relationship
@triptadasgupta (900)
India
May 23, 2008 9:37pm CST
well friends....my friend has discovered that her husbands been unfaithful with one of her closest friendand the past few days have been a horrendous mixture of rows,cries and recriminations.he says that he still loves her but she feels that she should walk away from her.Is there any hope for my friend...or should she take the firm step.Please give your ivaluable view so that their marriage can be saved.
thanx in advance....
have a nice day............
3 responses
@tarachand (3895)
• India
24 May 08
It all depends on the situation. How long have they been together-the husband and wife? Were they happy before the husband cheated? Was it a one off instance that happened in the heat of the moment, or was he regularly cheating with the friend or other women?
Is she sure that the husband will not cheat, or even if e does, she will not react badly, maybe turn a bind eye? Would her husband forget it, if she was the one who transgressed?
Does your friend value the relationship, and does she feel that the husband too thinks similarly?
Are there other people involved who could be effected by the change in the relationship- this could children, parents, etc.
Your friend has to weigh many factors and then take a decision whether she wants to continue. It is something that she will be the best person to judge about.
@stormeetigress (487)
• United States
24 May 08
I agree with you, there are many underlying factors in a marriage that must be weighed before one totally decides what to do. Perhaps she could spend a few days or possibly more at a family members or even a friend's house to think everything through with a clear head!
@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
24 May 08
Your friend needs to talk to her husband and ask him if he is through with his affair, if she takes him back, will he change and think of his family and no one else?
if his husband is sincere and will change for them, i dont see any problems on why she should not take him back.
but if the husband is open not to be dictated... and does not seem to have been sorry for what he did... i think it is just right for her to walk away from that marriage. your friend does not need to be treated badly, the fact that he disrespected her for having an affair and is not a bit sorry about it should already send her the chills! she does not deserve such a man.
