Getting Over an Ex before moving on..  |
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 How long do you guys get over someone before having another one in your life? Share your experiences
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1.  repzkoopz (829) | 3 months ago |  i remember a few years ago, i read an article about moving on.. and there was a part of the article where it mentioned a scientific study was done and found out men take longer periods to move on. i guess it was true since most of us guys take quite some time to move on, specially when we've given up everything for the person we love.
in my case, i was never really able to move on. but i guess i was able to accept the fact that we've separated.
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 laydee (1456) | 3 months ago | Truly? I have always thought women/girls have a harder time to move on since we're what you call 'emotional' beings and we're the ones who wait for guys to come over rather than us approaching guys.
Oh well, I guess regardless how science or studies show, there really are things in life where it doesn't really matter if you're a guy or a girl.
Anyhow, how long have you been separated and could you say you're not yet over the person?
Thanks for the response, it opened my eyes to the fact that like women, men are also soft in the inside.
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| repzkoopz (829) | 3 months ago | well.. yeah.. we guys are pretty emotional too. its just that most of us just wanna show it to others because of lousy machismo.. some guys feel it makes them less of a man when they show weakness. you know.. typical boys stuff.. hehe..
anyway, since you asked, we've been apart a month short to become a decade long. c',)
its been almost 10 years and i'm not really sure if i've moved on but i'm pretty good at keeping my emotions down. we see each other from time to time, usually with common friends, although sometimes we go out alone.. nothing intimate though.. c",) | |
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| laydee (1456) | 3 months ago | Oh, that's tough 'coz you guys still meet.. hmm.. do you think there's a chance for things to go the way they were? | |
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| repzkoopz (829) | 3 months ago | well.. honestly i'm no longer expecting for things to get back the way they were. i bet she feels the same. i'm just glad and pretty much content with what we are now. like i said, we're still very close to each other. but less intimacy in the relationship. c",) | |
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| 2. walnutbrownie (223) | 3 months ago |  I think ..the person who has given it all in the relationship suffers more or for that matter if both gave it all but had to part ways than its painful for both n takes years to get over it.People say you need another man/women in your life to get over your ex but for me..its partly true ..yes because theres distraction but no becos everything reminds me of the past...
I guess theres no choice but to move on...n im doing that
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| laydee (1456) | 3 months ago | Hmm.. are you saying that people who find 'love' faster haven't really given it all in the relationship? I'd sure hoped not.
I think for people who need another person in their lives to get over the ex may have already fallen out of love before they got separated. Or maybe, you're right, they haven't gotten too involved in the relationship, that's why it's easy for them to find another.
I do hope someone who got over their ex by having another partner could defend their stand. hehe..
Thank you for your honesty. By the way, how long have you been trying to 'move on'? | |
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| walnutbrownie (223) | 3 months ago | 14 months and looks like i have a long way to go....life sucks at times | |
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| laydee (1456) | 3 months ago | Oh yeah.. tell me about it.. whew.. | |
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| laydee (1456) | 3 months ago | hmmm....6years hahahahahaha and until now I'm not yet 'completely' over. | |
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| 3. maddysmommy (9827) | 3 months ago |  I was in a 7 year relationship before i met my husband online. It was dead after 4 years and going no-where. I didn't know how to get out of it and finally I met someone who helped me. I think it was meant for me to meet him and I am so thankful I did.
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| laydee (1456) | 3 months ago | I guess life is just full of surprises, we don't really know what's going to happen but sad or happy, we must live it.
Good to know you finally found the right one after the wrong ones..
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| 4. ambkeb (575) | 3 months ago |  My husband was actually the "rebound" guy. I had been with this guy for 5 years and had a really awful break up so my bestfriends boyfriend invited his cousin over to the house and we all went out to play pool. It just kind of went from hanging out to dating. A year later we had our son and now have been married for 2 years and our son will be 4 this year and our daughter will be 2. I think everyone needs a "rebound" person. They don't always turn out good like mine did. But I think they help with the whole "getting back out there" thing. Just casual dating is great to. A friend once told me that even casual s.e.x with a friend helps a lot to. She said its a great thing to always have that friend with benefits that way when you are down....that friend will always be there to pick you back up LOL.
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| laydee (1456) | 3 months ago | Oh, it's good that you landed to the right 'rebound' guy..
I guess sometimes we do need these guys for help. Does your husband know he's the 'rebound guy'? | |
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| 5. drsparkle314 (163) | 3 months ago |  For me, it usually takes months or even years before I get over someone I really loved and even when I'm over them I can't help but do something to remain close to them. In fact I always end up as their best friend which some people find to be a little odd. When someone has already become a part of my life they stay in my heart no matter how we ended up or no matter how much they've hurt me. But when I fall for someone I give my heart completely. Old flames never leave but they only stay as a memory and we all start anew leaving all pains behind. Once we become friends again it signifies a new start it signifies that I have healed. I stay by their side not because I need them but because I'm trying to keep the promise I've made to them from the start, "To be the shoulder that they can always lean on." So even if I just end up as a friend at least I'm still the one who they look for when all things are gone. So for me moving on is being able to be a good friend even after being hurt by the one who stole my heart before.
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| laydee (1456) | 3 months ago | That is certainly odd~ being the bestfriend after the break up. Don't their new love get jealous?
I have always been somewhat like that, but I usually initiate the 'change' when the break-up begins. I just can't forget the memories by allowing myself to be close to the person.
But, I would still be a friend, but not a very close one. | |
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| drsparkle314 (163) | 3 months ago | Their new love never gets jealous because there's nothing to be jealous of... but it's a really complicated situation wherein there are reasons beyond reasons... | |
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| 6. irishmist (1679) | 1 month ago |  I have a hard time moving on. I was married, but my husband passed away 0 years ago, since then I have had a few serious relationships, and some that I just didn't click with at all. I don't make a habit of trying to move on quickly, I just take it as it comes. but I have noticed that I wait at least 6 months or so. The kids and younger adults today I find just jump in and out of relationships.
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| laydee (1456) | 1 month ago | Oh that's really sad. I don't really know the feeling because I never been there (and knock on woods I'd experience that) but if losing someone you love is already hard how much more if it's death.
Anyhow, it's really tough for people to move on with that type of situation, there's really no one who could replace the one you loved but I guess the best thing we should do about it is by not looking. Just let it flow and try the best that we can not to compare that someone who'd come with the past. It's good to always think that he's happier where he is at and he wants you to be happy too.
Yeah, I guess kids and young adults are so much detached with emotions right now that it's ok for them to change partners anytime. That's their generation, we can't do anything about it. Let's just hope that our kids wouldn't belong to that mentality.
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