bit rough and the romance wears off a little they bail out but then some are fortunate enough to keep the door open just enough to perhaps get a second chance once they're grown up more but still young enough to have much of their lives in front of them. What I'm trying to say, I guess, is if you think it feels right this time you should go for it. I've participated in enough of your discussions here to know you've been going through more stuff than anyone deserves to in your current situation so it seems like a pretty safe bet that you'll be happier with your ex than you are with your current SOB. Good luck, no matter what you decide! Hugs!
Annie

I am not telling that it is not at all possible to again be together. but i think your answer lies in the discussion yourself.you should not be plan B or just second option. try to understand what is there in hois mind. if he actually wants to continue, then its OK.

Hey, foxy it sounds like that you are in a bit of a situation here. If you don't mind me asking I would like to know why the relationship that you are in isn't working? Also What were some of the main reasons that you and ex broke up for? Besides the just being to young part. I mean like what was the straw that broke the camels back? Just wondering, Surrenda